huskergirl
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Ok so DH and I are shattered right now....I'm also pissed as hell....After 14 months of ttc, we FINALLY had our BFP....We had several days of bliss and excitement, well then 3 days later I start spotting...I panic because of a few things... 1.) I'm O negative blood type, 2.) I had a feeling even though it was light pink painless spotting that something was wrong....
So since it started on a Monday I immediately called my obgyn's office, and tell them that I had a positive pregnancy test and that I took 8 damn test all positive all got darker lines over the 3 days of bliss and now I am spotting...describe exactly what I am seeing, and the nurse (who almost acted put out by my worry), says "well that's really common in early pregnancy I'm sure your fine have you had sex lately", I of course told the truth that we had *2 days* before the spotting started!!!! she made it seem like it was no big deal and that the spotting 2 days later was from sex....so I take a breath say ok this is new...first pregnancy I don't know anything about being pregnant maybe I'm just stressed because weve worked so hard for this.....So spotting continues....ring the OBGYNs nurse again the next day...still no cramps, still not getting heavier, no changes told to continue to relax and that this is probably normal....Day 3 of spotting....starts getting heavier, start noticing streaks of blood when I wipe still not enough to need a panty liner even....Call the obgyn get a different nurse....who is a lot more sympathetic listens talks to my obgyn sends me for stat labs....I tell her (since the first one didn't seem to care that I am a negative blood type), that I am O (-) blood type, she says they do the rh screen anyways (whatever right)....so I get labs drawn and wait anxiously to hear back....finally get a call back and my world shatters....hcg of 28, progesterone of 0.6....Now I am in shock but I'm also a nurse who has worked a lot of trauma and can shut it down and focus...that's what I do...I know that the progesterone is WAY low....in her spiel of 20 minutes about the importance of RhoGAM, and even after 3 attempts at telling her that I cant leave work to get it right then and make an appointment for the next day....I finally get her on track of that progesterone level and she keeps dancing around it saying it could just be from the miscarriage which It could be but offered no reassurances of anything....NO EDUCATION whatsoever given on what to expect 6 hours later the cramping shows up and so does the heavy bleeding...call the clinic get the on call and told I'm passing the baby and to go to the er if I fill more then 2 pads in 1 hour....take ibuprofen for the pain....I scarred my poor husband to death and then that finally passed...
Next day show up to clinic to get my shot....not only does the nurse poke me 2x for one shot (no I did not tell her I was a nurse I was to busy being shattered by the fact that my husband is holding me together and we are in a room next to a VERY loud sonogram machine clearly hearing in the outpatient area, a very healthy babies heartbeat, no one offers to move us...my husband gets pissed and makes her get a move on giving me the shot and tells her we are done because I cant even sit upright anymore)...but she didn't know any of the answers to my questions, basic questions about miscarriages....basic things that if you work in an obgyn office you should know (esp since she was on the wall when we came in recognizing her for her years of service)....she didn't know anything...so I'm tired upset and frustrated....get home finally and call my mom and get the info I need (my mom had probably a total of 6 miscarriages that her kids are aware of)...
today same story bring me back to the same area where they are doing ultrasounds while I get my blood drawn this time I don't have my husband to support me...I get jabbed 3x for blood lectured about fluid intake (because yeah 2 days after loosing my baby I'm counting how much water I drink)....I know I am emotional and raw and taking things really personally....but damn....
I still have not seen my OBGYN at all during this just her nurses...they didn't tell me until today that I should re-schedule (because I asked because I have no idea if I will still be bleeding in 2 weeks) my yearly apt for 6 weeks so it doesn't show abnormal cells from the miscarriage and think its something else....still no sign of my doc.
What upsets me the most, is I know nothing could have prevented this....I understand that its not their fault we lost our bambino....but I just wanted to feel some compassion I know I was only 6 weeks but good lord help a girl....
I'm just upset I have had ZERO education about miscarriages and my body after that I didn't have to pull teeth to get....they DIDNT even tell me not to use tampons due to the risk of infection....nothing nada....no preparation for btw when you pass the baby you are going to feel like your insides are being ripped out for 4-5 hours....and your going to bleed like a stuck pig and then tapper off to a clotty period type flow....none....no education they didn't even educate me in office on Rhogam of any potential side effects nada....
Now I LOVE my OBGYN normally....always professional at my only yearly experience with her...and I work at the hospital with her and love taking care of her patients and working with her...but I'm not feeling it as a patient when we hit our year mark ttc I tried to get an appointment as soon as possible which turned out to be almost 3 months out....No one will talk to me about my worries about how low my progesterone level was....nothing just when you get another positive test you will have to have an office appointment right away...no further education on anything....just from my mom....
granted this is still fresh and really raw...but I really even though I like my OBGYN I want to be taken seriously as a patient....yes I am a nurse and "should know this" but its hard when its your body and so scared and all the miscarriage patients I have treated in the ER I would have never said ohhh that common just relax and not address it further....
So what do ya'll think should I get a new OBGYN...I'm leaning towards yes....but idk if I'm jumping the gun on this I have seriously gotten more support from my regular DR then these nurses (cant say anything bad about my obgyn because haven't seen her a$$)...
