No longer engaged :(

[KatieMichhele]

So me and Nathan (fob) got in from town earlier and he told me he no longer wanted to get married to me, that he didnt think it was important and never wanted to get married. I am gutted to me marriage is really important and im so upset that he's been saying he's going to marry me for over a year and then changed his mind months ago yet let me go to wedding fayres, buy a dress, and plan. We broke up, i feel stupid as i still want to be with him but when we talked about it we want very different things i want to get married and have a few children and he's now told me he never wants to and just wants a relationship thats not to commited even though we have a daughter together, i dont know what to do i feel like a failure aand as if im not good enough i also feel like iv let Alexandra down xx

 

[AbbynChloe]

sounds like to me a man who wants to have his cake and eat it - is this the kind of man you want to spend the rest of your life with, someone who can kinda commit?? maybe??

I mean i don't know whether this is something that can be resolved over a cnversation or maybe you need to have a long hard think about what you want, expect and deserve of a partner.... and is he worthy of you??

He may be your daughters father but he might not be the man for you - just think about it xxxxxxxxxxxxx

 

[emeraldbaby]

Unfortunately he doesn't want the responsibility of marriage, he's made that clear. If I were you I wouldn't waste any of your time trying to convince him otherwise, it won't work out and you will only end up losing more of your self esteem.
Im sure he wouldn't have a problem leading you on with small bits of attention and empty promises, while still living the other life he wants, so as the previous poster said- he can have the best of both worlds... But that's not fair on you or your daughter. You BOTH deserve better. You guys aren't a back up plan.
Remember, you have not let your daughter down. He has. He chose this, not you. He could choose to grow up and make a family for his daughter and respect you, but he opted out.
One day you will find someone that wants all the same things you do, and will put you and your daughter in first place. Until then enjoy focusing on Alexandra and doing fun things together to get your mind off everything and move on.
All the best xx