My boyfriend is devastated

[pollydolly]

I've been trying to think logically about it as otherwise it'll really devastate me and I can't go through it again. Whereas my other half is literally devastated and I've never seen him like it. He barely even looks at me now and I'm so scared of losing him
No point in the thread I just have nobody to speak to 😭

 

[msbene]

What is ur boyfriend devastated about?

 

[xxmyheartxx]

oh bless him, have you tried talking to him about it? My hubby carried on as normal after my 1st loss, which upset me, but after our 2nd and 3rd he's opened up to me which has helped him and has brought us closer. Im so sorry for your loss

 

[pollydolly]

Msbene we had a miscarriage last week

Xxmyheartxx ive tried but he's not usually an emotional person at all and he's not a talker

 

[george83]

My oh was a bit similar when we had a mc, he was obviously very upset and would t really talk to me. I didn't force him to talk about and with time things went back to how they were, I know it's difficult but everybody does deal with things differently, you both need time to process everything and grieve in your own ways.

So sorry for your loss x x

 

[Left wonderin]

I'm sorry about your loss . My oh was the same re distancing himself from me . After we talked it turned out he found it so hard . He just didn't know what to say to me , he was hurting so much he couldn't imagine the pain I was in and didn't know what to do . Talking was hard but really really helped , could you sit him down and tell him how you are feeling?
I know it doesn't feel like it but it will be ok xxxx

 

[msbene]

Im so sorry my dearie....

 

[pollydolly]

Thank you girls xx