newly single mum, 3 year and 2 week old with colic..

[daniandbaby]

Please tell me it gets easier?

I am trying to get out everyday and each day that passes I am glad a day has gone, which makes me feel sad for wishing my newborn babies days away.. He is so unsettled and sleeps 2 hour stretchs, I am exhausted.. The only thing keeping me going is the support from my lovely 3 year old, he is like my boyfriend lol and the fact this week was easier than last.

Totally besotted with my new addition but damn it is hard and I am so angry that I have been left in this position... so please tell me it gets easier

 

[Jade--x]

It does get easier. Once LO is sleeping more in a few weeks and you're able to get into a proper routine, the first few weeks are the hardest, at least until they're toddlers anyway x

 

[AbbynChloe]

It does get easier, before you know it once he is older he will sleep much better - and your 3yr old sounds like a darling!!

it's not a case of wishing his life away, but its really really hard to see the good through the fog of exhaustion!!

xxxxxxxx

 

[Shezza84uk]

It gets easier! I know how this feels DS has severe reflux and DD is special needs so didn't cope with his crying so sleepless nights for all now he's nearly 4months we have all bonded together and couldn't be happier peace is restored, hang in there x

 

[bananaz]

I also became unexpectedly single with a colicky newborn, though I didn't also have an older child to handle so I can't imagine how hard that must be! Anyway, I won't lie - the first few months were hell, and I was so pissed off that I was doing it by myself when I should've had a partner to share the work. But now it's gotten much better, and I'm so proud of myself for making it through on my own.

It sounds silly but I love being able to be totally selfish with her. After those horrible first few months I know that I've earned every one of her smiles and new discoveries, and I don't have to share them with anyone, and that makes this time that much more special for me.

Anyway, I don't know what else to tell you, except that it will get better so please hang in there. Also, if you have any friends or family you can lean on for support then do it! Taking care of yourself is just as important as taking care of your babies

 

[emme]

not much advice just wanted to give you a big
everything is so new atm, give yourself a few more weeks and you'll probably find you will be a pro! do you get any support from the dad? could he maybe have your eldest for a day so you just have one to look after? xx

 

[moomin_troll]

Reading this took me back to when my youngest was first born. It feels like it's never ending and so difficult in the early days.
But like the others have said it does get easier and u won't remember how it feels to just have the one baby.
Xx

 

[MorganEvans]

It will get easier for sure, and if you want to rant about whatever worries you, the whole forum is full of women who understand these things. We'd try our best to help each other

 

[daniandbaby]

Thank u every one, It has gotten easier now we have a bit of a 'routine' going, Lo is sleeping 5 or 4 hours before firsy wake then every 3 hours, only problem is I can not sleep before 12 no matter what I try so not really benefiting, But hey atleast I get the evening to my self ALLREADY!

Emme there dad is involved and is quite good, helps out financially, picks my son up from nursery and they have a good relationship, He actually came to stay on saturday as I begged him because I wasn't sure if I could do another night of screaming alone, which he did and baby slept like a dream lol

Thanks for all the replies, been a great support reading them all!

 

[moomin_troll]

That's good fob is involved and came round to help u

 

[emme]

thats good that he is helping you out, if you ever need to chat feel free to pm me xx