Need some reassurance

[Arcanegirl]

I keep worrying im not feeding Alex enough.
When he feeds he always goes to comfort sucking at the end and falls asleep, so if he cried again before 3 hours have passed (checking nappy first) i give him a dummy. The only time i offer him the boob again is in the evenings when he cluster feeds.

Now im worrying myself that by giving him the dummy first im not feeding him enough

Ive tried offering him the boob but he will feed for a few mins then just comfort suck.

 

[Rah]

Isobelle is doing the same thing
The way im looking at it is if she was really hungry she would let me know and not settle with the dummy or on hubby She settles less for me because of the smell of milk (so i keep getting told) and if nappies are still wet and dirty baby is getting enough


Not much reassurance i know but your not alone

 

[Shifter]

As long as he is content and producing wet nappies then you're doing fine.

I wish Jack would go three hours between feeds! Sometimes it's only 1 hour 45 minutes and nothing else will do but boob lol!

 

[FEDup1981]

if he was really hungry he wouldnt take the dummy, and carry on crying to be fed. Youre doing great! x

 

[Mervs Mum]

I think you can tell by the way they suck the dummy if they are hungry. Once Hebe was sleeping through regularly, if she woke early I would give her the dummy. If she sucked it like there was no tomorrow I'd feed her no matter how long it was since I last fed her. I personally wouldnt go off the time - just go off how he 'seems'.

Try to avoid 'timing' he's too little for that really and it only takes a growth spurt and he'll need it more.

 

[Arcanegirl]

thanks, i will watch and see how he sucks the dummy.
Im guessing more of a chomping suck like at the boob would be what to look for?

 

[Mervs Mum]

Yeah - Hebe would proper 'nom nom' on it if she was hungry and keep at it. If she just wanted comfort, she'd suck fairly quickly but nod off quickly too.

 

[Arcanegirl]

Makes perfect sense, maybe now i can figure out when hes properly hungry

Though i feel bad that ive been giving him the dummy when he was probably hungry

 

[Mervs Mum]

Dont feel bad hun. I bet I have done it at times. If he was proper starving he'd refuse the dummy anyway so definately no harm done.

 

[mama2b]

if he was really hungry he wouldnt take the dummy, and carry on crying to be fed. Youre doing great! x

This is the same with lucas, if he is truly hungry the dummy will only placify him for a few seconds then he crys until fed.

 

[Samantha675]

Don't feel bad love, it is all a learning process. It took me a long time to feel like I was doing things correctly, and everytime I started feeling I 'had' this whole thing covered Brenn would change and I would feel confused all over again. It's a mommy thing!

 

[Redz4493]

I did the same thing with Megan. If she settled on the dummy it was obviously just a bit of comfort needed. If she got more agitated and started chomping it was clear she was hungry. It was how I managed to get her to drop her night feed! I gave her the dummy one night to pacify her while I got her feed ready, but by the time I got organised she was asleep! Did that for a few nights and then she stopped waking up for it! Yey!
Don't feel bad for giving baby a dummy! As long as you're doing it for thier own good and not your own its FINE! xx