My Introduction (:

[debsxhim]

Hey girls.

I joined this site a bit ago when my friend told me she was pregnant. I wanted to give her the most support possible, and find other people who were her age and also pregnant, who could give her support as well. I found you guys and you all just seemed so awesome and supportive.

She did end up miscarrying around 9 weeks though. It was really devestating as both of us are really close. Well I'm in the process of moving into a new place (In June) and have also started college for the first time. I've been extremely stressed.

I realized my period is late and told my friend. She said she had a feeling I was pregnant and to take a test. So I took three, and they were all positive.

I'm still in shock.. according to my dates i'm 4 weeks and 5 days today. I told my OH and he's excited, and sure we can do this. I'm also positive that I can do this but am a little overwhelmed with moving, college, and etc...

I have the most amazing relationship with my mom, and I feel like I can tell her almost anything. I'm scared that when I tell her I'm pregnant she will freak out and disown me. She had me when she was 20 and always stresses how hard it is to raise a kid...

I've always wanted a big family, but didn't think I would be starting so soon. How did you all tell your mothers? what was their reaction? I'm not sure if I should tell her now, or a little later in my pregnancy..

Sorry for the rant. I just have to tell someone. Btw, I'm 16, 17 next month.

 

[MadamRose]

Welcome to the site, hope your pregnancy goes well. You need to tell your mum as soon as you can. She maybe shocked and angry at first but she will soon come round and be happy for you and support you. The longer you leave it the harder it gets.

 

[debsxhim]

I know, I know. I just don't want to let her down. I dropped out of high school, and got into some stupid situations and I feel like this will only make me look even more immature and incapable of raising a kid.

I am her "baby" though, so I know she will support me with the fact that I want to keep this baby, and am willing to do whatever it takes. I'm really nervous about telling her, then miscarrying. I know it will be hard for me to go through all of that and I don't want to have to put her through it if possible.

I'm new to this whole thing, so what can I expect on my first appointment and when should I book it? Im thinking of getting a confirmed test and hcg levels tested at a planned parenthood if possible before I see a doctor.

Thank you by the way for responding so quickly! ​

 

[AngelzTears]

I found out at 4 weeks and 5 days too! lol. Congratulations!

How is your friend handling this? This must be hard for her even though I'm sure she's super happy for you! I'd definitely tell your mom when you are used to the idea. It's still so new to you that it might be more traumatic telling her right now, you know? Some of the early weeks are the most dangerous for the baby, don't want to get stressed out. But I would tell her within the next few weeks when you're ready.

 

[debsxhim]

Thats my general idea. I did the calculator thing for pregnancy and it says 4 weeks and 2 days. I'm pretty sure my cycles like between 30-24 days so I guess if I don't know for sure im just going to have to guess somewhere in there.​

 

[amandad192]

I agree. The longer you leave it the harder it gets. My OH had to force me to tell my mum, and she wasn't angry at all, she was quite disappointed and tried to make me "change my mind." Well not make me, but she thought it would have been for the best.
But I think your mum will be very supportive.
You say your moving into a new place soon, is that with your parents or you own home. If it's your own home then I'm pretty sure your Mum will be more overwhelmed by that because it would have already hit her that you're growing up.
Good luck telling your mum and be sure to let us know how it goes.
And CONGRATZ!!

 

[MadamRose]

i would say ring your doctors they will tell you when you need to ook in with your midwife as it varies from place to place. If you did 3 test and all were positive i doubt you need it comfirming i only did one test and that was a faint positive and went from that. Im now 17weeks 3days along.
If you did have a miscarriage (try not to worry about it though as stressing isnt good for the baby) you would need your mum's support as its not an easy thing. I had one in august 2009 and dont know what me and my OH would have done without my mum's support

 

[Zebra Stars]

welcome to BnB!

when i told my mum she said the A word!
then a day later went out buying stuff

so she will prob be a lil upsedt at first but get through it

 

[debsxhim]

My friend is taking it a little rough, saying shes jealous but also is extremely happy for me and is trying to be really supportive.

I know my mom won't mention the "A" word. Or at least I hope not. Were tight for money, but as I'm getting my own place soon hopefully she see's an improvement.

