emsbaby916
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My husband and I are strongly considering home birth for our second child. Our first son, 20 months, was born in the hospital with midwives and I had a wonderful unmedicated birth. However, my post-partum experience was the polar opposite. I was forced to take medications that I didn't think I needed. They made us stay in the hospital an extra day after promising us we could leave earlier. And the biggest thing, they kept taking my son to check his blood sugar and gave him formula twice without even asking me. Many times they would come in and say they had to take him when I was trying to nurse him. I know this is nothing like the horror stories that many women have had to deal with, but after such a powerful birth it was hard to feel so powerless and not listened to.
Even though a home birth would be exactly what we wanted we are both having a hard time getting over our fears of all the things that could happen. I had a miscarriage in April and it came out of nowhere, no bleeding or cramping, just an ultrasound with no heartbeat. I think now we see the worst case scenario in everything and we're so afraid of putting our baby at risk. I know that no woman who decides to have a home birth is putting her birth experience above her baby's health. They decide to do it because they feel safer at home than in the hospital. I really want to get comfortable with it, but I can't stop thinking about things like cord prolapse, respiratory distress or meconium ingestion or anything else that would be an emergency where a hospital transfer couldn't be done in time to save my baby. I know that just as many infant deaths happen to low-risk women in the hospital as they do at home, but if something did happen to my baby and I thought that having him or her at the hospital would have saved their life I'd never be able to live with myself. Sorry to have written a book, but my question is, if you've decided to have a home birth, how did you get past this fear that is so prevalent in our country of everything that could go wrong? I'm not looking for anyone to convince me (unless you want to try) but I'd really appreciate any words of encouragement or facts/ statistics that would make me feel comfortable. Thanks in advance ladies!!
Even though a home birth would be exactly what we wanted we are both having a hard time getting over our fears of all the things that could happen. I had a miscarriage in April and it came out of nowhere, no bleeding or cramping, just an ultrasound with no heartbeat. I think now we see the worst case scenario in everything and we're so afraid of putting our baby at risk. I know that no woman who decides to have a home birth is putting her birth experience above her baby's health. They decide to do it because they feel safer at home than in the hospital. I really want to get comfortable with it, but I can't stop thinking about things like cord prolapse, respiratory distress or meconium ingestion or anything else that would be an emergency where a hospital transfer couldn't be done in time to save my baby. I know that just as many infant deaths happen to low-risk women in the hospital as they do at home, but if something did happen to my baby and I thought that having him or her at the hospital would have saved their life I'd never be able to live with myself. Sorry to have written a book, but my question is, if you've decided to have a home birth, how did you get past this fear that is so prevalent in our country of everything that could go wrong? I'm not looking for anyone to convince me (unless you want to try) but I'd really appreciate any words of encouragement or facts/ statistics that would make me feel comfortable. Thanks in advance ladies!!