Mum just laughed in my face, about me trying to lose weight.

[purplerose]

Just need to get this off my mind.

Today OH and I went clothes shopping and OH spotted two nice active wear singlet and shorts. One dress size smaller, Which I was able to just squeeze in. So he bought them for me as a chance to motivate myself for Christmas

Anyhoo, I come home with them and the first thing mum does is go "What size are they?"

I smiled that it was a 14 (I'm normally an Australian 16).

She shook her head and said "Why did he get them that size, they are to small for you."

I let it slide.

Just now I picked them up from the table and she goes "Those are not going to fit you. You will never be a 14 again."

I said "Yes they will my jeans are already big around the waist." To which she smirked and laughed in my face.

"I don't think so. You don't eat the right foods." She replied.

Shooting back I said "I eat three weetbix in the morning, a yogurt which has 88 calories and I come home to eat whatever you cook."

To which she goes "No you don't. I eat the right stuff. Give up on exercising now because your not going to be again 14 ever."

Then she laughed in my face again.

This coming from a woman who only two weeks ago said "We are on a diet." followed by yesterday saying "Purplerose you don't look that big. It's all in your head."

Really mum, so the top of my inner thighs rubbing together is in my imagination.

Also she threw away my collection of corsets. One of them even cost $220 as it was custom made. Because she felt my OH was pushing me to be thin and the corsets were there to make look like I was. In her mind.

(I love corsets because they make me feel sexy, a real femme and I love the way they hug my body.) Hey when I wore one she goes "That makes your butt look big."

I rolled my eyes and said "That is the point."

Currently I want to call OH up and tell him what just happened, however he will get annoyed because he hates when my mum makes me feel depressed and he tries to point out all the good things I have achieved.

 

[snailien]

My mum would never speak to me like that

Do you live with her? move out!

 

[orange-sox]

Wow wow wow! None of that is on! I am disgusted at the way she's spoken to you, and that she threw your belongings away!



Is there any way of you and OH getting your own place?

 

[MummyToAmberx]

Dunno what i can apart from... where was her need to say those things.
Thought about moving out?

My mam has been 100% supportive on my weightloss.

 

[mizzk]

Your mum should be there to support you 110% not speak to you like that. It sounds like she has issues! I bet you do great loosing weight hun, don't listen to pointless negativity, you can do it

 

[PresqueVu]

That is really horrible of her!

Just dont let her get to you - you sound like you are pretty determined so of course you'll get back to a size you are happy with.

It almost sounds a bit like she feels threatened by your weight loss tbh, its quite controlling to belittle someone like that. Thats just my armchair psychiatry speaking tho...

 

[panther19]

A mother shouldn't say such things, actually... no one should be so disrespectful to another person. That just beats down your self worth and is just plain rude. I would tell her that such comments aren't appreciated.

 

[Twinkle_Toes]

Sounds like a mean thing to say but could your mum actually be jealous of you for wanting to change yourself to make yourself happy??

When i lost the weight a few years ago my mum bought me all new clothes! unfortunately i put the weight back on but have still kept the clothes lol.

Just think positive thoughts hun if its what you want to do then dont let her mean and jealous words hurt you and by the sounds of it your OH is more then willing to stand up for you.x

 

[curlykate]

Wow. What horrible things for your mother to say!
I agree that maybe she feels threatened by your weight loss, and her possible inability to lose her extra weight. (The way she said "We're on a diet" implies to me that she's not comfortable with her weight either)
Keep your head up, and continue working hard. You'll show her!

 

[massacubano]

I gotta agree... horrible... just horrible...

I hope you keep on track and NEVER let ANYONE get you off your goals... just keep telling yourself you deserve to be healthy.

 

[~Krissy~]

I truly believe it sounds like your Mom is jealous.

Do you live with her? If so, I'd suggest finding your own place or possibly having a sit down talk with her if she's willing. Things need to change! A Mom should never treat her daughter like that. I'm so sorry!

Stay strong! You CAN lose the weight. Remember that!

 

[twinkle1975]

Keep your chin up honey & know that you can show her! Does she think that she can goad you into loosing weight by making you angry?? (I realise this is a twisted way of seeing it but can't understand why she'd do it?)