momma help?

[Mrs.MC]

hello ladies! I'm new on here, i'm 18 and pregnant with my first. I'm married to a soldier, and we live at Ft. Lewis Wa. I'm super excited, and so is my husband. But heres the kicker...we still havent told our parents. I'm ok with telling his, there really laid back. But my mom has already said she cant handle that kinda news right now...so i'm super excited to have a baby and start a family with my husband...any ideas on how to break it down for my mom with out giving her a heart attack??

 

[leeanne]

No ideas but the sooner you tell her the better

Congrats on your pregnancy.

 

[kayley_baby]

im not really sure as i didnt have that problem due to my parents being really laid back!and didnt have to deal with my ohs parents as i dont know them but i think if you casualy bring it into a conversation (somehow) then it should be fine. Good luck hun!

 

[pennysbored]

Err, can I ask if there are reasons she doesn't want any sort of big news? Eg an illness in the family?
It just seems strange that she wouldn't want to know something like that. I mean, you're married to a man with a career (and a noble one at that!) and such.
I'm not being nosy, just trying to understand.

 

[mummy2four]

i think you shouldnt beat around the bush your obv in a great relationship with a lovely guy so at least your in the perfect situation to start a family you might be suprised by her reaction fingers crossed anyway

 

[xXDonnaXx]

I would tell her now rather than later on. She may be abit shocked at first, but I'm sure she will come to terms with it. Good luck.

No advice on how to tell her. I told my mum over the phone on my birthday.

 

[mz_jackie86]

I think when u tel her let her know how happy you are about it and that you have thought about everything in ur decision to keep it, although like all parents they will preach about life n how u gotta live it bla bla bla but letting them know that this is what you want will help i think x

 

[nikky0907]

First of all,congratulations on your pregnancy! And it's nice to have a 'fellow US pal' on the board!

Telling the parents is never easy,however it has to be done.I'd recommend that you do it quick,like ripping of the band-aid to to speak.

You and hubby call her and tell her that you have something important to tell her.That way she will already be prepared for some kind of news and maybe even 'speculate'.
The make sure that as you tell her,show her how happy and excited you guys are about this.

No matter what her initial reaction is,remember that this is a big shock on any parent and that with time she's gonna be the most excited grandma to be ever!

Good luck!

 

[Ilovemysoldier]

Yay another army WAG!!!
I think that I agree with everyone here. The sooner you tell her the better. At the end of the day its her grandchild and she will be happy eventually if she isnt straightaway.
You are married so it isnt like your going to be a single mum. You've got a good solid foundation which you should be proud of.
Goodluck telling her hun
xx

 

[Mrs.MC]

hey ladies! thanks for all the advice, i talked to my husband about it yesterday actually, and when he comes back from the mission he is on we are going to tell both his parents and mine =) I'm still nervous...but i hope she understands. To answer one of the questions one of the girls asked about why she doesnt want big news right now..i honestly have no idea, we were just talking one day and she said she cant handle any big news like is having a kid right now..which is why i was a bit scared to tell her, my mom and i get long very well. Again, thanks girls, i'll let ya know how it goes =) *fingers crossed*

 

[princess_x0]

Hey hun, just wanted to say good luck on telling your mum. And a huge congratulations on your marriage and baby xxx

 

[mBLACK]

There are alot of different ways you could try telling your mother - perhaps a letter, an e-mail or something? Maybe just getting the pics from your ultrasound and showing them to her, it might help her realize that this is really happening and it may help her come to terms with the pregnancy easier.
It all depends on your mother and what she would prefer you to do. I strongly advise you to tell her ASAP, that gives her more time to get used to the idea and grow feelings for the little one.

Good luck, if you need anything PM me I'm always around.

 

[LucyEmma]

When i was pregnant with my 1st i was only 16 my mum and dad are really uptight and i had no idea so i left it until i was about 3 months on! wish i didnt now beacuse the whole time i felt so bad as i wanted to tell my mum im really close to her but i knew how she would take it, i tried writing her a letter which was pages and pages long before it actually got to the point then i decided that i would feel more comfortalbe telling her face to face and it wasnt too bad she was upset because of how young i was but i can understand that.
So i know its a bit diffrent cercomstanses as your married and a bit older but the best way i think to tell your mum sooner rather than later then im sure she will be happy for you if you explaine to her how you feel and that your excited about the whole thing im sure she will be too. I think it takes mums a bit of time to realise that they little girls are growing up and are going to have familys of there own, its going to happen one day! Just its s shock what ever time it happens!! Lol hope theres a bit of help there and good luck feel free to PM me aswell if you want to chat
Lucy xxx