I've been having random cramps that feel kinda like AF, would could they be? ​

 

[AngelzTears]

I got cramps early on too. I think it's normal, just so long as you don't start bleeding or anything. I'm guessing it's your body starting up the growing and changing process!

I'm new to this whole thing, so what can I expect on my first appointment and when should I book it? Im thinking of getting a confirmed test and hcg levels tested at a planned parenthood if possible before I see a doctor.
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Try to get an appointment whenever they'll get you in pretty much, they'll check to make sure you and baby are healthy and give you some prenatals and things like that. I got on medicaid so every dr appointment and meds have been free. The first time I went I had to do a urine test, blood test, pap smear, and then I got to see the baby on the ultrasound! Good luck!

 

[Desi's_lost]

i have cramps too and everyone says its normal. i'm a little over nine weeks. your mother should be fine. mine was...disappointed yes, but thats to be expected. honestly, i would try and wait. i WISH that i had made my former other half wait to tell his parents because let me tell you...not good.

 

[AngelzTears]

^ Yeah I'd have to say the in-laws are harder to talk to then parents. I wasn't in the room when they found out, but I over-heard it. It didn't go awesome, but it wasn't terrible.

 

[Desi's_lost]

especially if he is young and...his parents are evil monsters. i mean i think your going to be fine. personally i would just wait as long as you can though. unless its really stressing you out. then tell cause stress is no good.

 

[Croc-O-Dile]

I know, I know. I just don't want to let her down. I dropped out of high school, and got into some stupid situations and I feel like this will only make me look even more immature and incapable of raising a kid.

I am her "baby" though, so I know she will support me with the fact that I want to keep this baby, and am willing to do whatever it takes. I'm really nervous about telling her, then miscarrying. I know it will be hard for me to go through all of that and I don't want to have to put her through it if possible.

I'm new to this whole thing, so what can I expect on my first appointment and when should I book it? Im thinking of getting a confirmed test and hcg levels tested at a planned parenthood if possible before I see a doctor.

Thank you by the way for responding so quickly! ​

I was the same way. My last year completed in school was 7th grade (for those from the UK, we have to do schooling up until 18 y.o, and grade 7 is age 13) 8th grade I "dropped out" and did home schooling (half-assed) and did the same thing for 9th grade, only I did it online. Then a week after my 16th birthday I got my GED and enrolled in college 2 years early. For ages 13-14.5 I was partying and not living at home, etc. So I felt the same panic about my mom using that against me. But honestly, the fact that I'm going back to school and not into all that shit anymore gave her more hope that I could handle this than anything. Hopefully your mom will look at it the same way.

 

[debsxhim]

I know, I know. I just don't want to let her down. I dropped out of high school, and got into some stupid situations and I feel like this will only make me look even more immature and incapable of raising a kid.

I am her "baby" though, so I know she will support me with the fact that I want to keep this baby, and am willing to do whatever it takes. I'm really nervous about telling her, then miscarrying. I know it will be hard for me to go through all of that and I don't want to have to put her through it if possible.

I'm new to this whole thing, so what can I expect on my first appointment and when should I book it? Im thinking of getting a confirmed test and hcg levels tested at a planned parenthood if possible before I see a doctor.

Thank you by the way for responding so quickly! ​

I was the same way. My last year completed in school was 7th grade (for those from the UK, we have to do schooling up until 18 y.o, and grade 7 is age 13) 8th grade I "dropped out" and did home schooling (half-assed) and did the same thing for 9th grade, only I did it online. Then a week after my 16th birthday I got my GED and enrolled in college 2 years early. For ages 13-14.5 I was partying and not living at home, etc. So I felt the same panic about my mom using that against me. But honestly, the fact that I'm going back to school and not into all that shit anymore gave her more hope that I could handle this than anything. Hopefully your mom will look at it the same way.

I went through a whole partying stage as well, but my mom never really found out about it some how. I know that since I'm going to college now, I have the CHSPE (equivalent to the HS diploma), and we're getting our own place were showing initiative. I'm going to wait a few more days, but will tell her for sure in the next 3 weeks. Its sinking in and I'm getting more and more excited.

 

[debsxhim]

Does anyone know how to add a profile picture + change the "other" underneath the box?