My surname or his?

[Lubbird]

Okay so i'm not married to my partner, and the other day my mum and sister were talking about if we ever have kids oops: lol the dk we are wtt until february) they will get really bullied cause of his second name. I was really offended cause i know he has a pretty bad surname but i never really thought about it being an issue!

Now its got me thinking about it. Would you choose your surname over your partners just because his surname was a bit ''out there''.

Here are the ideas anyway!

Boys

First Middle
Joshua Keith (Keith is my dads name so its kinda special to me)
Charlie ?

Girls

First Middle
Emily Charlotte
Sophie Anne


Would love to know your thoughts!

 

[kiwimama]

No, I think a child should always have their fathers surname, unless there is a good reason for them not to, ie - the father not being in their lives, deadbeat dad etc.

 

[Midnight_Fairy]

I gave both my children my surname as we were young etc. I changed them last year to his now me and OH have been together 6yrs and engaged. x

 

[Penfelyn]

My husband's surname is really bad. I took it, but I use my maiden name professionally so I'm still known by my maiden name. The baby will have DH's surname though. Even though its bad, I believe the children should have their father's surname if their Dad is involved in their lives

 

[AFC84]

My LO has my surname, we'd only been together 9 months when I fell pregnant and as I've been married before I don't plan to re-marry. Might sound a bit cynical but if we were to split, I'd hate to have a different surname to LO. I don't see why the baby should automatically get the father's name if you're not married, I think it's just what you're both comfortable with.

Slightly different scenario though, as OH is actually thinking of changing his name to mine eventually so we could all end up with the same surname. I just don't want to rush into it just yet.

 

[fairy_gem]

No, I think a child should always have their fathers surname, unless there is a good reason for them not to, ie - the father not being in their lives, deadbeat dad etc.

Me too.


x

 

[RubyRainbows]

I think the baby should always have the same last name as mom...

If you are married & have OH's last name... than give it to baby... if you are not married then give baby your last name...

I personally would not take a surname for myself that i don't like... especially if it's something really bad... & i wouldn't give it to baby....

However, your OH will probably be offended...? Unless he hates his surname too?? You should ask him (nicely) if he was bullied bc of his name....... if he was....... maybe he wouldn't want to give it to his child anyhow!

(There is a guy on my FB who i went to school with... and apparently he took his wife's last name... bc he & the children all have mom's last name now! He does have a pretty bad surname... But not that bad! My guess is the wife didn't want it!!)

 

[DivaSatanica]

I'm not with FOB and after much consideration, I've decided to give LO my last name.

 

[Lottie86]

You could always have both surnames. I am Miss J and my OH is Mr B and Findlay's surname is J-B.

No way on earth was I giving Findlay just his Dad's surname although I do wish now I had just given him my surname as I hate having a different surname to him. Also as both mine and my OH's surnames are boys names the hospital staff keep thinking that my surname is Findlay's middle name which gets me really annoyed when they call him Findlay B, grrrrr. Ahhh the joys of living in a house where all 3 people in it have a different surname

 

[letia659]

I personally thinkbabies should have fathers last name if they are a part of babies life

 

[~RedLily~]

I personally think babies should have the same name as their mother.

 

[Lexi's Mummy]

I think the baby should always have the same last name as mom...

If you are married & have OH's last name... than give it to baby... if you are not married then give baby your last name...

I personally would not take a surname for myself that i don't like... especially if it's something really bad... & i wouldn't give it to baby....

However, your OH will probably be offended...? Unless he hates his surname too?? You should ask him (nicely) if he was bullied bc of his name....... if he was....... maybe he wouldn't want to give it to his child anyhow!

i could have written this myself. there is no way id take a name iwasnt comfortable with and wouldnt subject my child to it. the child doesnt need the fathers name to be a part of him. id pick which ever name felt right for me, if your partners cares enough for u both he should understand xx
if however u get married and ttake his name for yourself you can always change babys name too xx

 

[leeanne]

I personally thinkbabies should have fathers last name if they are a part of babies life

I agree as well.

I've been with my OH for over 12 years and we are not married. My three kids have his surname.

 

[sw121]

I'm trying to convince my bf that a hyphenated surname is the way to go for our baby. He's not keen as he thinks it will make baby sound too posh. When I ask him which of our surnames baby should get though he is silent. I don't see why it should automatically be the father's surname.

 

[whoops]

I personally think babies should have the same name as their mother.

I agree. FOB is not in my life, but even if he was, I wouldn't give my LO a different surname to me.

 

[Ashley2189]

I guess I'm a little more traditional. I think kid's should be given their father's last name if he is going to be a part of their life. My FOB and I were talking about names last night and I asked him if he wanted the baby to have his last name. He immediately said yes and that it was a question he was going to ask me. He and I aren't exactly together anymore, but I see no problem with giving my baby his last name. He's the kind of man that does not run out on family, I know he will ALWAYS be there for LO. No doubt in my mind for my decision.