Need advice!!

[formosa30]

Hello everyone. I'm new to this site and kinda nervous about posting about my miscarriage and what's going on now. But here it goes.....

I found out this past September that I was pregnant with twins but how I found out was the killer. I went to the hospital after passing a large amount of blood and not knowing what was wrong. Since I had regular periods every month and been told by my gyno up north that I can not conceive, being pregnant was far from my mind. Which I might add killed me inside, since all I have ever wanted was children. Well after hours at the hospital and ten billion test it seemed like was being done I found out I was pregnant. Which made me happy and scared all at once. Well long story short I had miscarried at 8wks, had my dnc done on Sep 22nd and had my first cycle on Nov 4th. Been seeing a new gyno down here and she gives me hope by saying the doc I had before was a quack job.lol And that I can conceive. Been doing several test to check my ovulating patterns and to see how fertile I really am. Or if I need injections of clomid. Well here we are in December and I'm four days late. I have taken two pregnancy test and both read negative. Should I be worried or is this normal?

 

[pink_phoenix]

im so sorry for your loss ;hugs;
i think the key is to just try and relax,
i had a mmc in may. it wasnt planned and i thought i had a coil so was also a bit of a shock. luckily my body bounced back and i had my first af 31 days after my bleeding stopped. then my cycles went into the best rhythm ive ever had in the 15yrs ive had them. was concinced every moths tho that i was pregnant, had lots of symptoms.
still took 4 months to concieve which felt like 4 years
honestly all the worry and stress just insnt worth it and i dont think there is a 'normal' when it comes to recovering. your body will tell you what it needs and as soon as your body is ready it will give you another miricle
my body repaired and healed much faster than my mind, i still cant think about it and im already 11+weeks with this preganancy
sounds asthough ur new doc will do u the world of good but really honestly just try and relax xx

 

[formosa30]

Thank you pink_phoenix. I need to relax its just so hard. I still find my self crying over the loss. I find out the happy news and then it seemed it was ripped from me. Did you feel the same?

 

[pink_phoenix]

Thank you pink_phoenix. I need to relax its just so hard. I still find my self crying over the loss. I find out the happy news and then it seemed it was ripped from me. Did you feel the same?

it was the most horrendous thing i have even been thru, it not the 1st time i mmc but this time was different id had a scan at 7weeks and everything was perfect then at 12 all hope was lost
last time i was on my own, the father at the time wanted nout to do so only i suffered really but sat watching how this time round destroyed my OH was so heart breaking
i still cry but now its from guilt aswell as sadness, im scared that we concieved again so soon, i feel like it seems as though im trying to replace my lost angel but its not like that at all
the hole it leaves cant be filled, its like puttin a round peg in a square hole, it might go thru but it never fills it properly if you get what i mean.

xxxx

 

[formosa30]

Thank you pink_phoenix. I need to relax its just so hard. I still find my self crying over the loss. I find out the happy news and then it seemed it was ripped from me. Did you feel the same?

it was the most horrendous thing i have even been thru, it not the 1st time i mmc but this time was different id had a scan at 7weeks and everything was perfect then at 12 all hope was lost
last time i was on my own, the father at the time wanted nout to do so only i suffered really but sat watching how this time round destroyed my OH was so heart breaking
i still cry but now its from guilt aswell as sadness, im scared that we concieved again so soon, i feel like it seems as though im trying to replace my lost angel but its not like that at all
the hole it leaves cant be filled, its like puttin a round peg in a square hole, it might go thru but it never fills it properly if you get what i mean.

xxxx

I understand completely. I wish the best to you and your soon to be new edition. I think its guilt for me and sadness. The guilt... Because my soon to be husband has been threw five miscarriages ( that's including me) and in that five one has resulted in a birth of a still born. His heart just broke when the doctor told us that I was miscarrying the one twin which was threating the other. But I do believe in this new doc so keep in your prayers as will I you.

 

[pink_phoenix]

I think people underestimate what it does to men. I think it makes them feel un manly and usless.
I wish you all the very best xx just make sure you take good care of yourself xx