Looking for TTC #1 Support!

QueenCheshire

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Hello there!

I've been lurking on this website for quite some time and I finally decided to jump in since you all seem so supportive and loving which is definitely something I could use a lot of these days.

Unfortunately the people closest to me all have things going on in their own lives and as much as I want to reach out to them to talk to them I always end up lending an ear to their problems, a shoulder to cry on and love/support. Haha, I'm a Pisces and ENFJ so it...well, it's just who I am and I have no problem doing it, in fact it makes me happy to provide relief and love to those I care about. However, it leaves me without someone to vent to/emote with and just talk to about my TTC problems so...here I am!

So, a little about me and my TTC story...

I'm 30 (DH is 33), we've been together for 10 years (married for 7). We'd been talking about trying for a few years but we both wanted to lose a bit of weight first. As most of you know, life gets in the way of plans lol so after a time I decided just to go for it and surprise him by removing my copper IUD (had it in for 5.5 years) with the hopes I'd get pregnant soon and it'd be a complete and happy surprise to him (before you freak out, haha, that's not something he would have been angry about, like I said, we'd been talking about getting excited on having kids soon, so he was 100% on board).

I had it removed at the end of January 2016 but after 3 months of no luck I finally told him (no worries, he ruffled my hair and said: "You silly woman, why didn't you TELL me so I could be there for you!")

So, we continued trying with different methods of help. I've tried temping, I've tried ovulation sticks (both digital and regular), I've tried DTD every other day/every day/a couple times a day, I've tried checking CM, CP, I've even tried not doing any of it at all and just letting nature take it's course.

Last month I made an appointment with my OB (since she recommended coming in after the 6 month mark to do blood work, but I waited). She did bloodwork during my ovulation, during menses, as well as an ultrasound to check my ovaries/uterus and a sperm analysis for DH.

All of the tests came back fine (DH even came back with 5X as much sperm count as the average male, so that definitely made his day!) except my TSH levels. I should explain, I have an auto-immune disease called Hashimoto's Thyroiditis which basically means my body tries to kill my thyroid but my disease has been in remission for a few years (I take natural supplements/vitamins), however stress/ttc seems to have raised my TSH a bit. As of this past bloodwork it's at 4.52. It SHOULD be between 0.3-3.0 and optimally 0.3-1.0 for a super healthy pregnancy with no complications in that arena. 4.52 isn't super high, in fact it's still considered close to normal on some averages but I know I should lower it so I've taken steps to try to do so. My OB doesn't seem to think it's too much a concern though since it's not way out of control.

I have, however, been under a LOT of stress lately, mostly to do with DH who seems to being through some personal stuff. He's been in a funk and as much as I've tried to help I can't seem to so he really hasn't been there to support me at all.

So here I am, going on 10 months with no luck for #1. Not gonna lie, it's been REALLY hard to be optimistic and strong especially with all the mommas preggo at my job, being around all the kids and all my friends/family getting pregnant it seems every week. I'm happy for everyone but at the moment I have no one to talk to, as I said. My bosses think I'm being silly, DH has his own problems, my Mom has so much on her plate and my best friend lives in a different states and is going through stuff of her own...it's been...well frustrating.

So, I would welcome any reply of any sort! Whether you'd like to be TTC buddies, need someone to talk to about these frustrations as well, or just want to chitchat about crazy TTC symptoms, join me!

TL:DR - TTC #1 for 10 months...going nuts.
 
I also forgot to add I know I had at least one CP! I POAS and got a faint positive for four days in a row (starting my period on the 3rd day), then BFNs afterward.
 
Hey there!!

I have been TTC since April of this year, and I completely understand your frustrations!! It's funny that you mention not telling your DH about getting your IUD removed because I was in the same situation a few months back, but when I finally told him about it, his response was similar to your husband's.

After having my Mirena removed I figured trying to get pregnant would be a piece of cake because my mother got pregnant at the drop of a hat. She actually had me at 16, so obviously, she wasn't even trying. With my brother, she got pregnant the same month after stopping her birth control, after 11 years of being on it!! (I'm quite envious)

Anyways, I unfortunately, didn't have the same luck she did. After having my Mirena out for 5 months and only having 2 periods, I knew something had to be wrong. Sure enough, after a few blood test and an ultrasound I was diagnosed with Polycystic Ovarian Syndrome (PCOS) and I was crushed, to say the least!! My GYN told me I wasn't ovulating, and without an egg, there's clearly no chance of conceiving.

I was referred to a fertility specialist and was prescribed Femara to induce ovulation and this was my first month taking it. I got a positive OPK this month on CD 19 (I am now CD 25) so hopefully I ovulated!! Even If I didn't successfully conceive this month, at least I will know if I ovulated or not depending on if AF shows up in a timely fashion! I'm hoping that if the Femara can get me to ovulate, then I will have the same chance of a BFP as any fertile woman.

So I wish you luck during this crazy journey and I want you to know you're not alone. Hopefully we will both find the light at the end of the tunnel sooner, rather than later. <3

-Hannah

P.S.
Your profile picture is absolutely adorable, I love kitties :)
 
So sorry to hear about the difficulties you have been having! Hashimotos is such a horrible thing. I am glad to hear you did have it under control for a while and I hope you can achieve that again but man is that difficult! I hope you can find support here! There is also a TTC 30+ board as well if you are interested in looking there for other people's posts too. Either way, I hope you can find support and find stress relief! Baby dust to you!
 

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