Met with a midwife and talked about TTC, and was pretty unhappy with how it went.

[jessie_m]

So I went for my yearly exam and got my IUD removed last Thursday. I was excited to be with a midwife. I'm in the US so I've only ever had OB/GYN's. But I'm in a new, more naturally-minded city, so I was so excited when I found a midwife.

I mentioned that I had a c-section before with my daughter in 2011 due to failure to progress. I only made it to like 2 1/2 or 3 1/2 cm or something like that. Labored for 24 hours before they said it was c-section time.

My experience in that last hospital and with the c-section was so bad (details in a thread I made a while back with her birth story, if you're interested), I am really set on having a VBAC and a more natural experience.

When I told the midwife that, she said that the hospital she works at doesn't allow VBAC's. Okay.... I asked her my options. She said that she could see me until about 34 weeks and then transfer me to another midwife about 30 minutes away who works somewhere that allows VBAC's, but that she was concerned about it.

She asked about my first baby's size and father's size. I said she was 7 pounds 1 oz, and he was smaller. About 5'9" and 175 pounds. My current fiance is about 6'4" and 280. She said that the baby's size often correlates to the father's size (anyone else heard of this???) and that if I couldn't push out my 7 pound baby, there is no way I could push out a 9 pound baby. So she said she'd monitor me and the baby through my pregnancy and that if the baby got 9 pounds or more then she'd have to schedule the c-section.

This has me confused. I had a c-section because I failed to progress, not because I couldn't push my baby out. I never even made it that far. So how does she know I couldn't push out a bigger baby? She said it's becase of my pelvis size and that my pelvis just wouldn't accommodate a bigger baby. First off.... my best friend is a skeleton. Suuuper tiny girl and pushed out her 2 babies which were over 9 pounds no problem. I'm short, but I'm definitely wider set and on the heavy side. My pelvis is not tiny by any means. Why would I not be able to push out a 9 pound baby? I so very much do not want to voluntarily have another c-section. If I HAVE to have one, fine. But I don't want to just skip to that option.

Also....

Let me pre-face this by saying that I am 100% absolutely not pregnant. I had my copper IUD removed last Thursday, as I said, so there is no chance I'm pregnant.

My period is due today. I know I'm jumping the gun saying AF is a no-show, but I have never in my life been so excited for my period to start. Every time I go to the bathroom I'm hoping there is blood. The sooner it starts, the sooner it ends, and the sooner we can actively start trying. I know my chances are slim to none to get pregnant this first cycle, but I'M SO EXCITED! My period is usually pretty reliable, so I'm hoping it'll be today or tomorrow.

I've had a sinus infection, the flu, and another sinus infection the last 2 weeks, so I'm hoping that's not going to delay my period or anything.

I don't know what the point of this thread is, but I guess I'd appreciate thoughts, advice, words of encouragement, etc.

 

[happycupcake]

I don't think the midwife listened to you. Can you see someone else instead? I can't see any reason for you not to be able to try for a natural birth

 

[jessie_m]

That’s the general feeling I got as well. I’ve only been in this city a few months, so I’m hoping there is another midwife. My concern is that I don’t think there’s another hospital and the one here doesn’t allow VBAC’s. I’ll keep shopping around though. I DO NOT want another c section if I can help it.

 

[Lunabelle]

I wonder if there could be some truth to the pelvic size?

I don't look thin, but I have a small pelvis too. My best friend is skinnier too and wears smaller sizes but she has a wider pelvis.

With my first one the doctor was measuring to see if there would be enough space and she was a little worried about it. In the end i had a natural delivery, but my baby's shoulder got stuck behind the bone when the head was already out. It was an awful experience that could have been very dangerous for the baby and I am wondering too if I will be allowed to have another vaginal delivery or not.

I hope you will find a good doctor or midwife who is experienced in vbac's and you will feel listened to and feel like you can trust their opinions.