My 'mother-in-law'

[Destiny08]

So I say mother in law. In reality she is my husband's biological mother (he was taken away from her for severe neglect - when he was 6 months old, couldnt hold his head up and weighed 5kg...just to put that into perspective.)

Now she is one of the nastiest people I have ever met in my life. and today, a week almost to the day since my miscarriage, she sends me this:

' I'm glad your womb is such a sour place your child escaped the only way it could. '

...how can such an awful person exist? really?

 

[broodymrs]

Wow, she sounds delightful.

 

[mrs.green2015]

That is absolutely terrible. I'm so incredibly sorry you even have to be in the same country as her let alone deal with her. Maybe your DH can talk to her? I hope things get better or at least she leaves you alone?

 

[KL15]

Oh my goodness! What a thing to say!! I'm so sorry you were subjected to that kind of behaviour and cruelty. I would strongly suggest minimising the impact she has on both your lives. Easier said than done but people can only upset you as much as you allow them to. Someone as cruel as that, their opinion should not matter to you. If they're capable of such hate then they have no valid opinion from one human to another. Her view should hold no credence over your lives if that's the kind of person she is. You are in control though! Do not give her the opportunity to say such things, and if she does, you also control how you feel about it. If you let it get to you, she wins. Trust me (speaking from experience) the whole becomes a whole lot simpler once you do this xx

 

[Destiny08]

Oh yea, I have had nothing to do with the woman since 2012. I haven't allowed her around my daughter, but I've never stopped my husband trying to form a relationship with her. He's now blocked her too and sworn not to have anything to do with her. She literally had to make a fake, alternate facebook profile to get that message to me.

She's toxic and I'm glad my husband has finally come to that realisation. I just couldn't believe anyone could say something like that..

She also said, during the argument that she 'only has 3 kids' - ie not my husband (he was her first and was the only one of the 4 taken away from her). she's just...poisonous.

 

[mrs.green2015]

I honestly feel sad for her. She must feel so bad about herself and hate herself so much to go to such measures to send you that message. It says a lot about her. And even more about you that after all this time you've still never kept your DH away from her. You're a strong woman!

 

[Starlight288]

That's awful! I've had experienced similar to that can't say I had quite that said to me but I've had nasty things said to me by my SIL and my MIL.

I agree the best thing to do is distance yourself from that kind of behavior. We haven't spoken to my SIL in about a year and my MIL since November.

 

[bcos21]

I read your post this morning and didn't know what to say; still don't. The fact that she harbors such a level of nastiness for anything or anyone is so gross to me. I hope you are able to block such filth from your life forever. I'm sorry you were reminded of your loss this way.

 

[Andypanda6570]

She is Satan..Anyone who can say these words to you, is PURE evil...I want to hug you and take your hand and go to this woman's house and slap the spit out of her... Then pull all her hair out and then we can go for lunch..Yes, I am very serious..

I am so sorry sweetie XOXOXOXOOXOXXO