M/C options

[Shazzy]

Hey ladies i posted a few day ago about m "possible' blighted ovum. Well after three scan its now official.

I was given three choices, one, to wait it out, two, to take a tablet and induce the m/c and three... d&c. Ive taken option 2 and took the tablets. Ive not used them yet, Scared as hell. My first m/c was at 6 week, bit of cramping and bleeding but nothing i did not handle. Im now 11weeks what can i expect now?

Feeling very sorry for myself, and undecided.

 

[Omi]

im so sorry sweetheart

To be prefectly honest it would be very difficult for me to venture an answer as we're all different.

Ive had horrendous pains with both mc's although ive opted for a d&c with both. Being in so much pain ( 1 1/2 minute contractions one minute apart) and the reality i could possibly see the baby ( and then worrying what to do with it) was simply too much for me to worry about at the time.

but- thats just me. You could have the same again or not. If you find you soak a pad in an hour call epau or go to a&e. That would be my main advice. You shouldnt have to suffer more than we already do and you wanna stay safe.

If you find the pain and bleading is bearable- a hot water bottle and some paracetomol ( co-codamol even ) will do the trick.

The pills should losen your cervix and can ,and do very often make you cramp uncomfortably, however, as i stated above, if its bearable then you will be ok.

Lots of tlc and some cuddles dont go amiss either

Take good care, hun, whatever you do!

, Omi xxx

 

[moomoo]

I would suggest after having a excruciatingly (sp?) painful natural m/c at 11 weeks, i would have taken the d & c route...but i wasnt given any option in the matter. I just had to go home and suffer..and as omi said above, they were contractions with barely time in between!!!

If you need to, go to a&e where they can give you proper pain relief if you need.

Sorry you have had to go through this xx

If you go to "my miscarriage story" you will find lots of peoples accounts of what happened. xx

 

[Orange lady]

Hi there
It's so hard to say what to do, as everyone is different.
I didn't have the option to miscarry naturally as my body failed to realise that my baby had died (at 8 weeks). But having thought about it, going through that at home and flushing my peanut down the loo makes me cringe. I had ERPC (D&C). Actually it was fine. A day procedure and after just a small amount of bleeding (like a regular period for about a week) my body seems to be returning to normal pretty fast.
I hope all goes well for you whatever you decide and take care of yourself
x

 

[MrsJD]

When I had my MMC in July (9 weeks) I opted for the DnC but regretted it afterwards. The reason being is my baby was removed from me, my body still thought I was pregnant (if that makes sense). Apparently if you take the tablets then your body is rejecting the baby and hormones.

I'm now 7 weeks pregnant and tomorrow is D day for me again. If it is another MMC I will not be having a DnC

Sorry for your loss.

XXX

 

[keepingfaith]

So sorry for your loss. I have had all 3. For my first m/c I opted for the tablets which I had to use twice to cause any contractions. I had what I thought was a complete miscarriage, but it turns out that alot of tissue was still left and I had to have a D&C. The procedure itself was quick and relatively painless. The second m/c was natural. I thought that was much better than the D&C and not as painful as it was with the medication. It is very much a personal preference. It was very very hard emotionally to see the sac with the natural miscarriage.

What ever you do decide, I wish you the best of luck.

 

[JASMAK]

Part of me was glad I went natural with all of mine, but, during the m/c, another part of me wished I took a D&C. It is painful, but, in a weird way, I liked that. I liked that I was feeling something. It was like a funeral, and the pain was me saying goodbye. But, it is alot quicker to just get it over with. But, there is risks involved. Good luck with whatever you decide. I am so sorry for your loss.

 

[Wishfull]

Hello sweetie so so sorry you have to even go through this.

This may be tmi!! And sorry if i offend anyone. Just want to try and help.

I was 11 weeks when i natrually miscarried. When i started bleeding i couldnt really leave the loo. It stared off like thick blood passing with every conrtaction i had to breath it out. I then went back to bed but was at the loo every 2 mins. I was passing very large clots it wasnt painfull passing the "tissue" but my stomck was in so much pain. The bleeding became less and less for a few hours and i thought it was over. Then a few hours later i was in shocking pain and passing lots of blood more watery than before. This went on for about an hour. Then i passed 1 really large clot and after that i could finally get to bed to rest. The bleeding still soaked my pad every 2 hours or so but the worst was over. I bled then for another 2 weeks with the bleeding gradually getting less and less.

You may have a different exprerience sweetie. As you have tablets it may be alot easyier for you. Though if you do feel in too much pain or that the bleeding is too much or you feel a fever go to a&e.

