neighbours!!!!

[Reid]

I'll start with a little about my son for those who don't no.
He's 4 very speech delayed so dosnt have the understanding that other 4 year olds have. He attends a specialist nursery for children with language and communication difficulties and asd. He is on the waiting list to be assessed for asd
He's very full of energy and likes to jump and run (been told this could be sensory seeking). We live 4 in a block so have a neighbour down stairs and I no it must be a nightmare for her at times but at the same time I can't strap my son to a seat. He goes to bed just about 9ish and that's him till morning he was up later tonight and running he jumped off the chair a few times when I was in the toilet and done it again when I came back into the living room. I do say in a firm voice NO jumping please but I'm sure as most of you have experienced I'd be as well talking to the wall. So as I was sitting with him settling him to sleep my neighbour sent this message

Just to let you know my lights n my ceiling are shaking tonite. Please stop Juniour jumping on my head like this, If you want I will tape it n show you the noise so you can fully understand what's it like for me being underneath n suddenly getting these loud thuds n running.

She's previously banged the celling with a broom or something. The past few days have been very difficult ones with my son's meltdowns though he was better today xx

 

[mummy2o]

My son is constantly on the go from the moment he gets up until the time he goes to bed, although getting better as he's gotten older. I found bedtime routine is the best for him. He's 8 and goes to bed at 8, but gets up at 6 as we told him he can get up then, unless he needs the toilet then just go. We did try later but found he had accidents if it was half an hour later so he just reads his phone book or listens to his radio until he goes to sleep.

Our routine goes like this.

7.00pm you've been framed goes on, either lived or pre-recorded. you get a meltdown otherwise. Mention 30 more minutes. He use to have a traffic light timer for this bit, but he no longer needs it.
7.15ish when adverts come on that he's going bed after the next section.
7.30 When you've been frame finishes or next lot of adverts come on turn off the TV. We had tears at first, but that seems to have stopped. Tell him he needs to turn everything off. He's now doing this without promoting.
Go upstairs, brush his teeth, get his pjs on, read stories, songs until 8. Watched the X49 come past his bus depot (his room to everyone else) Say goodnight and he reads his phone book.

It took a while for a good routine to set up. In the begining we were constantly taking him back to bed or sitting with him. I use to fall asleep on his floor as I was bored, but eventually he got to know what was expected of him. I know some mums let their kids watch dvds in bed (the most boring one they can find)

Have you tried asking his school? My son goes to a similar school to yours and had loads of advice from getting his haircut, taking him to the shops, toilet training at night etc. They know what works in school and we found sometimes it works at home. My son's class uses cloud and sun for if your good or silly as they like to call it. My son dislikes being naughty so loves being on the sun, but he know understands if he's on the cloud he's being naughty and his behaviour needs to improve.

Are you in the UK? Once you get your ASD assessed and confirmed, I highly suggest going on an early bird course. You'll get such a better understand why your son is like he is. Which is perfect but quirky

 

[Reid]

He's got a bedtime routine which he's been following for months now ( he used to be up alot through the night so things have hugely improved In that respect ) I try to avoid dvds in bed I use a relaxation cd for him going to sleep. We are pretty happy with his bedtime routine
Yeah we're in the UK but we don't expect him to be diagnosed for a long while in fact they told us it could be February next year. I have been in touch with my local msp to see if he can help get the waiting list down. Xx

 

[mummy2o]

Then simply tell her, he has additional needs and can't control himself. Your welcome to try and see how you can cope, and if you succeed then great and let me know the tricks, but if you can't then learn how to deal with it. If its a one off then its not that bad.

My neighbours are a pain and she has 2 normal kids. They scream in the garden for 2 hours between 6-8 and babies bed time is 7. Then they were up at 5am clapping their hands. I originally thought it was my son awake, but nope they were clapping like some autistic people. Good thing it didn't wake anyone up besides me

 

[AP]

Would a small trampoline in the house help him bounce it out (maybe not best for bedtime but in general?

In terms of your neighbour I would go down and have a chat. She may be more understanding when she realises you are doing your best and you are awaiting some support. Unless hes doing it all night, she needs to get a bit of perspective really.
I can't be doing with my neighbours through the wall, they are up to all hours with Peppa Pig on so loud I can hear every word and could tell you what episode it is. After all the ASD courses i had been on I began to understand "what if the wee lad has asd? What if he wont sleep? What if this is the only thing that works" Once you have a bit of understanding you don't mind so much and hopefully your neighbout will be a bit more sympathetic.

 

[suzib76]

I would also go and speak to her. Explain that you don't want to upset her with noise but at the same time you have a wee one with extra needs and sometimes he will bounce about. Tell her you will allow it sometimes as your Lo has to be allowed to express himself in his home, but also tell her you will do your very best to try and keep evening noise to a minimum. Maybe with a bit more understanding she will be more tolerant.

 

[Reid]

Oh she knows he has additional needs and attends a specialist nursery as well as a development centre for children my partner sent a message back to her saying that we are trying our best to limit these behaviours and that we are in the process of getting him a diagnosis which we are having to wait months for.
Ha we had the wee trampoline in the house a while back but the way he jumps on it makes more noise. We actually had alot of bother from her a few years ago to when she blocked us putting a gate up to keep our son in the garden I had to fight a full year and get the local msp involved before was alot of hassle but I never gave in and I don't think she liked that we got it in the end up. I have no idea why as the back garden she never go's into
She has some shall we say drinking issues
Things have greatly improved for our little boy there was a time he was up 2 or 3 times throughout the night xx

 

[AP]

Oh she knows he has additional needs and attends a specialist nursery as well as a development centre for children my partner sent a message back to her saying that we are trying our best to limit these behaviours and that we are in the process of getting him a diagnosis which we are having to wait months for.
Ha we had the wee trampoline in the house a while back but the way he jumps on it makes more noise. We actually had alot of bother from her a few years ago to when she blocked us putting a gate up to keep our son in the garden I had to fight a full year and get the local msp involved before was alot of hassle but I never gave in and I don't think she liked that we got it in the end up. I have no idea why as the back garden she never go's into
She has some shall we say drinking issues
Things have greatly improved for our little boy there was a time he was up 2 or 3 times throughout the night xx

She can p*** off then shes obviously looking for something to moan about. Kids will be kids, additional needs or not, and he's not exactly behaving "badly" iykwim

 

[alibaba24]

My daughter tries to ride her scooter inside lol she also jumPS around etc just what kids do ! I'd go back and politely say (again) he's being assessed etc there is nothing u can do he's got to be able to live in his own house and if she has anymore issue take it up with council or whoever. I do sympathise to an extent which is why id never live under anyone but the bottom line is what can u really do kids are kids. Following on from the trampoline idea is there anyway u can fix it to the floor so he can bounce without banging x

 

[Reid]

My daughter tries to ride her scooter inside lol she also jumPS around etc just what kids do ! I'd go back and politely say (again) he's being assessed etc there is nothing u can do he's got to be able to live in his own house and if she has anymore issue take it up with council or whoever. I do sympathise to an extent which is why id never live under anyone but the bottom line is what can u really do kids are kids. Following on from the trampoline idea is there anyway u can fix it to the floor so he can bounce without banging x

It's not really so much that he jumps alot it's something he dose when he's angry he stamps in frustration. He was jumping off his little chair that night when I was out the room the chair is now in the big cupboard lol. We try the distraction but really what I've found its better to leave him and completely ignore it he tends to snap out it alot faster where ad if I tell him off he looks at me dose it over and over
Xx