My Mum

[space-game-91]

Well, I told my mum last Monday and although she seemed disappointed and upset I thought everything went fine, but we've gone from talking every night on the phone (we live 200 miles apart) to me texting her and getting very short replies. It's really bringing me down, although we live so far away, I thought she'd come around and support me, but so far she has been anything but supportive
She said she'd tell my dad too and I don't think she has told anyone cos none of my family have spoken to me, unless they're all giving me the cold shoulder as well.
Me and my OH have only told a small amount of close friends about the baby because I don't want it getting back to my family through hearsay rather than them being told properly, but I don't feel comfortable speaking to them on my own and I can't ask my mum whether she has told people cos it's like a taboo subject.
Do I just need to be patient and wait for her to come around, 2nd tri is meant to be a happy time and this is just making me miserable, especially because some of my friends still don't know and I feel weird saying to them oh ... don't tell anyone just incase my family don't already know.

As if it isn't hard enough already (N)

 

[Bride2Be]

Maybe you should tell your family or ask your mom to. You'll probably start getting bigger soon, so if you truly don't want them to find out by someone else it would be best to tell them now.

I'm sorry that your mom isn't being supportive. She'll come around, though.

 

[space-game-91]

I don't see my family with living away, so the only way they could find out would be one of my friends letting slip or seeing it on Facebook ...
Thanks
It's hard, especially as I thought it went ok ...

 

[Fiore]

Could you go visit her and get a big hug? She probably doesn't know how to act xx

 

[space-game-91]

No it costs a lot to get home and my OH can't get time off work cos he's only a temporary worker, I'd be worried that she wouldn't want me at home when I got there.

 

[sunkissedx]

could you phone her again and see what she says?
sometimes it's hard to get emotions through text message so if she hears how you're feeling and you can hear how she's feeling maybe it's just been miscommunicated through text?
hope you sort it out! hugs xx

 

[lushious09]

its a huge shock for some parents took my mum months to come round... we were constantly up and down screaming yelling...wasnt pleasent at all... oh(now ex)s parents only found out about a monthish ago... and they have only got till oct to get use to it, id give them a bit of time or try and explain how u feeland that u dont feel supported or make the effort to go to her?xx

 

[Fiore]

What about webcam? It's not ideal but it's a step up xx

 

[space-game-91]

There has been an advance in mine and my mum's situation. We have started having phone calls again and she has invited me and my OH to a weekend away in Scotland with her, my dad and my brother. The only thing is, when we've been talking on the phone, we haven't mentioned me being pregnant. So I'm going to just keep having normal phone converstaions until I feel like she likes me enough to talk about me being pregnant. I'm just happy that we're talking again, it makes me feel a lot better, even if we haven't had a proper discussion about me being pregnant

 

[rainbows_x]

Aww, sounds good hun! x

 

[maaybe2010]

There has been an advance in mine and my mum's situation. We have started having phone calls again and she has invited me and my OH to a weekend away in Scotland with her, my dad and my brother. The only thing is, when we've been talking on the phone, we haven't mentioned me being pregnant. So I'm going to just keep having normal phone converstaions until I feel like she likes me enough to talk about me being pregnant. I'm just happy that we're talking again, it makes me feel a lot better, even if we haven't had a proper discussion about me being pregnant

My mum was like this and didn't mention it at all We also live far apart.
It really hurt me, as soon as I miscarriged she was on the phone everyday and that just pissed me right off

But your a lot further along than I was, does she know how far gone you are?
Maybe you can ring your family to tell them?

Best Wishes!!

 

[space-game-91]

My mum was like this and didn't mention it at all We also live far apart.
It really hurt me, as soon as I miscarriged she was on the phone everyday and that just pissed me right off

But your a lot further along than I was, does she know how far gone you are?
Maybe you can ring your family to tell them?

Best Wishes!!

Yeah she knows, that upset her a bit that I only told her recently. I'd rather my mum come to terms with it before we started telling other people because I think it could push her further away if people start asking her about it. She did mention it once on the phone tonight, but it was "once you get something sorted with uni, then tell me cos I don't want to worry" so that's what I'm going to do, get it all sorted and tell her when I have a proper plan

Sorry to hear about your miscarrage, lots of baby dust your way