MIL LOVES crazy spellings

[nmpjcp2015]

My MIL is super sweet, but she really likes strange spellings of names.

Like Samielle instead of Samuel.

I don't really know how to deter her without hurting her feelings. I also want her to feel a part of the baby process because she will be a large part of the baby's life and one of his/her primary caretakers after I go back to work.

Any advice?

 

[Midnight_Fairy]

Id just ignore her

 

[venapols]

sam-ee-elle
and
sam-you-elle

are not the same name

 

[KylasBaby]

There are plenty of ways you can involve her in the baby without being forced to name YOUR child something you don't want even if you like the name just not the spelling. It's your child you should be 100% comfortable with the name and spelling. The name should be up to you and your partner and you guys alone.

I also agree that the other spelling doesn't even look like it would be the same name.

 

[nmpjcp2015]

Thanks, I think that's what I'll do. My DH is in agreeance with me so I'll just not pay attention to it and let him handle it.

She's really a sweetheart though.

 

[hivechild]

Just smile and say, "That's interesting," then change the topic. Your MIL doesn't get to name your child no matter how much a part of its life she will be.

 

[staralfur]

My MIL was like this too, and I guess to some extent my mom must be as well since I have a 'uniquely' spelled name. But my MIL was the only one who made any suggestions...

She wanted us to name our LO Taime (pronounced Tammy).

We just said "no" and moved on. I don't think it's hurtful to tell someone you don't like crazy spellings. I wouldn't be offended if someone told me they don't like traditional spellings.

 

[venapols]

My MIL was like this too, and I guess to some extent my mom must be as well since I have a 'uniquely' spelled name. But my MIL was the only one who made any suggestions...

She wanted us to name our LO Taime (pronounced Tammy).

We just said "no" and moved on. I don't think it's hurtful to tell someone you don't like crazy spellings. I wouldn't be offended if someone told me they don't like traditional spellings.

Taime is a name, I know someone with that name but for ages before I met them I had only seen it written down and though it was french and pronounced like Tame for some reason, all my friends though it was funny as hell and took the mick out of me for ages because its actually pronounced Ty-me (not Tyme like the herb but like Tiny with an m - 'ty' like you tie your shoes and 'me' like how you would refer to yourself)

 

[staralfur]

My MIL suggested it because it's my DH's name and my name squished together. Just a huge no all around.

 

[bumblebeexo]

Your childs name has nothing at all to do with her, I wouldn't worry what she wants

 

[nmpjcp2015]

My MIL suggested it because it's my DH's name and my name squished together. Just a huge no all around.

yeah, that's kinda where my MIL got the idea for Samielle... my mom was not happy about that.

 

[Lucy139]

sam-ee-elle
and
sam-you-elle

are not the same name

I agree

 

[NicaQ]

Maybe get her involved in the middle name by coming down to a few choices and asking her opinion?

 

[nmpjcp2015]

Maybe get her involved in the middle name by coming down to a few choices and asking her opinion?

That's a good idea. It's simple, but I never considered asking her what she thinks of my ideas.

Honestly. I'm pretty sure I know what I want to name the baby if it's a girl or a boy. I just don't want people's opinions, so I'm not telling them. Lol.

It may change in the next few months though because I'm not due until October!

 

[rabbitheart]

Yeah, I agree with other posters that that spelling doesn't really allow proper pronunciation. To be totally honest, I hate really odd spellings of things just to be funky. We were talking about Jane for girl and though we settled on it being a potential middle name instead my husband's parents were saying they only liked it if it was spelled Jayne. That's not even necessarily bad or weird but I just cringed. I'm a sucker for the old names. If I have a daughter, she is going to have a little old lady name from the early 1900's at the latest darnit! lol

I like the idea that you involve her in the process with pre-chosen names. It's really nice that you're considering her and I think it's really more than you should be expected to do to just involve her in your process. I'm sure she'll appreciate that.

 

[nmpjcp2015]

Yeah, I agree with other posters that that spelling doesn't really allow proper pronunciation. To be totally honest, I hate really odd spellings of things just to be funky. We were talking about Jane for girl and though we settled on it being a potential middle name instead my husband's parents were saying they only liked it if it was spelled Jayne. That's not even necessarily bad or weird but I just cringed. I'm a sucker for the old names. If I have a daughter, she is going to have a little old lady name from the early 1900's at the latest darnit! lol

I like the idea that you involve her in the process with pre-chosen names. It's really nice that you're considering her and I think it's really more than you should be expected to do to just involve her in your process. I'm sure she'll appreciate that.

Me too! I love the name Charlotte. I think it's so cute. And the modern nickname Charly is precious.

Jane is pretty too. I would be afraid people would call her Jay-nee if you spelled it with a "y"

 

[Midnight_Fairy]

I agree just smile and say thats nice and then move on. Id tell her the name is a secret

 

[Caitie44]

I am SO thankful that none of my fILs or family tried to name my baby. People have to be super ballsy to even try!

Though if someone did, I'd tell them if they weren't there to make the baby, they don't get to name the baby.

Of course some parents might pull the whole "but without meeeee there wouldn't be a you and without you there'd be no baaaaaaby!" And in that case, deadpan and say "I'm talking about sex." Make it as uncomfortable as possible. =)