Photopassion - I'm nearly 2 weeks post d&c, and I have to say I don't think my body is ready for sex or to be pregnant again. I think waiting for this first cycle to run its course is definitely, definitely a good idea. I even tried to go running on Monday and had to stop before my first mile because I had sharp pain/cramps at my cervix. So I'm still not 100% yet. I know, I'm so impatient too! Do you have a lot of other pregnant women around you? It's so hard not to feel angry or insanely jealous over other pregnant women. Luckily I don't have anyone I see on a regular basis, but my best friend who lives 2 hours away is 5 months pregnant and we were so excited to be pregnant together. And it only took her 1 cycle to conceive, when I took 11 months and lost my baby. It feels so unfair. But I'm seeing her on Saturday, mostly because I just want to get the hard part over with and also because I don't want her to feel guilty about being pregnant when I'm not anymore. It's not her fault, and I want to be happy and supportive for her. It's going to be hard, though, seeing her pregnant belly
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. I'm sorry it's been tough only having your husband and these boards to confide in. It does feel like I want to shout it out sometimes, but most of the time I'm also glad that people outside of my close circle can just treat me normally and not like I'm broken.
Arohanul - Thank you for sharing your story with us. You're more than welcome to talk through all of this with us because we're right there with you. It truly does help to talk about it, to let your feelings be heard. To feel like people care about you and what you're going through, and just to acknowledge that you were pregnant and the baby was real. I'm so sorry that you had such a struggle getting everything out of your body so that you could start to heal. For me, once I knew the baby had stopped growing and was just sitting in there, I just wanted it all to be over so I wouldn't have to imagine it in my body like that. I'm sorry you had to go the surgery route when that wasn't your first choice. It's perfectly natural to grieve now that the procedure is over. And like Photopassion said, your hormones are falling and can definitely make you feel unbearably sad. Other ladies have told me to warn my husband about mood swings like that. Thankfully since about 1 week post d&c, I've felt mostly like my old self emotionally. My DH and I both feel sad when little reminders happen, and sometimes I feel my eyes tear up, but it will get easier. I'm so sorry that it took you guys 3 years to conceive the first time, so I understand how it can all feel totally impossible to be pregnant again quickly. They say it's easier to get pregnant after you've already been pregnant once, but who knows. I hope it's true.
Afm - As I said, I've been feeling better emotionally. My spotting has now turned brown. It's still light, except now it's also paired with a lot of watery cm so I think I'm getting closer to having my uterus fully cleaned out and to stop shedding. I also feel a little itchy, like you get when a cut is healing. I hope it's not itching because of an infection or something. My doctor who performed the procedure called yesterday and said they tested the tissue to make sure there wasn't anything "that could hurt me" in the future. I'm sure it just checks for diseases or infections, not the cause of the miscarriage. So it sounds like once my body heals I should be good to try again and shouldn't anticipate any new complications. It will be 2 weeks on Friday since the procedure.
Over the weekend, my DH and I bought a car
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. My DH's car got into a little accident a couple of weeks ago (talk about bad luck lately) and it wasn't really safe to drive, and we'd be planning to buy an SUV for when the baby comes. So we just went out and got it even though there's no baby anymore. Sometimes looking at the new car is a reminder of what we lost, but mostly it's a nice new thing to play with and distract me a little.
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Thinking about you ladies. We'll get through this and get our rainbow babies. We will.
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