Lost....

[mindy1600]

Hi! My name is Mindy and I am 28 years old. I have been with my hubsand for 4 years now. This is my first time posting here... I have been to this site many times. I just recently m/c at about 2 months. My husband and I had been trying. It would have been our first...Sorry, getting emotional here. I knew before I even started bleeding that we were losing the baby, because I had been getting really bad lower back pain (left side). Finally, I such severe back pain that I was down on the ground crying. About an hour later I started to pass tissue and then started to bleed heavily. I called my doctor and she wanted to do a D&C, but I just wanted to forget the whole ordeal. Two days later my breast lost tenderness and actually went down. Then my sense of smell and craving slowed down. I guess I am putting all this down because it's still hard to believe. I try talking to other people, but I am not getting the answer I am looking for. I don't know exactly what I am looking for. I just find myself crying, and looking for what I could have done differently. My friends and family tell me that alot of women go through this and then go on to have a healthy baby, but I am not so sure anymore. This was my third m/c; as well as the farthest along. I hope someone will understand and be able to help me figure all this out...
I handled the other two m/c alot better than I am this time....

 

[Zoya]

Hi Mindy

I am so sorry for your loss and understand you very well.I know how difficult it is and frenkly speaking I am afraid of your post as I had my 2nd mc 3 weeks ago and I was trying to convence myself that 2 times is more then enough and it will not gonna to heppan again for 3rd time.............I am very very scared to being pg...............I also have same conditions like you except I experienced 2 mc.......me 27/3.5yr together with my hubby.............waiting for our first child.............
I can only say that stay on posiive side........and take some rest and try to keep yourself busy.......I know its not easy.......I spend 8-9 hrs in the office still I have all these thoughts in my mind all the time...............

I just hope that you recover soon from all this and can have a happy morning again ....as it can't be always dark night...........so make yourself strong.....I wish you a good health and best of luck for next time.
Cheers

 

[biteable]

I didnt want to read and run so just want to say sorry for your loss,your in my thoughts,3rd time lucky hun xx

 

[buffycat]

i wish i could understand, but i imagine that 3 mcs is so much worse than 1 (i have had 1)........i am so sorry for your losses though...

take care....luv & hugs

 

[superp123]

I'm so sorry for your loss. I cannot give you any answers but having been there twice, I know how you're feeling. It makes it harder when friends and family insist that people do this all the time and go on to have healthy babies. All be it true, its not easy to hear now. The truth is, it's raw, and it SUCKS and here we are.
Later on, you can work on slowly gaining that optimism, but for now just take care. Take some time and lean on the people you love.
Here if you need to chat.
Loads of
P

 

[Loo]

I am sorry to hear of your loss. I have had one mc and that was heartbreaking enough...so I can only imagine your pain.

When you feel ready, go and see your GP. 3 miscarriages in a row means your doctor will want to refer you to a specialist to see if they can discover any answers for you.

 

[x_Rainbow_x]

hey i no how u feel... iv had 4 m/c all at the same time but my body carried longer the last time. im undergoing test which are taking a long time to get an answer... it hurts i no that very well.
if u ever need 2 chat just shout :0
xx

 

[mindy1600]

Thank you for all your support. It does feel great to talk with others that know how I am feeling. I just feel like my heart is breaking and my husband is having a difficult time with this as well. We need prayer that we keep the communication going and that neither one of us shuts down, cause we're close to breaking. Emotionally; we have the best relationship. All our friends are jealous of us because we are so great together and don't fight I love love my husband so much and keep fearing that he looks at me differently....

 

[Loo]

Oh Mindy1600....

my heart goes out to you. If its any consolation, we found it hard too in the first few weeks, but now, a few months down the line, I can honestly say its brought me and my husband closer together.

The doctor said some of the baby's cells would have already been reabsorbed in to me before I eventually miscarried. Thats made us feel like the LO will always be a part of me. And so my husband does look at me differently - but its cos he looks at me with love for the baby as well as me. So our bond is closer.

Just be open with each other and give each other time and realise people grieve in diferent ways.

Lots of love
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