Newly single mummy

[1st_time_mum]

Hi ladies so about a week ago my ex decided to end our relationship we have a beautiful 8 month old boy and have been together on/off since we were about 15, we said we wouldnt have anything against eachother for the sake of lo but he hasnt seen him now for a week and hasnt asked about him either, im abit concerned my LO is going isnt to have a nice bond with his daddy, I have text to say about it but all I got was he will see him soon hopefully but I dont understand why he hasnt as he doesnt live far and doesnt do anything during the days (he works evenings but not until late) so besides all that im quite heartbroken

 

[smatheson]

 

[bee1724]

Im in same situation

Hi ladies so about a week ago my ex decided to end our relationship we have a beautiful 8 month old boy and have been together on/off since we were about 15, we said we wouldnt have anything against eachother for the sake of lo but he hasnt seen him now for a week and hasnt asked about him either, im abit concerned my LO is going isnt to have a nice bond with his daddy, I have text to say about it but all I got was he will see him soon hopefully but I dont understand why he hasnt as he doesnt live far and doesnt do anything during the days (he works evenings but not until late) so besides all that im quite heartbroken

 

[Dezireey]

Hugs xx Keep strong and keep busy. Its hard in the beginning but it does get better.

Wait and see what happens with FOB. If he wants to disappear, its his loss totally. All FOBs who just 'disappear' never to see their kids miss out on having their own family with their son/ daughter. Who wants that in life? to be old and grey with no-one who loves you anywhere? Bit bonkers really when you see it like that.

Hopefully he will be a Dad but you and your LO will do just great without him.

 

[belle254]

Hiya I'm in the same position. It is heart breaking isn't it, I want my daughter to have a good relationship with her dad but we can't do all the work. So sad nothing we can do but wait for them to organise something xx

 

[tiggertiger]

sweetie having a baby makes everyone tired and stressed sometimes a boy just needs to run away keep the doors open and explain that it,s just a phase i've raised four on my own and know that men just panic sometimes til they learn that a baby is never always a baby

 

[1st_time_mum]

Hi everyone been a while since I checked this board its been just over a month now since we split, I found someone else who is nice and really wants us to give things a go I like him too but hes just not my ex .... I still love him so much I don't know how im ever going to be able to move on, feel so low

 

[Dezireey]

Just give it time hun and relax. Have fun with this new man and he can take your mind off things. You always think things like 'he is not my ex' when you go out with someone new and you still love the last man. If your ex left you, that's his choice, let him live with it. You have no option but to move on and sounds like you are doing a good job. I would take things slowly with this new fella though as it is a bit soon and your feelings are raw but it may end up being something special for you. I battled for a long, long time with my ex because I loved him so much and it hurts like hell when someone you love leaves you aswell as leaving you pregnant/with their baby. Hurts a lot. Don't be hard on yourself, it will get better and one day you will see that it is definitely his loss. If he never comes to see his own child or never contacts you to ask about him, then you are well rid of someone like that to be honest.