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Mediation
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My OH went with his ex when they were having issues with contact. She refused to sit in the same room with him, and just ranted on and on at the mediator for 55 minutes of the hour long session ](/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/eusa_wall.gif "Brick wall ](*,)")
In the end, the mediator came in to speak to my OH, apologised, and told him he couldn't see a way forward as she was refusing to let him get a word in. 
I've a couple of friends who have found it really helpful though, and it can be a way of avoiding court. You're not obliged to go though, and nor are you obliged to reach an agreement. Good luck, whatever you decide
In the end, the mediator came in to speak to my OH, apologised, and told him he couldn't see a way forward as she was refusing to let him get a word in. I've a couple of friends who have found it really helpful though, and it can be a way of avoiding court. You're not obliged to go though, and nor are you obliged to reach an agreement. Good luck, whatever you decide
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My OH went with his ex when they were having issues with contact. She refused to sit in the same room with him, and just ranted on and on at the mediator for 55 minutes of the hour long session
I've a couple of friends who have found it really helpful though, and it can be a way of avoiding court. You're not obliged to go though, and nor are you obliged to reach an agreement. Good luck, whatever you decide
Sorry to highjack this thread - are you saying that if a letter landed on my doorstep asking me to go to a mediation I could actually say no and nothing would come of it?
In reply to the thread - my friend went a few times with her ex husband and after many sessions they came to an agreement. Works for them. I can see how it wouldn't work if both parties were not willing to compromise. I have a lot ogf things I WOULD NOT compromise on if I ever get to this stage with FOB as his friends and lifestyle are not favourable choices I would want my LO to be around. Lots of parties, drink, fighting and smoking.
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The courts apparantly do not look upon it favourable if you refuse to go.
Yes that's correct - you're not obliged to go at all. You have every right to refuse, and even if you do come to an agreement through mediation, it's not necessarily legally binding (though you can get an agreement 'stamped' by the court).
Courts may look on you unfavourably if you refuse mediation, but in cases where you have genuine concerns - about your child's welfare whilst they're in the care of your ex for example - and you're not willing to compromise on that, then IMO mediation would be a waste of time.
Having said that, mediation is a lot cheaper than court, and a long drawn out court case can mean months and months of stress.
