Lost Baby at 6 Weeks. D&C Friday. Some questions including, Is next egg OK?

[UnkleKev]

Hello, I'm writing for my wife.

We conceived on Christmas 2014 (or so we believe) and were excited to share the news of our baby.

But... on the 6th week check, our OB said he couldn't see a heartbeat and that most likely, it wasn't going to make it. We checked again at 7 weeks and there was no change.

After much thinking... this Friday my wife will undergo a D&C. As much as it hurts to know we are "losing everything" this time around, we felt it was the right thing to do.

For those who have gone through a D&C, how was the procedure? Does it take all day to recover?

Also, our OB said that the reason for MC was probably because of the chromosomes not lining up properly and as a result, there was an extra chromosome that didn't allow for the baby to grow.

He said that we should wait a while because the hormone levels might not "produce a good egg" right after. Has anyone heard of this?

And in closing, I'm a pretty tough guy but nothing hurt more in my life than to realize our first baby wasn't going to make it. Nothing can compare to a mother suffering a MC but I wanted to let you know it is difficult for us guys too...

 

[Blu10]

Hi im so sorry for your loss. My baby died at 7-8weeks and I had a D&C on friday. The procedure was over relatively quickly with minimal bleeding. I had cramps for two days and awful trapped gas as a side effect of anaesthetic. I had a rough day yesterday as my hormone levels dropped and felt tearful but physically i was ok after 48 hours.
Ive been told we can try again after one period. Wish your wife luck for friday x

 

[bernie86]

Im so sorry for both you and your wifes loss. It's great that you are here asking these questions to help her through. I had a D&C after a loss at 9 weeks discovered at 10. My Baby also stopped developing due to chromosomal issue that was later discovered with testing that was done on him. The D&C went well and I was back to work the following day only because i sit at a desk and work with family. I definitely needed the whole day to rest both physically and emotionally. The procedure its self is not as bad as you both might be worrying about. she will only remember being admitted and preped and then the recovery room. the pain is bearable, they prescribed Norco for me and I took it for 2 days after because I couldnt handle pain like I usually can. As for the horomones not good for the next healthy egg, I never heard that but most dr's want ppl to wait at least one cycle. hope all goes well and I'll be sending prayers your way

 

[AngelOb]

I had my D&C yesterday after losing the pregnancy at 7w2d also most likely due to a chromosomal issue. I feel ok today just some slight cramping and have a feeling I'll be fine tomorrow. I was also given norco for the pain. It was a quick procedure and I just remember being prepped and waking up in recovery.

It might take a small amount of time for hormones to go back to normal but we were told we were fine to try after one normal cycle. I'm sorry for your loss, it's never easy.

 

[UnkleKev]

Wife went through the procedure, her first surgery in her life and she was quite nervous.

In the end, there were no issues and she hadn't even realized it happened. When she was in the recovery room she thought she had just moved to another room and nothing was done.

Some mild pain and she's on antibiotics just in case of infection.

OBGYN said wait 2 cycles... but we're anxious to try again. We'll just let nature take its course.

 

[Blu10]

Good luck Unklekev, wishing your wife a speedy recovery x

 

[Natnee]

I had a mc at 6 weeks, although didn't have a d&c. I was told to wait 1 cycle, although we have just started trying again in the new year.

i've never heard or read about hormones and 'good eggs' and I did a fair bit of digging about online when I had the mc. From what I could make out, they say wait a cycle just so it's easier to date the next pregnancy! I think probably not a bad idea to wait a cycle just to let things settle down though.

 

[sweetmere]

I had a d&c at 12 weeks and was told at my 2wk checkup to wait one month, which was halfway through my first cycle. So I started my period and we are already trying, he said it was okay.

I've NEVER heard what your doctor said. We had a natural loss at 6 weeks in July and they told me I could try right away as soon as the test was negative. And they said I could try again soon after this loss. After 2 in a row if hat was true I'm sure he would have told me to wait. My sister in law had a d&c at 9 weeks with her first pregnancy and also got pregnant again immediately and that kid just turned 7. Hope that helps!

 

[UnkleKev]

2 day later... our night last night was a tough one.

She has cramps that felt like contractions and she didn't sleep at all. Around 4AM, she went to pee and a lot of blood (not thick - a watery kind) was on her padding and in the toilet too.

I called the Dr this morning and he said this was pretty normal but to come in anyways for a check up.

She says she feels ok now. No more contraction feelings and we are going in tomorrow to the doc. From what I've read on the internet, others have had similar pains 2 days later, so I'm not too worried.

She's taking antibiotics just to make sure there's no infection and she takes ibuprofen for the pain.

Also, one side effect... she's constipated. Which shouldn't be the case....

 

[AngelOb]

The constipation is from the pain medication not from the d&c, just have her take colace for the next few days or some type of fiber pill and that should help

 

[UnkleKev]

My wife seems ok now.

No pain since yesterday morning.

I heard that it was common to expel blood clots as well after a D&C and that happened yesterday too.

She took some natural softeners so the constipation, for a lack of a better term, was eliminated.

We'll check back in in a week 1/2 after our Dr follow up.

Now it is a waiting game to TTC again.... and waiting stinks....

 

[Natnee]

Glad to hear she is feeling a bit better now! xxx

 

[UnkleKev]

Went to OBGYN and wife's uterus is normal. Some scarring which should make its way out of her body in due time.

She has a ovarian cyst and she is taking birth control to help get rid of it. I heard that it also normalizes the body as well so she can get on her normal cycle.

Still some bleeding but I heard that's normal as well.

 

[AnnieMac2]

I'm glad she's feeling well. And I'm sorry you had to go through this. I had a d&c last week and can definitely commiserate on the constant waiting to move on and worrying if what's happening is normal. Good luck to you.