So sorry for you darling. Take care.

xxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

 

[tickley]

hi im so sorry for your loss.
i know how you feel along with all of the other ladies on here.
i had a mmc in dec, went for a scan to see how far on i was (8+3wks)and there was no heartbeat, we were so devestated, i was given the 3 options like you and i decided on the tablets, i just wanted things to happen asap, i was given the tablet that day, and had to go back into hospital two days later for the rest of the tablets. i would of had the d&c but they told me i wasn't an urgent case.
when things stared happening it was like heavy bleeding (had to change every hour), then eventually it happened, the bleeding got easier and within 10 days it had stopped. i had very little pain (but everyone is different).

i hope this helps you
take care x

 

[Rumpskin]

I know the options are not nice sweety but I personally would go for the d&c route.

I have not had the tablets before but did not like the sound of them.

I had a completed m/c at 9 weeks which was painful enough without painrelief.

I had a missed m/c over 2 months ago at 12 weeks (LO had died 4 weeks before). I lost so much blood and I was in so much pain, I called the ambulance in the end and had gas and air and morphone. I passed LO about 5 hours later (2 hrs before d&C was scheduled).

I dont want to frighten you but give you facts instead.

I wish you all the best xxx

 

[MrsJD]

Said I wouldn't get a DnC again however, after my bad news today i'm booked in next friday for one. I was so adament I wouldn't but can't cope so decided to do it again.

X

 

[Orange lady]

I'm sure it'll go smoothly for you.
Take care and feel better soon
xx

 

[vickielm]

I dont mean tobe blunt or offend anyone, just hurting so saying it how it is!

I have never had a miscarriage before now so i dont know what to advise. Since Christmas eve when i found out that my babies had no heartbeats, i decided to wait and see if it happened naturally or the babies by miracle decided to grow.

I have also found out today that they passed away at 6 weeks - between 3 and 4 weeks ago!

I always said that i would not interveine with fate and i would let nature take its course, but after waiting since Christmas eve, i cant wait any longer. I never really discussed it with my partner as although we knew the outcome, did not want to discuss it. But after speaking to the lady at the EPU this morning, we decided for the D+C. Not only the waiting but also because i dont think i could also face seeing my babs be flushed down the toilet like goldfish.

We also opted for the D+C as they fetus can be tested to see if they can determine what caused the MMC. With a natural MC i am not sure if this is possible.

And to be frank i just want to block all of this pain out and try to forget about it, as i am a 'what if?' 'what but?' person and always regret decisions i make (even deciding what sandwich to have for dinner!). I dont know what i am going on about now ----- so i will end my reply here.

really sorry for everyones loss, i know how much it hurts.

Vik

 

[Shazzy]

Took the tablet on wednesday, only to have nothing happen (no bleeding just a small amount of spotting then nothing) except the worst cramping ive ever had, vomiting and diarreah. i thought i was going to die. I did not take a next dose, no ways was i doing that over again. Ive decided to have a d&c done on monday. My body is not ready to let go but i am. its been four weeks since i first saw the empty sac on the screen and i need to move on emotionaly. Scared out my wits about the d&c though.

Thanks again for your advice and support.

 

[Drazic<3]

Im so sorry for your loss. I went natural, but I didnt really have a choice. I think it was the best thing in the end as all the hormones were gone from my body too, but everything is subjective hunny, and you need to do what is right for you.

Im sorry to hear it was so hard, Thinking of you

 

[Shazzy]

Just to show our bodys have other plans ive started to bleed today . D&C has been canceled. Natural miscarriage and will have a ultrasound to make sure everything has gone well.

Thanks once more.

 

[honey08]

i had a dnc,this was defo the best choice for me, like ur self....although the baby had died at 5wk i went to 11wk till i knew, the sac was 11wk in size still so its still a lot to pass naturally i had a dnc, i was out the same day....a little discomfort and bleeding but nothing ive read wot some go thro when they mc naturally , wot ever ur choice hun.... i wud recommend a dnc

 

[Shazzy]

Well after going natural i landed up having a d&c. after bleeding heavy and terrible pain my gynea scanned me to see how far the m/c has gone, (I was sure that it was finished) only to be told i was halfway. I then opted for a d&c as i could not spend another night with no sleep and pain. The d&c was painless and glad this ordeal is over.

 

[wantababybump]

So sorry for your loss.
I opted for the d&c the second time but the first one I had a natural m/c and was quite painful and had to have the doctor to help get the fetus out as it was stuck in my cervix (because its tilted). I found out right away with my second LO that she didnt have a heartbeat so before any bleeding or pain could start I went for the d&c. They told me it usually takes a few weeks to actually start bleeding and for your body to recognize you arent pregnant so if I had of done it naturally I would have been waiting a while and just emotionally couldnt deal with that. Again, very sorry for your loss...we are here if you need us. Huge xx

 

[MrsJD]

Well after going natural i landed up having a d&c. after bleeding heavy and terrible pain my gynea scanned me to see how far the m/c has gone, (I was sure that it was finished) only to be told i was halfway. I then opted for a d&c as i could not spend another night with no sleep and pain. The d&c was painless and glad this ordeal is over.

Oh Shazzy what a nightmare for you

XXX