new and need a little advice :)

[tiggles]

ok hi guys ^_^
i should start all the way at the beginning, i'm 23 and 3-4 years ago i fell pregnant for the first time my boyfriend at the time (now ex) was not happy and it was unplanned due to antibiotics, when i was scanned at 6 weeks doctors suggested i terminate the pregnancy as bubs heart beat was low and cord was not attached to the wall properly, which could have caused problems for not only me but baby. i regret to say i lost baby at 9 weeks. there were complications from the termination which left my uterus full of blood and i almost lost my life i had to have a cruet 2 days after operation. then i fell pregnant later in last year (again unplanned my ex didn't want children.) in October i was 12 weeks, i wanted to keep the child but my ex had other plans, there was a physical confrontation i was admitted to hospital and informed i had lost the child. needless to say i left him and came back to my true love,
we have been best friends for 14 and a half years, he was my first love, first boyfriend, first kiss. we dated on and off through all of this time. we are now living together, have 2 little fur-babies, planning a wedding, and ttc,he desperately wants to be a dad, and after loosing 2 i only wish to be a mum problem is,

we are 2 months in to ttc, we had an early miscarriage last month,
and this month i have all the signs, including implantation bleeding, im officially one day late for af and yet all bfns... i used "first response" early detection test yesterday and still nothing... not even a faint line... could my past be affecting us? i have p.c.o.s but i've conceived twice before... andd doctors said im in the peak of my fertitility to conceive
im at a loss im worried, and my partner is more and more disheartened....
i dont want to have to give up on ttc naturally...
someone please help me...

 

[Cowgirl07]

Given that you had two miscarriages for things you can not change or chromonsonal things I say your chances of getting pregnant naturally are still good. They say it can take 12 months for someone of 20-30 years old with no issues to get pregnant. Even though you have pcos I assume your ovulating regularly, when did you get diagnosed? If it comes down to weak progesterone or something, maybe next time you get a positive get a blood test asap.

 

[tiggles]

i was diagnosed when i was 16... and every time i've done an ovulation test when i should be ovulating it says i am.. just the line starts faint, gets darker then fades again over the course of 5-8 days.. normal? thank you so much for replying

 

[Cowgirl07]

Fairly normal I think. I haven't done opks in years but I would start at day 10 it would be faint get darker at day 13-15 (I confirmed by temping) and then faint again. Take pictures and post them in the ttc forum next time you o. They will help you a lot.

 

[tiggles]

ok thank you so much ^_^

 

[Yo_Yo]

Don't give up you have been able to get pregnant previously, so it will happen again for you.
Wishing you luck

 

[aidensxmomma]

Hi and welcome

I'm sorry to hear that you're having a rough time with everything. But try not to worry too much. I know that's probably one of the worst things anyone can say, but it's true. Even in "normal" circumstances, it can take up to 12 months to conceive. And since you have been able to conceive before, you have every reason to believe it'll happen again.

I'm 24 and was diagnosed with PCOS and endometriosis last year (although the problems have been apparent for much longer). My OH and I were TTC for 12 months before I got pregnant with the baby I'm carrying now. And in those 12 months, I had two early miscarriages. There didn't seem to be any reason for the losses. My doctor pretty much just explained it as bad luck. But he assured me that even two losses weren't a cause for concern and that it did at least prove that I could get pregnant in the first place.

As for the ovulation tests, when I was taking them they would almost always have a faint line. But as I got closer to ovulation they were start to get darker and darker and then I'd get a definite positive and they would start getting faint again. Ovulation tests can be a little trickier with PCOS, so temping might help you pinpoint ovulation.

I hope this could help a little and I'm sorry if I've rambled on too much.

Good luck and keep hanging in there! If you ever want to chat, feel free to PM me.

 

[patriciahhein]

Good luck!

 

[DaisyDreamer]

Good luck dear,