Hey ladies. Is it just me or does no one end up pregnant their second cycle of ttc? I've been doing all kinds of reading and it just doesn't seem to happen. I'm on 10 DPO with some minor cramping and stark white negative PG tests and this month just doesn't even feel like a possibility. Any of you get pregnant your second cycle of ttc?
Nobody Gets Pregnant Their 2nd Cycle
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I don't know if anyone on here has or not, but one of my friends got pregnant on her second cycle. She stopped taking BCP 3 months before they started trying, and on the second month of trying she got pregnant! She now has a little girl who's just over 2 months old. So it is certainly possible. I think part of the problem is that a lot of ppl who were on BCP don't leave any time between when they stopped taking the pill and when they started trying to conceive. So there's no time for the body to start regulating itself properly again. (I'm personally guilty of this one too.. but I'm also not expecting things to happen right away either)
She was also really calm about it. They weren't stressing out about wanting it to happen immediately... she was pretty convinced it was going to take like 6 months or more actually, because her mom had such a hard time. I think the reality of it is that our bodies will give us the BPF we want when our systems are ready to handle it. (And that includes not only BCP, but lifestyle, stress levels, over-all health etc)
I just feel like trying to force it to happen by taking all these huge lists of vitamins, and eating/drinking certain 'fertility' boosting things, and everything else people put themselves through is asking for heartache in the end... because even if you can somehow 'make it happen' by pushing nature along, if your body isn't ready to sustain it, it's more likley to end up in m/c which has got to be one of the most horrible things imaginable.
It might not happen for me on cycle #2, but I'm pretty convinced it will happen at some point, so I'm trying not to stress out about it too much. I'm usually a pretty relaxed and organized person, so I don't want TTC to make me crazy. Creating a new life should be amazing thing of bonding between you and your partner, and I don't want it to become a chore. I know I'm just starting out with TTC, so maybe in a few months time I might change my mind, but for right now, that's where I'm at.
She was also really calm about it. They weren't stressing out about wanting it to happen immediately... she was pretty convinced it was going to take like 6 months or more actually, because her mom had such a hard time. I think the reality of it is that our bodies will give us the BPF we want when our systems are ready to handle it. (And that includes not only BCP, but lifestyle, stress levels, over-all health etc)
I just feel like trying to force it to happen by taking all these huge lists of vitamins, and eating/drinking certain 'fertility' boosting things, and everything else people put themselves through is asking for heartache in the end... because even if you can somehow 'make it happen' by pushing nature along, if your body isn't ready to sustain it, it's more likley to end up in m/c which has got to be one of the most horrible things imaginable.
It might not happen for me on cycle #2, but I'm pretty convinced it will happen at some point, so I'm trying not to stress out about it too much. I'm usually a pretty relaxed and organized person, so I don't want TTC to make me crazy. Creating a new life should be amazing thing of bonding between you and your partner, and I don't want it to become a chore. I know I'm just starting out with TTC, so maybe in a few months time I might change my mind, but for right now, that's where I'm at.
Wow, thank you for such a wonderful reply. I didn't expect to get anything so heart felt! I really appreciate you taking the time to give me such lovely response.
I got off birth control on the last day of December. It took two months for me to even start ovulating. Last cycle was the third cycle off birth control. This cycle feels different. All I have is mild cramping instead of a slew of other symptoms. I am trying to be calm and positive about the experience, but my husband makes it hard. Every time I get close to AF, he gets so excited and I want to make it happen for him and not have to see that sad look on his face when he starts. He was already upset about this month because he had the stomach flu while I was ovulating. Last night, I was craving something, and he looked at me all excited and said, "Maybe you're pregnant!" I really want to have a baby too, but every time he gets all excited and then depressed when it doesn't happen is hard. He's wanted a baby practically since we got together and I've made him wait a long time before I even got off birth control.
Sorry I rambled that all out, I just wanted to share it. I'm trying to remain calm, but I'm taking on my husband's stress as well. The other thing that stresses me is, it took my sister 1 month to get pregnant with my first niece and she was supposed to have a 5% chance of ever conceiving. It took my mom 3 months to conceive my sister. I have this bad feeling that I'm not going to be as lucky as they were.
I got off birth control on the last day of December. It took two months for me to even start ovulating. Last cycle was the third cycle off birth control. This cycle feels different. All I have is mild cramping instead of a slew of other symptoms. I am trying to be calm and positive about the experience, but my husband makes it hard. Every time I get close to AF, he gets so excited and I want to make it happen for him and not have to see that sad look on his face when he starts. He was already upset about this month because he had the stomach flu while I was ovulating. Last night, I was craving something, and he looked at me all excited and said, "Maybe you're pregnant!" I really want to have a baby too, but every time he gets all excited and then depressed when it doesn't happen is hard. He's wanted a baby practically since we got together and I've made him wait a long time before I even got off birth control.