I can go to two other clinics that are near by....
am I jumping the gun or am I justified...My husband is pissed as hell understandably after what we went through in the clinic that first day....would you change after this experience??
So since it started on a Monday I immediately called my obgyn's office, and tell them that I had a positive pregnancy test and that I took 8 damn test all positive all got darker lines over the 3 days of bliss and now I am spotting...describe exactly what I am seeing, and the nurse (who almost acted put out by my worry), says "well that's really common in early pregnancy I'm sure your fine have you had sex lately", I of course told the truth that we had *2 days* before the spotting started!!!! she made it seem like it was no big deal and that the spotting 2 days later was from sex....so I take a breath say ok this is new...first pregnancy I don't know anything about being pregnant maybe I'm just stressed because weve worked so hard for this.....So spotting continues....ring the OBGYNs nurse again the next day...still no cramps, still not getting heavier, no changes told to continue to relax and that this is probably normal....Day 3 of spotting....starts getting heavier, start noticing streaks of blood when I wipe still not enough to need a panty liner even....Call the obgyn get a different nurse....who is a lot more sympathetic listens talks to my obgyn sends me for stat labs....I tell her (since the first one didn't seem to care that I am a negative blood type), that I am O (-) blood type, she says they do the rh screen anyways (whatever right)....so I get labs drawn and wait anxiously to hear back....finally get a call back and my world shatters....hcg of 28, progesterone of 0.6....Now I am in shock but I'm also a nurse who has worked a lot of trauma and can shut it down and focus...that's what I do...I know that the progesterone is WAY low....in her spiel of 20 minutes about the importance of RhoGAM, and even after 3 attempts at telling her that I cant leave work to get it right then and make an appointment for the next day....I finally get her on track of that progesterone level and she keeps dancing around it saying it could just be from the miscarriage which It could be but offered no reassurances of anything....NO EDUCATION whatsoever given on what to expect 6 hours later the cramping shows up and so does the heavy bleeding...call the clinic get the on call and told I'm passing the baby and to go to the er if I fill more then 2 pads in 1 hour....take ibuprofen for the pain....I scarred my poor husband to death and then that finally passed...
Next day show up to clinic to get my shot....not only does the nurse poke me 2x for one shot (no I did not tell her I was a nurse I was to busy being shattered by the fact that my husband is holding me together and we are in a room next to a VERY loud sonogram machine clearly hearing in the outpatient area, a very healthy babies heartbeat, no one offers to move us...my husband gets pissed and makes her get a move on giving me the shot and tells her we are done because I cant even sit upright anymore)...but she didn't know any of the answers to my questions, basic questions about miscarriages....basic things that if you work in an obgyn office you should know (esp since she was on the wall when we came in recognizing her for her years of service)....she didn't know anything...so I'm tired upset and frustrated....get home finally and call my mom and get the info I need (my mom had probably a total of 6 miscarriages that her kids are aware of)...
today same story bring me back to the same area where they are doing ultrasounds while I get my blood drawn this time I don't have my husband to support me...I get jabbed 3x for blood lectured about fluid intake (because yeah 2 days after loosing my baby I'm counting how much water I drink)....I know I am emotional and raw and taking things really personally....but damn....
I still have not seen my OBGYN at all during this just her nurses...they didn't tell me until today that I should re-schedule (because I asked because I have no idea if I will still be bleeding in 2 weeks) my yearly apt for 6 weeks so it doesn't show abnormal cells from the miscarriage and think its something else....still no sign of my doc.
What upsets me the most, is I know nothing could have prevented this....I understand that its not their fault we lost our bambino....but I just wanted to feel some compassion I know I was only 6 weeks but good lord help a girl....
I'm just upset I have had ZERO education about miscarriages and my body after that I didn't have to pull teeth to get....they DIDNT even tell me not to use tampons due to the risk of infection....nothing nada....no preparation for btw when you pass the baby you are going to feel like your insides are being ripped out for 4-5 hours....and your going to bleed like a stuck pig and then tapper off to a clotty period type flow....none....no education they didn't even educate me in office on Rhogam of any potential side effects nada....
Now I LOVE my OBGYN normally....always professional at my only yearly experience with her...and I work at the hospital with her and love taking care of her patients and working with her...but I'm not feeling it as a patient when we hit our year mark ttc I tried to get an appointment as soon as possible which turned out to be almost 3 months out....No one will talk to me about my worries about how low my progesterone level was....nothing just when you get another positive test you will have to have an office appointment right away...no further education on anything....just from my mom....
granted this is still fresh and really raw...but I really even though I like my OBGYN I want to be taken seriously as a patient....yes I am a nurse and "should know this" but its hard when its your body and so scared and all the miscarriage patients I have treated in the ER I would have never said ohhh that common just relax and not address it further....
So what do ya'll think should I get a new OBGYN...I'm leaning towards yes....but idk if I'm jumping the gun on this I have seriously gotten more support from my regular DR then these nurses (cant say anything bad about my obgyn because haven't seen her a$$)...
I can go to two other clinics that are near by....
am I jumping the gun or am I justified...My husband is pissed as hell understandably after what we went through in the clinic that first day....would you change after this experience??
