Not sure if I'm in the right place but here goes....

[w.axl.rose]

DH and I are hoping to start back on the TTC roller coaster in the spring and I'm not sure which part of the forum I belong in!!

We do have a daughter and I really don't want to upset any of you lovely ladies that haven't got your miracle yet but it was a very long road to get there and I'm 99% certain that TTC a sibling will be just as challenging!!

We got married in 2003 and started trying for a baby straight away and after a couple of years of BFN's we were referred for testing which showed that my DH has very low sperm motility and we would need IVF/ICSI

We waited another 18 months to see if we would get NHS funding but were unlucky as our PCT refuses to fund fertility treatment past clomid so we had to go private

We had 6 rounds of treatment all ending in BFN and our clinic was adamant that we were just unlucky - they did a few more tests on me but said that nothing was wrong so in desperation we changed clinics and I had immune testing done which showed that yes I did have (quite a few things!) wrong too

We decided to give it one last shot and were finally blessed with our BFP in May 2010

We are now waiting for our LO to wean herself from BFing so we can try for a sibling for her, I feel very anxious about starting the whole process again and I'm very aware that time is against us too (I'm 40 in January)

Hopefully I will be able to post in here and share my journey but apologies if this isn't the place for me (and well done to anyone who managed to get to the end of this post!)

 

[cbmd]

Hi...im pretty much in the same boat. Me and my OH had finally given in on ttc after a very very long time, like you we were waiting on ivf referral but the waiting list was massive. i have pcos and no periods at all and OH has rubbish swimmers. we somehow got a natural bfp when we gave up trying as we were waiting on ivf. Like you i know how hard the lttc is and its a horrible and hard journey and i also feel every so grateful i have my son. we decided to ttc straight away as we know it might never happen again, my LO is 6 months old now and of course nothing has happened. my pcos is actually worse than it was before i was pregnant.....obviously this time round we arent eligible for any kind of help which is fair enough as we already have LO. so just hoping it naturally happens again one day......cant help starting to get the same feeling back as before though!!
x

 

[w.axl.rose]

It's awful isn't it I always assumed that once I'd had a child the pain would go away but it hasn't and in some ways it's worse!!

I really don't want C to grow up without a sibling as she won't have any cousins DH has a sister but she has learning difficulties and epilepsy so is basically still a child herself and I have a brother who is gay and very anti children!!

 

[cbmd]

yes i know how hard the pain is when you feel like it will never happen, we spent years trying and everyone else falling pregnant around us. it makes our LO even more special as he was pretty much a miracle to have him...but yes i feel the same, i would love for him to have a sibling not for my own selfish reasons, purely for him to have a sister or brother. Im just as obsessed with ttc as i was with him, i always thought id not care after i have him.....in a way i dont want to get back into all the obsessing and a lot of your life evolving around ttc......could you afford another icsi? or are you hoping to try naturally if you dont mind me asking?
x

 

[w.axl.rose]

We've been trying naturally for 7 months now but realistically we will need to have more ICSI as DH's motility is so low. It's going to be a struggle to afford more treatment but we don't have any choice

 

[cooch]

You belong where ever you're comfortable x

 

[cbmd]

my OHs is similar i think when he was last tested he had 4% swimming forward, im sure they said 40% was normal....but then the doctor did say it only takes one...x

 

[Armywife84]

I'm confused your status says "Pregnant" .

Anyways, there's also Secondary Infertility forum too. There's a mix of ladies on this section, but majority seem to be still LTTC their first. While I can't identify with secondary infertility, I imagine it's like starting back all over again.

Although, not being able to have children at all would be much worse (IMO).

Good luck in your next .

 

[w.axl.rose]

sorry i usually post from my phone or ipad and its a pain to alter anything from there

 

[readyformore]

Feel free to join my thread in the 35+ forum. https://www.babyandbump.com/trying-conceive-over-35/810724-ltttc-thread-everyone.html

I've found this particular board a little tricky to navigate when you already have children. So, I started my own in 35+. Everyone is supportive regardless of your status. Feel free to pop in.