New here just lost my little peanut

[My Peanut]

Hi Ladies
I'm new to these forums and could use some support. I just lose my little peanut Friday. I was going on 13 weeks. The skull wasn't developed so I had to have a D&C. We have been trying since 2007 and in 2008 we started seeing a fertility dr. I was on colmid for 16 months and then stoped because I was tired of taking it and thought it wasn't working. We then went to talk to a Dr about doing IUI.Before we went back to get started we found out we were pregnant.
I'm having a hard time dealing with this. I don't know where to start I'm feeling I can't handle this.This would have been our first child. I've wanted chidren all my life. Thanks for listening.

 

[Lucky777]

Hi Hun

I'm so sorry to hear about your loss. Alot of pregnancies end in miscarriages unfortunately. Ive had 1 ectopic and 2 miscarriages ... hang in there this might have been your first and last one. I'm also very scared of loosing mine again but i'm trying to stay positive. Good luck and start trying again after your first cycle, you are most fertile then. If you are ready to try again. God speed....

 

[My Peanut]

Thank you. I'm also sorry I think I posted this in the wrong place. I guess I wasn't looking around enough. Good luck with this pregnancy. I hope everything gos great.

 

[gemstone]

studies hav shown u don't hav to wait to try again.. i didn't had to hav erpc on june the 21 and was pregnant again by the 26th of july and am are now 10 weeks gd luck, sorry aboutr ur loss x

 

[eclipse_xo]

I am soo sorry to hear about your loss hun. I havent had much problems getting pregnant and i cant really relate to what you must be feeling, but there are lots of woman im sure who have been through what your going through. Just dont give up hope!!! I do believe everything happens for a reason and when your time comes it will happen. Keep trying and dont give up hope!! *hugs* Its soo sad loseing a baby, i had a mmc and it tore me right apart. I know it must be harder on you because its took so long to get pregnant but if you managed to get pregnant it can and most likely will happen again. Apparently lots of woman have mc their first pregnancy and go on there second pregnancy just fine. Although there is a slight increase in mc again after you've had one... but like i said dont give up hope because one day you will have your baby and will be even more greatful for that little budle of joy after all the work you had to do to beable to have your little one. Stay strong, xoxo.

 

[Peril]

I just wanted to say I am so sorry for what you are going thru.

My second pregnancy was anencaphalic, a neural tube defect where the back of the head doesn't develop properly. I found this out at my 12 week scan (i was 13 weeks).

I have been taking 5mg folic acid ever since my loss, my 3rd pregnancy was a fluke bad luck chromosome defect, where 2 sperm fertilised one egg, which is in no way linked to the anencaphally. The folic acid seems to have solved the anencaphally, as it didn't have that problem last time.

I am now 14 weeks tomorrow, i have had 4 scans and bloods done, and this time i do not appear to have either of the problems. I just wanted to say that i know how horrific what you are going thru is, and that i know i nor anyone else can say anything to make your situation easier. I just wanted to let you know that just because it happened the once, doesn't mean it will happen again.

I really do know what you are going thru and if you need to speak to someone who has first hand experience, then you are more than welcome.

I really wish you all the best xxx

 

[Jasiellover]

So sorry *hugs*

 

[hb1]

Very sorry

Hope you get your bfp soon your chances of this happening again are probably negligable.

take care

hx

 

[london_gal]

I'm so sorry to hear your news. I had a miscarriage at 6 weeks with my last pregnancy, but didn't find out until I started to bleed at 11 weeks. I remember feeling like a complete failure and very embarrassed after I started to tell my work colleagues. But hearing so many women (friends and family who had never told me before) had gone through similar experiences, helped me to feel like a wasn't alone. In fact, I started to find some hope through all of their amazing stories. One of my friends who miscarried is now pregnant again and due any day now. Anything is possible. I know it's difficult to see past the grey cloud right now, but keep your chin up. You'll get through this and you go on to have a healthy, happy baby of your own.

Sending you big hugs and my guardian angel. Xxx

 

[mislaww]

I'm so sorry for your terrible loss. Sadly, you're not alone. I know that won't make you feel better, but we're here for you whenever you need us.

Please take very good care of yourself.

 

[Lucia]

I am so very sorry.

