Nearing 3 Weeks Late and Still Negative Results???

[Mouse2321]

My periods are like clockwork...I swear sometimes I can nearly predict the time of day they will arrive, and as of right now I am going towards being three weeks late. i have been pregnant several times before now, but had a miscarriage each time before ever reaching 12 weeks. I know that this is not simply stress or overworking or anything I know that I am pregnant..I can just feel it..I know that may sound odd, but I just know. I don't know how to explain that though. I took a pregnancy test at a little over two weeks late, expecting to see two pretty little pink lines starring back at me, and to my dismay one lonely little line glowered in my face... I know it is possible to get false negatives, but I am worried about the health of my baby. If there was something wrong with my baby would it make the pregnancy test negative, or is that even possible. I really don't know what else to do at this point. With my past experiences, I am just so worried that something is wrong. for now I am trying to stay positive about everything...I can't get a doctors appointment until after getting two positive results, so I simply don't know what to do....Any advice, help, answers, words of wisdom, or luck would be appreciated.

 

[Topanga053]

Your doctor's office won't see you just based on your period being that late? I know a lot of doctors offices will see women for that. Also, have you tried a different brand more recently?

 

[Mouse2321]

I just don't have insurance at the moment and am currently working from home as a freelance writer, so there's no benefits with that...have to get positive results for insurance so that I can actually go to a good doctor....I plan on taking another test soon...possibly first thing in the morning...I am hoping for a positive result to tell me what I already know.

 

[Drsamyjohn]

I usually don't advocate cheating, but do you have to actually PROVE you got a positive? Just say you did and get the insurance....

 

[Mouse2321]

haha I honestly thought about doing that as bad as that sounds, but they make you take the tests in a small clinic before doing any of the paperwork...haha so that won't work either...hopefully the results will start coming back positive before I lose my mind haha

 

[Mouse2321]

still negative...I'm so confused

 

[dairymomma]

Can you go to a health department or one of those pregnancy clinics for a blood test? We have one in a nearby town that advertises free, confidential pregnancy tests and pregnancy services. I think it's run by a church or some religious organization but it's something to look into. Or could you simply call your doctor and say you want to confirm a pregnancy but will pay for the blood test yourself? I don't think it's all that expensive. And have your other miscarriages been medically confirmed? If they have, then maybe you can tell your doctor of your history of miscarriage and get the test done that way?
My dr sees me extra early and orders up a blood test for me even if I haven't had a positive hpt but feel pregnant because of my history of recurrent miscarriage and my need to take medication as early as possible. Hope you get an answer soon and good luck!

 

[Mouse2321]

i started bleeding yesterday...at this point there was nothing that doctors could do..i lost my precious little one...I don't understand how so many people that dont even want kids end up with them and then dont even take care of them, but I would die for my kids any day of the week and yet still cannot have them...Sometimes I wonder what the point of even trying anymore is...

 

[GI_Jane]

I've had my fair share of pregnancy loss so I don't want to come accross as unsympathetic but is it possible that you were not pregnant and your period was late? There is always a first time that your period can be late and not run to clockwork.

MC or not, I know the heartbreak of not getting a BFP month after month, especially after being convinced this is the month. I hope it comes your way soon.

 

[Mouse2321]

you don't come across like that at all, but I thought about that, but I just know that i was pregnant...all the signs were there except the positive result...i was even beginning to despise foods that i normally could eat everyday and never grow tired of it...It isn't the first time that this has happened, but i hope it's the last...there is nothing quite as heartbreaking as losing a child or wanting so badly to become pregnant and not being able to.. I am so tired of trying...i am about ready to just get on BC and give this up for a while...I can't take losing another one, and being shut down from month to month when we are trying is just a slap in the face..can't take that anymore.

 

[eblondie]

Mouse I'm so sorry x Have you had any testing done to find out why you are having MCs?

 

[Mouse2321]

No I haven't...I want to but as of right now I just can't afford it...Healthcare is expensive, and what insurance I have won't cover that, so I am kind of stuck not knowing for now. I don't know what is going on with my body, but I wish i could figure it out..I know I have a very long family history of endometriosis and cervical cancer, but i don't know if either could cause MCs or not...I know they aren't good, but not really sure what all they can cause and I am not certain that i have either one to begin with, so I really have no idea where to go from here....at times I just want to give up, but then I see babies seemingly everywhere and am reminded of just how badly I want to have one. I have three boys and i love them to death. They are my step sons but I claim them as my own...I'd die for any of them any day of the week and would love to give them a little brother or sister, but i just can't seem to make it through pregnancy once I finally do become pregnant. I don't know what to do anymore...

 

[dairymomma]

Endometriosis can def lead to fertility issues though I think it's more that you can't get pregnant than you miscarrying early. When do you typically miscarry? If you tend to m/c between certain times (for me it's between 7 and 9+4 weeks), it might be due to a hormone imbalance or your progesterone levels are dropping too soon and the placenta isn't ready to take over. If it's earlier, say around 4-5 weeks, it might be you are having chemical pregnancies and I'm not much help with causes for those. I do know that a shortened luteal phase (the time from ovulation to the start of your period) can cause early miscarriages. Have you tried tracking ovulation with opks, temping, and/or using a fertility tracking app like Fertility Friend? That's something you could do without needing more testing and it would give you a better idea of what's going on with your cycles. If you ever are able to get in for more testing at some future date, that information could help your doctor pinpoint what's going on too so it's not a bad idea to do it anyway. Opks are relatively inexpensive and can be ordered in bulk from Amazon or you can buy a 20 pack (Answer brand) from most Walmarts. That's where I got mine. Good luck and hope you find out what's going on!

 

[Mouse2321]

Haven't thought about that so thanks for the suggestion....i generally miscarry between 7-12 weeks..the furthest along that I have managed to make it so far is nearly 14 weeks...haven't made it that far but once and haven't gotten that far since then either. I am not really sure what is going on with my body, but I really wish it would go away...I get so excited each time i'm pregnant and my heart fills up with joy only to get shattered again and again...it's horrible....it took me a long time to finally stop being angry with God about it and to accept it...the only peace I have from it is that all my lost children are with my grandmother waiting for god to call me home too, so I will see them someday and until then I am just left to carry them in my heart and hold them with me in what little memories I have.........Sorry didn't mean to go all rambling idiot on u...i guess writing has always just been my way to cope, and i'm still not over everything yet...I don't think u ever really get over that. It is a strange feeling to love someone and miss someone that you never even got to meet....