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[griffinh]

So here is my story..
I got bfp at 11dpo last week. I was scared but happy and everything started to change - my boobs were red hot and sore, i was hungry and nauseous and tired. I booked a docs app for 13dpo as I'd had a chem in March.

About an hour before I went to the doctors, I started seeing pink discharge. Didn't think much of it til it turned red. Lower tummy begun to ache like flow was coming. Told the GP, who said that I should wait. If it turns into a period, test in a week, then if it's positive, call him and he will book me for an early scan.

I left the GP and Simon and I went to the hospital as it was getting heavier and darker red. Got there, this fucking ******* of a doctor saw me and asked me to do a urine test. The hospital urine test came back negative. I explained I'd had four positive tests, and I even showed him a photo of the digital and he said he could only rely on his tests at the hospital. I asked for a scan + a blood test and he said no, that he couldn't do that as the urine test was negative. He didn't believe I was pregnant and said the bleeding is my period.

My lower tummy started cramping badly and i started passing clots. Thursday night I was just inconsolable, I'd had a couple days to let it sink in and I already fell in love with our bean. Heavy period all Friday and Saturday and it's only just tapering off into spotting now. I've lost my baby. I'm absolutely devastated. Like my heart has ripped out. I don't understand how my digital said pregnant on Weds night and then it all came away on Thurs night and the hosp test was negative. I don't understand how I can be so happy one minute, and then this?

Anyway, OH and I decided we're gona ntnp for a little while. My cycle was 36 days just now which is the shortest it has been all year. I had a chem in March and that was unplanned - i lost it a week after testing. My doctor wont see me for a scan to ensure no debris, but there we go.

Gonna relax and see where the wind takes us. No temping, no opking, no charts, no obsession. If I get to 40 days this cycle with no period, I'll take a test. ANd then i'm not telling anyone if itspositive til 12 weeks.

that's my story

 

[Mon_n_john]

I'm so sorry honey. I am really sorry about the way you were treated too. My RE knows my history of very early mcs, some so early I had no time to confirm them via blood tests. She knows I'm not crazy and always does a scan afterwards to make sure everything came out OK but you would need that about 2 weeks after a MC.

You may need a new Dr. and after a couple of early losses it wouldn't be a bad idea to go in for some tests. Can you see a fertility specialist? Hugs in the meantime.

 

[bastetgrrl]

So here is my story..
I got bfp at 11dpo last week. I was scared but happy and everything started to change - my boobs were red hot and sore, i was hungry and nauseous and tired. I booked a docs app for 13dpo as I'd had a chem in March.

About an hour before I went to the doctors, I started seeing pink discharge. Didn't think much of it til it turned red. Lower tummy begun to ache like flow was coming. Told the GP, who said that I should wait. If it turns into a period, test in a week, then if it's positive, call him and he will book me for an early scan.

I left the GP and Simon and I went to the hospital as it was getting heavier and darker red. Got there, this fucking ******* of a doctor saw me and asked me to do a urine test. The hospital urine test came back negative. I explained I'd had four positive tests, and I even showed him a photo of the digital and he said he could only rely on his tests at the hospital. I asked for a scan + a blood test and he said no, that he couldn't do that as the urine test was negative. He didn't believe I was pregnant and said the bleeding is my period.

My lower tummy started cramping badly and i started passing clots. Thursday night I was just inconsolable, I'd had a couple days to let it sink in and I already fell in love with our bean. Heavy period all Friday and Saturday and it's only just tapering off into spotting now. I've lost my baby. I'm absolutely devastated. Like my heart has ripped out. I don't understand how my digital said pregnant on Weds night and then it all came away on Thurs night and the hosp test was negative. I don't understand how I can be so happy one minute, and then this?

Anyway, OH and I decided we're gona ntnp for a little while. My cycle was 36 days just now which is the shortest it has been all year. I had a chem in March and that was unplanned - i lost it a week after testing. My doctor wont see me for a scan to ensure no debris, but there we go.

