My poor friend :(

[SimoneMK]

I am writing this post to get advice on what i can do to help my friend... I am currently 23 weeks pregnant and have (knock wood) never had any miscarriages or other complications.

My friend got pregnant only 2 months after trying, she is 31 and she was in shock that it happened so fast. She was so overwhelmed that she actually wasn't sure if she was ready to be a mom. Her hormones made her very emotional and she was a little sad and depressed because I think she was just overwhelmed and scared.

She isn't sure when her LMP was but she was pretty sure it was around Dec 8th which would make her 8-10 weeks pregnant. She went in to the doc today and they did a transvaginal ultrasound and baby is measuring about 5 weeks with no heartbeat. They told her either the baby stopped growing or she miscalculated her LMP. They will have to do a D&C if she did in fact suffer a miscarriage but they intend on taking blood in 2 days to measure her hormone level. I have read instances where a women's hormone level increases because her body thinks shes pregnant so I don't know if that will be a solid confirmation that there is a baby in there.

I am beyond devastated for her and I pray that baby is alive and well. She feels horribly guilty about the whole situation, but it clearly was out of her control.

What do you ladies think? Is there a chance her baby is alive and well?

 

[LoraLoo]

I would personally be insisting on another scan in a week or so time if i were her. It does sound like the baby stopped growing but i'd want to be 100% certain in my own mind x

 

[Amsan]

I would personally be insisting on another scan in a week or so time if i were her. It does sound like the baby stopped growing but i'd want to be 100% certain in my own mind x

I definitely agree. And I would absolutely get a second opinion as well.

My friend is on her first pregnancy and was having some progesterone issues... the first OB was going to just let her miscarry instead of doing anything! As soon as she switched OB's they got her on the proper care and so far baby is healthy.

It NEVER hurts to get a second opinion!

 

[farmwife25]

My heart goes out to your frind as I just went through that. Dec 11 went for my u/s and should of seen a 13 week fetus. Sadly nothing could be seen on reg. u/s so a trans vag was done. The baby measured 5 weeks and no hb. They prepaired me that it was 1 of 2 things, the pregnancy was no longer viable or wrong dates. The were more concerned it was option 1. I went for a follow up u/s a week later to see if there was an improvment in measurement or hb, and nothing. I had a week to expel baby naturally or it was a Christmas eve D & C for me. It happened naturally at home on the 23. It was an ordeal I wish I could forget, and almost wish I had the D & C.
HOWEVER, I am now newly pregnant again. I am soooooooooo worried about this one, but trying to think positive. My thoughts are with your friend, for her sake I hope all goes well and baby is A OK!

 

[SimoneMK]

Thanks for the advice ladies. She is having blood taken today to see if her hormone level increases but could her body stll think she is pregnant? Shes having a follow up ultrasound wednesday and they are giving her i believe 3 weeks to miscarry naturally. I don't even know what that entails, but she seems to be handling it better than i thought.

 

[farmwife25]

My body held onto the baby for 8 weeks. I went for 1st u/s and it should of been 13 weeks and baby measured 5 weeks. After that u/s I went back exactly a week later to have another u/s to see if there was any changes in measurments or a hb, but nothing. I then had a week to miscarry naturally. I miscarried 1 day shy of the week, which would of been christmas eve. So in all my body held onto it for 10 weeks. I am thankful I never had to go through a D & C, but I almost wish I had as it was oone hell of a painful and traumatic experince for me and my DH. I wish your friend all the best.

 

[SimoneMK]

Good news! My friend went in for an ultrasound today and the baby is measuring 6 weeks 5 days and the heartbeat was 124 so she got confirmation that all is well. I am so happy for her

 

[SusieC]

That is such good news xx

 

[farmwife25]

Good news! My friend went in for an ultrasound today and the baby is measuring 6 weeks 5 days and the heartbeat was 124 so she got confirmation that all is well. I am so happy for her

That is fantastic. So happy for her. No woman should have to go through the loss of a pregnancy, and sadly too many do!