Sorry I rambled that all out, I just wanted to share it. I'm trying to remain calm, but I'm taking on my husband's stress as well. The other thing that stresses me is, it took my sister 1 month to get pregnant with my first niece and she was supposed to have a 5% chance of ever conceiving. It took my mom 3 months to conceive my sister. I have this bad feeling that I'm not going to be as lucky as they were.
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It certainly can happen, and it's a tricky thing to stay hopeful and positive when you don't want to have to deal with the dissapointment if it's a bfn instead of a bfp. But it can happen, and that's important to focus on.
If your husband is adding to the stress, maybe try talking with him about it, and letting him know that you're really excited about a baby too, but that it might take a while for things to happen because the likelyhood of actually conceiving each cycle for normal healthy couples is only 20%.
I bought my DH a book about "Pregnancy for Dad's" and it talks about the conception process, and what to expect once you are pregant, and goes through all the steps and stages week by week. It gives them a heads up of what's coming, and helps to bust the myth that getting pregnant is "easy." I know my DH found it really helpful, and now we're much more on the same page. Maybe your OH would like something like that too?
If your husband is adding to the stress, maybe try talking with him about it, and letting him know that you're really excited about a baby too, but that it might take a while for things to happen because the likelyhood of actually conceiving each cycle for normal healthy couples is only 20%.
I bought my DH a book about "Pregnancy for Dad's" and it talks about the conception process, and what to expect once you are pregant, and goes through all the steps and stages week by week. It gives them a heads up of what's coming, and helps to bust the myth that getting pregnant is "easy." I know my DH found it really helpful, and now we're much more on the same page. Maybe your OH would like something like that too?
I'll definitely look into that. I tried to explain the process to him and that it could take several more months, but he's just so ready. I'm 21, so as much as I want it to happen, I'm cool with it taking a few months. When got all worked up about it last night, I said, "Don't worry, our turn to be excited will come." And he nodded and smiled. It would make the process a lot easier if he was more chilled out.
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Hi ladies, just popping over for a nosey. Just to let you all know, don't give up hope. I actually fell pregnant on my first cycle of TTC, so it can be done. Just had my first scan the other day. Oh my lord, it takes your breathe away.
Fingers crossed for all you TTC and positive thoughts xxxxxxxxxx
Fingers crossed for all you TTC and positive thoughts xxxxxxxxxx
What were your early signs of pregnancy? All I've got right now is a mild cramp in my hips and lower back and thighs, but other than that, no symptoms.
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My first signs were sore breasts, which then carried on until week 9. I also experienced night nausea, but found that snacking every couple of hours helped that.
Fingers crossed that your signs are positive xxxxxxxx good luck
Fingers crossed that your signs are positive xxxxxxxx good luck
I keep checking my breasts to see if they are tender, but I don't want to check them too much so as to make them tender, lol. Someone told me that you'll get a positive OPK before you'll get a positive HPT if you're pregnant. Well, I just took an OPK and its positive... but I'm starting to doubt the logic... Have you heard anything about that?
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Saw this in Unread Posts and just wanted to stick my head in and say I got pg both times on my second cycle so it is definitely possible!
Thanks! That's very encouraging! I'm on my second cycle, but the only BD I got in was the day before my +OPK, because my husband got the stomach flu, so I'm not feeling too promising. 10 DPO now,mild cramping in my hips, a +OPK today which apparently doesn't mean anything, and nothing else.
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I fell pregnant my 2nd month of TTC.. the first month I "felt pregnant", al signs leading to yes.. but I wasn't. The 2nd month however, I thought I was out for sure! No syptoms, no nothing... Sure enough, took a test .. and my little boy was in there 
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Hiya, I'm another one who got pregnant on my second cycle!
It can definitely happen, I was certain it would take at least six cycles so it was a bit of a shock when I got those two pink lines
It can definitely happen, I was certain it would take at least six cycles so it was a bit of a shock when I got those two pink lines
I took an IC this morning and I think there might be a very faint second line! I don't know if my eyes are deceiving me! I was sure I was out this month because of my lack of BD around ovulation and now I have no symptoms. Normally I'm nauseous and tired, heartburn through the roof, very emotional. But the only symptoms I've had this month is the mild cramping in my hips since 8 DPO and last night my roommate was eating hotdogs and the smell made me want to throw up. It could have just been that I'm vegetarian though and can't stand the smell of processed meat.
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