Lost twin, still pg?? Very confused :-(

[bumpybev]

Hi Ladies. Newbie here desperately trying to make some sense out of what is happening to me.

I must have conceived late Nov but didn't realise this until end Jan when I was around 9 wks. Went for scan and they said there were some problems. Mentioned spina bifda and wanted to do some more tests and another ultrasound as they were struggling to see a clear pic due to my high BMI and "some tissue" in the way of the scan. Also said I seemed to have some cysts. Scan booked, I then started bleeding heavily around the 11/12 wk mark and went in when I started passing clots.

Waiting in the hospital, I started to get what felt like contractions and passed a load of clots and blood. The doctor examined me and said it was a miscarriage. They had a look on the ultrasound and saw nothing and advised me to have a d&c/d&e? I was a bit out of it and they took me in for a procedure which they said afterwards wasn't really a d&c as they saw that enough "matter" had passed and my cervix had closed again.

They left it at that and I continued to have strange feelings but nothing more than people report on miscarriage boards - strange bleeding, still pg symptoms etc. but just tried to get on with it. Today I've been back in for a scan to check all's well as I've had some mpain and they tell me I'm still pg, measuring on the small side of 15-18wks???? Gobsmacked....

They have said it could have been a twin hiding behind what looks like a cyst and the "matter" that passed was the other twin. However, it seems this twin is the one they saw on the ultrasound which they are suspecting has probs so I'm now waiting for more tests and they've told me the likelihood of mc is high as my cervix already opened.

They also advised the tests would have to be hurried up and did I want to go private as my options would be limited after 20 wks?? What options??

I'm so confused, can't believe or understand anything I'm being told and am desperate for some advice. Please help x

 

[smartie]

I'm really sorry that you are having to go through this

 

[lou1979]

Oh jesus huni

i dont know what to say..

i have everything crossed that the remaining twin will be ok xxxxx

 

[mazza2003]

I am thinking of you. Please let us know how you get on.XXX

 

[NickyT75]

Oh no this sounds terrible babe

I cant imagine what you must be going through

I hope things work out for you xx

 

[rachjim98]

Sorry for your loss and this confusing time. Hope all is well with the baby you still have. xoxox

 

[bumpybev]

Thank you all. I feel very 'd.

Cant find a lot of info about all this and my head is in such a funny place right now. Thought I was dealing well with the mc and starting to sort out my feelings and move forward and now it's all thrown into turmoil.

I'm so self absorbed with this that I didn't think about this being the place to ask for advice on where I'm at as I've still got one precious bean in there so I'm very sorry if I've offended anyone

 

[dan-o]

Goodness, so sorry to hear you are in limbo, it's just the worst feeling.

Praying all will be ok with the remaining twin

 

[jen35]

You poor luv, I hope you get answers quickly

Good luck for the wee one you have growing, I'll be thinking of you

 

[Coffee]

Oh hun, you sound to be in an incredibly awful position.

When they said 'options' i wonder if they mean the usual checks they do for Downs etc are usually done earlier and if anything was wrong it would be awkward to have a termination after 20wks (if that is what you wanted)??

I just really wanted to post though and let you know that this happened to a friend of mine - she was pg with twins and lost one and went on to have a normal pregnancy with the other one, so fingers crossed this will be the same for you.

 

[Genna]

Hey, hun My sister in law had a similar thing happen to her. She was pregnant and had a miscarriage but her period never came again so when they were running tests, they found she was still pregnant. She had been pregnant with twins, lost one (didnt try again as she was waiting for AF to show) but the other one remained. She continued on with a normal pregnancy and now my niece is 14 months old. I hope you find some answers! Best of luck and blessings to you

 

[Jkelmum]

If your baby is ok cant u ask for a cervical stitch ? xxx

 

[Aidedhoney]

Sorry to hear what your going through, Have you tried talking to your GP i know there will be 100 questions going through your head at the momement.

A cervical stitch could be an option this would stop your cervix opening.

Hope things go ok xxxx

 

[maddiwatts19]

x

 

[DiddyDons]

I am so sorry to hear this... It must be so hard for you I hope baby will be ok!

Donna xxx

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[wishing4bub#3]

Hi i thought i would tell you about my twins.
My beautiful (but evil) 7 yo dd was a twin i lost the twin at 12 weeks. i had a little spotting but i felt horrid. the rest of the pregnancy was fine except her being breech.
With DD 2 they had done blood tets and found i am missing a folate gene, so i was high risk for cystic fibrosis as well as spina bifida. i had an extra ultrasound and everything was fine. sometimes they get a glimpse of somthing on a scan and if unsure they will give you the worse case option just in case.
I hope its not the case for you and you bub
good luck i have my fingers crossed for you.

 

[moonmama]

I'm so sorry to hear what your going through. Your emotions must be all over the place
xxx

 

[soulsister]

Hi

I hope that everything works out well for you hun - I'm sure your little bean will be fine.

Just from experience, if they are worried about spina bifida they will run blood tests, maybe offer you an amnio (up to you if you want to have it done). If heaven forbid, they did find something wrong with baby that would mean the pregnancy may not be viable or baby may have major problems that would make life very hard, then after 20 weeks you are only given the option to deliver the baby via normal labour, and not a d&c/d&e.

I am sure everything will be fine for you, but make sure you ask the doctors for as much information as you need. deep breathes hon......and look after that little one in there.

L x

 

[Naya69]

iam so sorry your going through this i do hope the other lo sticks i will be praying for you please let us know how u go on would love a happy ending xx

 

[wishing4bub#3]

hi i was just wondering how you are?