My sister, rant! Kinda long, im sorry! :/

[RachelRae]

So, my parents are divorced. & me, my sister, and my brother all used to live with my mom and would see my dad every other weekend. But about 3 years ago, my sister went suicidal and started threatening me and my mom that she was gonna kill us. & she started to get knives out so we called the police. Immediately they took my sister over to my dads and she got a lot better than what she was over time. Me and sister never got along, she treated me horribly. I even have diary entries of me when I was 6 and 7 saying that she ruined my child hood and I don't want her going to my wedding, saying that she made me cry everyday and I've always wanted a sister that I could tell all my secrets to and do my hair with. It was just really bad when she lived with us, and it was for the better that she stayed with my dad.

So, I still go to my dad to see him every other weekend and atleast try to get along with my sister for the time being there. We still really don't like eachother. So, about 3 months ago I told her and my dad I was pregnant. They were both really supportive. The next time I went over there, my sister asked if she could talk to me and I was like sure. & we went into the other room and she said she wanted to move in back with mom so she could be close to my baby. I totally was like no, it's not a good idea. Everything just needs to stay the way it is. I'll still bring the baby over when I visit so they can spend time with him. & she was like okay. For the time that she has lived with my dad, she told my mom that she HATED her and that she NEVER wanted to see my mom again, and hope she dies and doesn't want anything to do with her.

Since, I got pregnant everythings changed. She tried to meet with my mom about getting to move in, and I told my mom before she went that she's just trying to get through her to get to this baby. & my mom's so happy and excited about her wanting to come back..ugh it makes me sick because I feel bad for mom because it's not all for her. It's my baby,

She's my sister and of course I want her to have some sort of a relationship with LO, but what she's done to me and mom in the past is not what I want around him. I would just hate myself if anything ever happened to him. Like, I'm crying right now writing all this.

My sister is over here for the first time in like 3 or 4 years, and she hasn't been kind at all to me. She's telling me to clean up the house and she's telling me what to do. & whenever my mom comes in the room she's so nice to her. My mom works night shifts and she's leaving for the night. I just really don't feel comfortable at all being by myself with her. It's just not a good idea, ugh. & I tried to talk to my mom about it, but it's like she's listening but she's not. She's just too happy about my sister wanting to clear things up with her.

All this is just making me not feel good at all, what do you guys think?

 

[Eabha'sMum]

ugh! families are so stressful... what if you told her bluntly.. if you move in here, i will go somewhere else. i need to think about jaxon, and i need to be sure he is safe. i am not holding the past against you, but it is a factor when it comes to the safety of my child. i will not stop you getting close to him, and i will bring him to visit... but if you insist on doing this... it will strain our already fragile relationship x

 

[abbSTAR]

awww Hun, I don't know what to say... I feel soo sorry for you this is such an awful situation to be in, I hope things sort themselves out... Big big xx

 

[rjb]

i agree with eabhasmum.
and if you are really uncomfortable staying at your house tonight, could you maybe stay with your OH or with your dad or someone?

 

[xx~Lor~xx]

Argh what a difficult situation... I can see where you are coming from, you certainly don't want her to be around your child all the time, god forbid if she went back to what she was and your LO was there, it's just not worth thinking about. Have you spoken to your mum? Like, saying if she was to go back to the way she was you would worry about your LO's safety. Maybe it is an ultimatem she needs... if you have anywhere you can go if your sister does move back in?

I really hope you manage to sort this out hun.

xoxox

 

[youngmum2b]

I don't know what to say really just didnt want to R&R, why not try talking to your mum about it when she gets back, in the mean time let ur sister know that she lives with your dad for a reason.

 

[RachelRae]

Yeah, hopefully everything just stays the same and she continues to live with my dad. OH offered to pick me up but then he had to something with his family. I guess all I can really do is just hope for the best? I know I don't want her here at all, but I guess I'll just stay in my room and keep my space.

 

[totallyashley]

Aww thats so hard. I would be just as worried and I would want things to stay the same. If she moves in with you can't you live with your dad? That would annoy her I would be a bit wary of her motives though. Good luck with it all