Normal or not

[TTC 84]

Ok so I'll try not to make this too long so short version is bubs was born with meningitis /sepsis was in hospital 2 weeks on Iv antibiotics had multiple tests ect . Now 5 months down the track I worry all the time about something happening to him and him dying it's completely irrational but it feels like a real concern at the time . I see a rash on him I think the worst he coughs I panic will I calm down ? Anyone else had the same or similar .

 

[afisppq]

I was the exact same way with my first, we had some complications in the beginning as well. I was constantly thinking the worst and it definitely got better as she got older but I still think that way sometimes. Now that I have another baby I don't worry about it as much because I don't have time, but there are times where I think the worst will happen. It does get better though!

 

[Spudtastic]

My babies were born healthy and are healthy now. I do worry about every little thing too. I was at the doctors so much with dd1.
I find it does get better though with time. I think it's natural to worry about kids especially if you are a natural worrier like me.

 

[Spudtastic]

So I just accidentally clicked on information about post natal depression (pnd) and read it and apparently too much anxiety about baby's health is an indicator of pnd.
How are you feeling otherwise?

 

[TTC 84]

I feel great otherwise it really is just anxiety about Jaxons health but also sometimes my own or the other kids as well . I remember feeling this way with the others just this time seems extreme .

 

[LoraLoo]

Firstly- I can't believe your baby is 5 months, that went quick!
Our baby died from meningitis so these feelings are normal for me, but from speaking to others who's chikd survived it- Id say your feelings are also equally normal?
Are you on fb? Thetes a god group called life after meningitis- it's a closed group, so you can talk to those who understand in relative privacy x

 

[loeylo]

I'm like this too. My wee one was perfectly healthy, aside from a milk allergy. I lost three babies (early) before her so I automatically think something will happen to her too. I have had severe health anxiety about myself, particularly focusing on cancer, for years. I also had PND when my wee one was younger (she is also 5 months old) and I definitely think that anxiety and PND can be linked.

 

[TTC 84]

Firstly- I can't believe your baby is 5 months, that went quick!
Our baby died from meningitis so these feelings are normal for me, but from speaking to others who's chikd survived it- Id say your feelings are also equally normal?
Are you on fb? Thetes a god group called life after meningitis- it's a closed group, so you can talk to those who understand in relative privacy x

I know 5 months has flown by , I'm so sorry for your loss you are an amazing strong woman x I will definitely check out the Facebook page .
Thankyou xx

 

[SpringCrane]

My sons have thankfully been perfectly healthy, and I still have a lot of anxiety about their health and safety, and about my husband's. I suffer from anxiety in general, and it's at its worst during pregnancy.

For me I try to stay cognizant of my inclination to worry and obsess about worst case scenarios and try to just remind myself it's my anxiety talking, not reality. Deep breaths and forcing myself to think about something nice/happy helps me.

I'd talk to a healthcare professional about it if you haven't yet. It's a good idea to just have record of how you're doing should it get better/worse, and obviously your doctor might be able to offer support that is helpful.

Good luck. You're not alone

 

[_Meep_]

Another worrier here. In her short life, my daughter has had cerebral palsy, pneumonia, eye cancer, gastroparesis, shaken baby syndrome, dysphagia and a host of other conditions.

Of course, she doesn't actually have any of them and is perfectly healthy, but my point is, I ALWAYS think the worst. And I don't even have any reason to, as she's never really been ill.

It's understandable that you feel the way you do.

I hope it doesn't seem like I am taking the piss with my post - it feels faintly ridiculous now that I was ever so concerned, but at the time it was unbearable.