Lost my focus... how do I get it back?

[stardust599]

Throughout this pregnancy I have felt calm and confident about the birth and have also felt it is instinctive and inbuilt and have felt a real urge and excitement about it.

Now I don't know what's happened but I feel frightened and apprehensive and I have lost my belief that I can have a natural, calm, active birth and all I can picture now is a painful, medicalised birth I have tried reading my plans for the birth and reading some birth stories but I just can't get my focus back. I have been listening to some hypnobirthing CDs but they seem to be making it worse and I don't like them.

I need some inspiration to get me back in the mindset!

 

[TattiesMum]

I think the trick is to stop over thinking things Hon - perhaps lose yourself in a good book (one that doesn't involve childbirth lol) or in planning the nursery, making bits for the baby (perhaps try knitting or a bit of sewing?), make up a 'Big Sister' box for your daughter maybe?

It sounds trite but focusing on what comes after the birth itself might be just what you need to distract yourself

 

[stardust599]

Think you are right I am just going to take a break for a few days. I am exhausted but can't stop planning things in my head! Going to stop looking at birth/pregnancy things for a bit and take a step back.

A big sister box is a great idea. LO has taken a huge mental jump the past 2 weeks and is now very much a little girl instead of a baby - she even argues with me

 

[TattiesMum]

she even argues with me

LOL! ... The bad news is that once they start arguing with you it never stops

 

[madasa]

Definitely take a mental break. Let your monkey do it! There are some really lovely inspiring videos on Youtube, they might help?