New SP in here!

[violet chase]

So the inevitable happened and my "hubby" kicked me and my then 8mo out 1 week before Xmas! but being the "hero" he is said he would have ds every weekend! He's messed me about with maintenance but I just got it sorted with the CSA after 4 months and a third phone call telling them he doesn't know what amicable is! I know he will be in my life for the next 17 years but I feel like if I divorce him now it will be like having the chains taken from around my neck I really don't think I can hack the 2 year wait however I can't find work! I've applied for jobs folding clothes, cleaning and even glass collecting but I feel like I'm unemployable (I've been told it's because I'm over weight!) . I can't afford child care and I live with my dad who works. I've spoken to a solicitor who says I can apply for unreasonable behaviour and mental abuse but I need £500 upfront and another £500 to proceed then if he has to be served it's another £100-£200 on top of this he's joined a dating website which I don't really care for but I don't want this around my son! His mate left his wife and has shacked up with another woman and her kids which I feel is a bit sudden! I know my ds is only young but it doesn't feel right...I know I sound jealous right but I'm not!

Sorry if it's a bit of a rant but I have no one else to turn to

 

[teal]

Sorry to hear you're going through this. Good luck finding work to raise the funds you need to feel free. Does he currently have your son every weekend? I suppose if he's not sitting online or meeting up with women while your son is there then it shouldn't matter.

I don't really feel I have any advice but I hope you're ok.