My decision

[nikky0907]

So,I've been having some baaad sickness and I'm very tired all the time.So last night I was driving home from school and being so very tired I scratched another car...Thank God,nobody was hurt and the damage was minimum,but still the only thing I was thinking about while the guy was yelling at me like I just killed his goldfish was that I could've lost my baby.In addition to that,I haven't been able to think about having an abortion so I put two and two together and I got the result-I'm keeping it!I know that it's not going to be very easy and my life is gonna change and this wasn't part of my inital plan but it's here now and I just think that it won't be bad...I haven't been feeling sad or depressed since I got back from the doctor so it must be a sign,right?

I'm going to make an appointment at my obgyn so I should get my first scan soon...and I'm actally excited(another sign)...
I told my best friend and she asked me if I'm sure,I said yes and she said that she supports me,and I love her for it...I'm going to tell my friends tonight when we go out,then my sister,the father and my parents last(because they'll be the least understanding)...

So,I'm currently feeling sick, tired, scared and kinda calm...weird?
Since this is my final decision,I made some changes in my profile...

So what do you guys think,will we be ok(say yes even if you don't mean it)?

 

[hollie86]

Hey!!
Its always a hard decision to make whatever your circumstance! At the end of the day the decision is totally up to you!!
I think it is a good idea to tell you parents as they will be able to offer their support and guidance as well as your friends.
Im sure evrything will be fine just look after yourself, once you see your baby on the screen you will be overwhelmed with excitement.
Good luck
xxx

 

[TashaAndBump]

I'm very glad to hear you're feeling more sure about your future now and that the decision has been made (it's always easier after that initial point).

Best of luck in your pregnancy and remember that we're all here for you if you need us so if you have any questions or anything ask away!

 

[nikky0907]

thank you so much,it really was a huge decision to make but it's easier now...

 

[sleepinbeauty]

hey congrats, mama. I'm glad you make a decision that's good for you. Best of luck in your pregnancy and parenting!!

You'll be ok. Just remember, your family will likely come around sooner or later and don't listen to the arses out there that will comment on your choices. Miliions of women our age go through it, you can too.

*hugs*

 

[SpecialGift89]

Glad you managed to come to a decision. You have told one person and she is willing to support you and I'm sure your parents will come round even if it might take a while. I mean their gonna be grandparents so I'm sure they'll be looking forward to it soon enough. Once you see your baby on the ultrasound all your worries will just float away for those few minutes I'm sure. I wish you the best for the future. x

 

[nikky0907]

Thanks guys,reading your posts makes me even more sure in my decision(exept when you called me mama,I almost fainted,ha).
I know I will have support in people around me,but my parents are not people I can count on and never could-it sounds horrible but thats how it is.I'm hoping to have a better relationship with my little IT...

 

[Rumpskin]

Hi Nikky, i sent you a message in another thread but wanting to say congratulations lovely. I am so pleased about your decision. You seem alot happier lovely.

Well done xxx

 

[SpecialGift89]

I'm sure you will be a great mum(soz I know that word is hard to get use to). As long as you have someone you can rely on then I'm sure you will be fine. This experience will make you stronger as everything you do now will be for you and your coming baby. I know you will do fine. These things don't come with a handbook every mother is different. Best wishes. x

 

[nikky0907]

oh,thanks alot...
You say just the right things...
Rumpskin-thank you,I read your post.I am happier,I feel like my old self again exept in a different way...

 

[Rumpskin]

oh,thanks alot...
You say just the right things...
Rumpskin-thank you,I read your post.I am happier,I feel like my old self again exept in a different way...

Great news Nikky. I hope that you are feeling okay in yourself and cant wait to see pics of your bump.

xx

 

[sleepinbeauty]

Thanks guys,reading your posts makes me even more sure in my decision(exept when you called me mama,I almost fainted,ha).
I know I will have support in people around me,but my parents are not people I can count on and never could-it sounds horrible but thats how it is.I'm hoping to have a better relationship with my little IT...

lol, I'm sorry! Don't faint! I'm sorry your parents are like that. Is there anywhere you can stay for a few days while they cool off if you need to?

 

[nikky0907]

oh,I don't live with them.When I started college,I could've lived in a dorm but they bought me this big apartment and even made it my name,the reason they did that is so I don't have to visit them during spring,summer and winter vacation...Nice right?

Rumpskin-I really am,I'm gonna be one of those people who put their scans on their fridge....

 

[TashaAndBump]

They bought you an apartment?? Or rented you one? Quite generous if it's the former! Is there no possibility that they did this because they wanted the best for you and thought you'd prefer to have your own apartment?

I'm sorry your relationship with them is not so good anywho... Maybe this whole experience could bring you guys closer together? I know that's what happened with my mum anyway - it's like the only thing we have in comon! lol And once they come round to it, and the idea of being grandparents, they could become quite excited and supportive... You never know. Everyone reacts differently in situations like this, and one thing I've learned being pregnant is that you can never count on anyone to react the way that you expect them to.

If they are unsupportive, just ignore it and remember that you don't *need* their support - You can do this! And you have your friends (and did you say you're quite close to your sister, too?) and you have us to count on for support as well.

Best of luck, x

 

[nikky0907]

it would be generous if they had done it for the right reasons...They told me it's because of it,I mean not in those words but I know my parents and they also did it so they can brag to their friends...That is my parents' idea of parenting-give us money and sent us away...

But,thank you...I know that I will manage.I wish that my mom and me get closer like you and your mom...You are very lucky...

 

[xxleannexx]

well done on making your decision hun i kno how hard it is, and theres doubt about it, you WILL be fine!
It might take a while for your parents to come around to the idea, but i bet by the time your little one arrives they will be proud grandparents!

 

[nikky0907]

thank you...hopefully...

 

[Rumpskin]

oh,I don't live with them.When I started college,I could've lived in a dorm but they bought me this big apartment and even made it my name,the reason they did that is so I don't have to visit them during spring,summer and winter vacation...Nice right?

Rumpskin-I really am,I'm gonna be one of those people who put their scans on their fridge....

Cant wait to see it Nikky

 

[nikky0907]

You and me both...And I am looking forward to seeing pics of your future little one...

 

[Rumpskin]

You and me both...And I am looking forward to seeing pics of your future little one...

Me too - I think I will just when I see it