 

[mommy2be2011x]

I know first hand how painful this can be! When i was expecting my first baby I was thrilled went and told people about it even bought a few things Dad was happy too and one morning all my symptoms were gone which worried me, by the afternoon I had excruciating pain in my lower abdomen i managed to get to the bathroom as i stood up blood was everywhere an I was rushed to the hospital by ambulance was in intensive care two days and finally was released home with empty hands, a heartbroken and had to tell everyone who i had told i was pregnant about what had happened. Told them just what happened no detail no nothing I never told anyone besides my Fiance and of course mom & sis (whom were there the whole time) the whole story it was heart wrenching I had no Idea what to do when I got sent home I was on med and they gave me more meds, I went back in a week and to my surprise the baby had actually grown!! But the hcg levels were dropping it was like hope then heart stab again finally I had to take more medicine and at least all the tissue passed I was devastated and I know Our baby is watching over us we will never get to meet him/her until we pass away but I know baby is watching over us After all was done I thought to my self I can't have children this is the end for me it is over but my doctor said otherwise he said I'm a very healthy person and that miscarriages are very common before 12 weeks also that it was like a test run to show me that I am fertile and next time around things will most likely be just fine This didn't help and for a long time I grieved I still havent forgotten about it but it gets better I am now pregnant again Expecting in may just 2 days before mommy & daddys anniversary so he/she is our lil present from God and we are hopeful I just past the 8 week marker which was when we had our loss the first time but I am still a bit paranoid! However we are hoping for the best Hang in there hun! It will be ok and you will get better and become stronger, don't forget your baby or hide your feelings , just let your self have some grieving time allow your body to recuperate and try it again Hope my story inspires you I will pray for you Much lov

 

[My Peanut]

Peril is that 0,5mg? I was taking 0,4mg.

I just wanted to say I am so sorry for what you are going thru.

My second pregnancy was anencaphalic, a neural tube defect where the back of the head doesn't develop properly. I found this out at my 12 week scan (i was 13 weeks).

I have been taking 5mg folic acid ever since my loss, my 3rd pregnancy was a fluke bad luck chromosome defect, where 2 sperm fertilised one egg, which is in no way linked to the anencaphally. The folic acid seems to have solved the anencaphally, as it didn't have that problem last time.

I am now 14 weeks tomorrow, i have had 4 scans and bloods done, and this time i do not appear to have either of the problems. I just wanted to say that i know how horrific what you are going thru is, and that i know i nor anyone else can say anything to make your situation easier. I just wanted to let you know that just because it happened the once, doesn't mean it will happen again.

I really do know what you are going thru and if you need to speak to someone who has first hand experience, then you are more than welcome.

I really wish you all the best xxx

 

[Peril]

If you were taking standard folic acid supplements you would have been taking 400mcg (micrograms), I have been prescribed and taking 5000mcg (micrograms) or 5mg (milligrams) so 12.5 x the normal dose.

Hope this helps xxx ✿*ﾟ‘ﾟ･✿ HUGS ✿*ﾟ‘ﾟ*✿

 

[My Peanut]

Thanks Peril. I guess my dr will put me on more then I am taking now. I just uped my dose Friday untill I see my Dr. I don't even know what to say anymore. I guess I'm still in shock. I'm sooo tired but can't sleep. I can only sleep right now with a sleeping pill. First time I've ever been on them. I feel like this is all a bad dream.

 

[18singlemom2b]

i'm so so sorry. this is not the end for you, keep your head up, your strong

 

[18singlemom2b]

I know first hand how painful this can be! When i was expecting my first baby I was thrilled went and told people about it even bought a few things Dad was happy too and one morning all my symptoms were gone which worried me, by the afternoon I had excruciating pain in my lower abdomen i managed to get to the bathroom as i stood up blood was everywhere an I was rushed to the hospital by ambulance was in intensive care two days and finally was released home with empty hands, a heartbroken and had to tell everyone who i had told i was pregnant about what had happened. Told them just what happened no detail no nothing I never told anyone besides my Fiance and of course mom & sis (whom were there the whole time) the whole story it was heart wrenching I had no Idea what to do when I got sent home I was on med and they gave me more meds, I went back in a week and to my surprise the baby had actually grown!! But the hcg levels were dropping it was like hope then heart stab again finally I had to take more medicine and at least all the tissue passed I was devastated and I know Our baby is watching over us we will never get to meet him/her until we pass away but I know baby is watching over us After all was done I thought to my self I can't have children this is the end for me it is over but my doctor said otherwise he said I'm a very healthy person and that miscarriages are very common before 12 weeks also that it was like a test run to show me that I am fertile and next time around things will most likely be just fine This didn't help and for a long time I grieved I still havent forgotten about it but it gets better I am now pregnant again Expecting in may just 2 days before mommy & daddys anniversary so he/she is our lil present from God and we are hopeful I just past the 8 week marker which was when we had our loss the first time but I am still a bit paranoid! However we are hoping for the best Hang in there hun! It will be ok and you will get better and become stronger, don't forget your baby or hide your feelings , just let your self have some grieving time allow your body to recuperate and try it again Hope my story inspires you I will pray for you Much lov

what you mentioned about feeling like your first pregnancy was a test run to show you that you will be a mother in the future, is amazing. i truly feel that about my miscarriage as well. glad i'm not alone in feeling that way. very happy that you are expecting, and hope everything continues to go smoothly. i passed the mark when i lost my previous pregnancy and am feeling better because of that, but still carry some fear with me.