Looking back in hindsight..

[BabyDragon]

Hi ladies... Sorry, I didn't know there was this section on BnB. I posted this in miscarriage support, but I'm reposting it here in hopes of getting some answers as I'm feeling anxious as that.... Time... Is almost here with my current bean....


My first pregnancy was in January. I was on BCP and obviously wasn't trying to conceive....

When I found out at 6+ weeks I was pregnant, I was scared and cried for two whole days... But then I realized there was nothing I wanted more in life then a baby.... And never felt more connected to anyone in my entire life...

It was my first pregnancy, hence I was totally inexperience....

At 8+ week, I got to see my little bean with a heart beat and all....

I had no spotting, no bleeding, no cramps.

Just a week after I got to see my baby's heart beating... I got to see a black hole that once was my baby...

I was completely in shock, utterly devastated and totally destroyed...

Looking back in hindsight though.. I guess all the symptoms of the inevitable were always there... I just chose to be really 'optimistic' about them... And in a way, I felt blindsided when all was said and done.

Had I known how very real a lost was, and my own symptoms... i'm thinking.. Perhaps I wouldn't have been so unprepared for my lost?

I had no morning sickness, my hcg at 7+3 was barely at 5100, my progesterone was at 12 and declining, my baby at my 8+4 measured only at 7+2....

What were your symptoms of a 'threatened miscarriage' that you totally missed?

Thank you....

I guess I'm dying to know because I am pregnant again now...and it's slowly creeping up to the time I lost my last one, and it's tearing me apart inside as I'm fighting depression..... I can't even connect with my bean now in fear of a repeat.....

 

[Cata]

Hi hun,

I'm very sorry for your loss

Well the only symptom I had in every single miscarriage was cramping and bleeding that got worse and ended up in mc. Then cramping I also had this pregnancy and it seems to be pretty normal.

I an tell you that lack of pregnancy symptoms has nothing to do with the viability of a pregnancy. I am now 22+ weeks pregnant and this has been my easiest pregnancy no morning sickness, no sore boobs... nothing, at it was hard to believe that this was really happening and it was hard also to bond with my LO because of my previous mcs and lack of symptoms. But you must allow yourself to heal, don't feel bad because you are sad, it is completely normal and it will pass before you know it your baby will start kicking you and then happiness will take over your life

In my case the only thing I needed and was never given was progesterone suplements, it is hard to know that so much suffering could have been avoided if they would have only taken the time to check my progesterone. Now I am on progesterone and also a baby aspirin a day... so far is going great

Have faith, the scary part will soon pass and you will get to bond with your bean and you will enjoy your pregnancy hun

I wish you very happy and healthy 9 months