Gonna relax and see where the wind takes us. No temping, no opking, no charts, no obsession. If I get to 40 days this cycle with no period, I'll take a test. ANd then i'm not telling anyone if itspositive til 12 weeks.

that's my story

I'm so sorry for your loss and OMG I can't believe how badly they treated you. That's horrible. I'm sorry. I agree with Mon that you might want to find a new Dr.

Lots of hugs for you.

 

[griffinh]

I'm having a look now. thank you so much for your kind words. xxx

 

[LittleBird]

I'm so sorry for your loss!

When I went to my OBGYN as I was having the 2nd miscarriage, I told her that I had what I thought was a period and then a BFP a few days later. She said they'd do blood tests and "IF I was actually pregnant..." Um, I was actually pregnant. And something was wrong with me because my body didn't know how to stay pregnant. That statement made me so mad. Luckily, my hCG levels were high enough on the blood test that she knew it was a pregnancy and not something I was just making up. But I know that I would have been quite offended if someone just ignored the fact that I had several positive HPTs at home. That entire experience, from the office visit to the follow up hCG draws, was enough to make me decide that I am going to find a new OBGYN. It sounds like your hospital staff needs some training in compassion and understanding. When you're dealing with a loss, the last thing you need is someone to treat you badly!

 

[hoping4girl]

hoping things get better!!!

 

[puppycat]

Hospitals here in the UK are pretty rubbish on the compassion stakes. I was sent in before Christmas by my GP who suspected ectopic. Everybody knows a symptom of ectopic is BFP and BFN then BFP etc BUT EPAU refused me because my GP had got a BFN in the surgery. I had 8 hours of going via the surgical assessment unit to be taken down to EPAU anyway. When they did a test lo and behold BFP and so they THEN did something. 8 FRICKIN HOURS!!

 

[griffinh]

hyeah its just my mc this time was different
in Feb, I had bfp bfn bfp then bfns after, then came on a week later

last week, tuesday :2 frer PM bfp, wednesday am clearblue plus bfp, evening cleablue digi bfp
half an hour before docs appointment on the thursday started bleeding. then cramping then clotting and bleeding all weekend. i havent retested.

with those bfps, all my cheapies were negative even when doing the digi. i was so appalled by my treatment. i know i lost my bean (with the amount of blood i couldnt have not!) xx

 

[coxy1978]

Sorry to hear about your loss and the way you were treated, This also happened to me with my last cycle....

I knew i was preg...i started with all the usual symptoms... (ive had 2 m/c 3 children, ectopic and ??? one more???) veins, constipation, dark swollen nipples, tenderness, nausea and dizziness.... did 4 clearblue plus and all showed faint positive, but doctors test was neg and my doctors also refused to do anything.

I was especially concerned and anxious as i had ectopic in feb/march and during the 2 wk wait, i had constant twinging in my right side, and then eventually one night (around the time you would expect plantation) i had a crampy pain in my side which started in the eve and then began to fade away the next day.....

I felt like my doctor didnt believe i was pregnant....at this tiem i hadnt started bleeding... but she told me i needed councelling after the ectopic as i clearly hadnt dealt with it (fair eough i had broken down in tears in docs when she told me i couldnt be preg) So i went away broken hearted and feeling like id concocted the whole thing in my head.

The next day, I got my period, it was sooooo painful - never get painful periods, was slightly heavy flow, and few clots and tailed off after 4 days. Then a few days later, my symptoms began to return....tender swollen boobies...constipation.... so did another clear blue and pos again!! went back to docs...showed him test stick....he agreed it looks pos, does another test and shows neg?????

he then told me i am not pregnant so there was no point sending me to EPU... He then tried telling me my test stick only looks pos up close and it was unreliable as he only goes by the ones in the docs surgery. He also said it was in my head!!!!!!!! But when i defended myself and sharply told him it was not in my head and that it was in my body, he kind of back tracked and said it wasnt what he meant!!! Knob!!!

So, i too feel like i was treated harshly. I still believe i was preg, but had no choice but to just wait and see what happens next, and in mean time i was afraid if it was an ectopic, my tube may burst because its been undetected.

However, saying all this, my symptoms settled and i feel im abouts to ovulate so im feeling a lot better again this week.

Good luck to all that are trying!!! xx

 

[griffinh]

Thanks for sharing your story hun x