Mum2bewaiting
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I have just been kicked in the stomach once again... and have hit rock bottom...
I have had issues with my old midwife for a few weeks, after one Sunday experiencing really bad pains (they felt like the MC ones), I was 11+3. I called her for advice on the Monday morning at 8.30, left a message and phoned back 3 time later on that day, I know she was working cos her phone was on. DH ended up phoning the antenatal clinic and the MW there said to head to EPU, they would see me (even though I wasn't bleeding, it was just the cramps) so we did, was made to feel an inch big and they did nothing cos I wasn't bleeding. They didn't even look through my Maternity notes as they did try phoning the WRONG antenatal clinic to see if my scan could be bought forward, so it was left for us to sort. Managed to get my dating scan bought forward and everything was ok, but I must have looked dreadful from what the mw there said, as she wasn't convinced I was fit to work. She ended up doing a full antenatal check while I was there and transferred my care out of the community into the hospital (so home birth is no longer an option without a fight) and I have since seen her again and she is fab, has made me feel that I can call at any time, no panic is too small etc, and that has happened... (oh and I was still waiting for a return phone call from the community midwife 18 days later after the message I had left)
the last 2 weeks have been ace, I have felt more confident about this pregnancy, not quite so down about the MC, less confused I guess
... last night I got home from work to find a letter from the HV wanting to come and meet me and give me the red book... fine, but a little bit confused as thought at 14 weeks they were a bit keen, AND THEN it clicked, they still thought I was due in April. Phoned them this morning and it was, the HV I seem to have been allocated phoned me back to apologise, they were mortified. I ended up in tears with them. I phoned the GP practice to ask them who should have informed the HV (knowing it was the MW) and left it with tem to look into and get back to me.... 20 minutes later I had my old MW on the phone (funny how she calls me when she is at fault but not when I need help), so had to go through everything again, but at least I was telling the right person how I felt... she knows how anxious I am, and that I was finding it hard to focus on many positives, then just as I find some SHE knocks it out of me again...
I feel as though I have started the grieving process again, daft as it sounds...
I have had issues with my old midwife for a few weeks, after one Sunday experiencing really bad pains (they felt like the MC ones), I was 11+3. I called her for advice on the Monday morning at 8.30, left a message and phoned back 3 time later on that day, I know she was working cos her phone was on. DH ended up phoning the antenatal clinic and the MW there said to head to EPU, they would see me (even though I wasn't bleeding, it was just the cramps) so we did, was made to feel an inch big and they did nothing cos I wasn't bleeding. They didn't even look through my Maternity notes as they did try phoning the WRONG antenatal clinic to see if my scan could be bought forward, so it was left for us to sort. Managed to get my dating scan bought forward and everything was ok, but I must have looked dreadful from what the mw there said, as she wasn't convinced I was fit to work. She ended up doing a full antenatal check while I was there and transferred my care out of the community into the hospital (so home birth is no longer an option without a fight) and I have since seen her again and she is fab, has made me feel that I can call at any time, no panic is too small etc, and that has happened... (oh and I was still waiting for a return phone call from the community midwife 18 days later after the message I had left)
the last 2 weeks have been ace, I have felt more confident about this pregnancy, not quite so down about the MC, less confused I guess
... last night I got home from work to find a letter from the HV wanting to come and meet me and give me the red book... fine, but a little bit confused as thought at 14 weeks they were a bit keen, AND THEN it clicked, they still thought I was due in April. Phoned them this morning and it was, the HV I seem to have been allocated phoned me back to apologise, they were mortified. I ended up in tears with them. I phoned the GP practice to ask them who should have informed the HV (knowing it was the MW) and left it with tem to look into and get back to me.... 20 minutes later I had my old MW on the phone (funny how she calls me when she is at fault but not when I need help), so had to go through everything again, but at least I was telling the right person how I felt... she knows how anxious I am, and that I was finding it hard to focus on many positives, then just as I find some SHE knocks it out of me again...
I feel as though I have started the grieving process again, daft as it sounds...
You really wouldnt think that communication could be allowed to break down that far. im sorry you had to deal with that. xxx
