Mum kept away from her babies. Will they forget me?

[Sonnenshein_]

My DD is 3 in September, and DS is 2 in November. I haven't seen them regularly since the beginning of February, and sometimes gone as currently up to 7 weeks without seeing them or having any contact. I don't know if I'm posting in the right place and I really hope it's okay because I'm desperate for some support at this stage.

I walked away from an abusive & controlling relationship, but in doing that my ex ran away with the children and applied to courts. He insisted he would only let me see them in a contact centre so I did, every other weekend for two hours a day. DD reacted amazing and was crying with excitement everytime she saw me but DS was a little reserved the first time after I hadn't seen him for 7 weeks. He settled back in and I think knew who I was after I saw him twice after that, but now I haven't seen them for 6 weeks already and have another three weeks before I'll see them again. We had our third court hearing today, and now I have another three weeks of not seeing them. I am so, so scared they'll forget who I am and I can't bare the thought. They are my world and it's a very horrible situation to be in. Has anyone had a lengthy time away from their LO's but they haven't forgotten who they are?

I am going for full custody now as all my ex partner has done is lie to the courts and cause problems, he is doing his best to make sure I am not a part of their lives just because he is angry at me for leaving him and still trying to control me even months after our relationship has ended. I want to have full custody and encourage a positive relationship between the LO's and their dad with lots of contact as I don't believe anything to do with myself and him are important but what is best for the children is, and that is to have a relationship with both parents.

I am having to fight him so much which is really sad, but I'm just so scared they'll forget who I am. I can't believe I grew, carried and birthed two little people and someone is being allowed to just take them away with no good reason. Being a mum is something I've always wanted, and always loved, for them to forget I'm mum would be the worst thing I can imagine. I would love to hear from anyone who may have been in a similar situation or been away for a length of time, at their ages 9 weeks seems an awfully long time, especially for DS who's 18 months old.

 

[VerbingNoun]

So sorry this is happening

I'm suffering from severe postpartum depression and my DD is staying with my in laws till my medication levels out and I can get in counseling. My pediatrician and the ER psych I ended up seeing both say she won't forget me. She is only 3 weeks old and I have only lived with her for five days. I do get to see her occasionally though.

I know how tough it is and I trust the professionals. Hope this helps.

 

[alina_sss]

My DD is 3 in September, and DS is 2 in November. I haven't seen them regularly since the beginning of February, and sometimes gone as currently up to 7 weeks without seeing them or having any contact. I don't know if I'm posting in the right place and I really hope it's okay because I'm desperate for some support at this stage.

I walked away from an abusive & controlling relationship, but in doing that my ex ran away with the children and applied to courts. He insisted he would only let me see them in a contact centre so I did, every other weekend for two hours a day. DD reacted amazing and was crying with excitement everytime she saw me but DS was a little reserved the first time after I hadn't seen him for 7 weeks. He settled back in and I think knew who I was after I saw him twice after that, but now I haven't seen them for 6 weeks already and have another three weeks before I'll see them again. We had our third court hearing today, and now I have another three weeks of not seeing them. I am so, so scared they'll forget who I am and I can't bare the thought. They are my world and it's a very horrible situation to be in. Has anyone had a lengthy time away from their LO's but they haven't forgotten who they are?

I am going for full custody now as all my ex partner has done is lie to the courts and cause problems, he is doing his best to make sure I am not a part of their lives just because he is angry at me for leaving him and still trying to control me even months after our relationship has ended. I want to have full custody and encourage a positive relationship between the LO's and their dad with lots of contact as I don't believe anything to do with myself and him are important but what is best for the children is, and that is to have a relationship with both parents.

I am having to fight him so much which is really sad, but I'm just so scared they'll forget who I am. I can't believe I grew, carried and birthed two little people and someone is being allowed to just take them away with no good reason. Being a mum is something I've always wanted, and always loved, for them to forget I'm mum would be the worst thing I can imagine. I would love to hear from anyone who may have been in a similar situation or been away for a length of time, at their ages 9 weeks seems an awfully long time, especially for DS who's 18 months old.

Why didn't you take kids with you?