Ntnp 2010

[Kitten]

So I know it seems daft to have NTNP team when NTNP basically involves doing nothing but I figured we can incorporate those who are TTC when their OH's aren't as I imagine you can't secretly take OPKs? And maybe it could also help us in the transition from NTNP to TTC if luck doesn't happen

So anyway intro wise I was thinking we could just say whether we're NTNP or TTC whilst OH NTNP, what your deadline is before actively NTNP and anything else about you that you want to really. Figured it would be nice to support each other during testing time too.

So...

We're NTNP, and I think I'll set myself a deadline of 1st August before we start actively TTC (as in charting & using OPKs etc). I'm still breastfeeding my 9month old so my periods haven't returned so it's just random BD'ing here! I'm testing on Saturday (17th) as with LO we conceived on the 3rd of the month and this month before we decided to NTNP we had an accident around the 3rd which is how this 'talk' and decision to start NTNP all came about. After that I'll be routinely taking a HPT on the last day of every month until either my periods return or I get a BFP.

So that's me, how about you?

 

[Hannah]

Hi, thanks for setting this group up!

Well a bit about me, hubby and I are trying for our second but are basically NTNP as we are not charting, temping or using OPK's. Tbh, I would but hubby was in a previous relationship where there were a few miscarriages, two ectopics which resulted in tubes being removed and then IVF which failed. He said it tore him and his ex apart and I can understand that so we are just gonna try and let nature take it's course. We got caught first month with our little girl so fingers crossed although I would be shocked if I was that lucky this time.

AF due tomorrow so we'll see. If not then it wasn't for lack of trying, lol

 

[EstelSeren]

Hi! I'm Beca and I've just started ntnp for my 1st child. I got married on April 7th and we decided to 'try' for a baby from then! I've also just stopped taking the bcp (Microgynon 30) at the end of last month so I'm not entirely sure of my cycles yet as I've not had my first proper one after stopping! I've decided that I'll be testing on April 29th or 30th as I'm going off to a reenactment fair on the 30th until May 2nd and want to be sure that I can drink the mead and eat the barely cooked meat without risking a potential baby. It's also the time when I should get AF if I go back to a 30 day cycle straight away!

I hope to be able to wait at least 6 months before ttc in earnest as I know that after being on the pill for over 3 years might put my cycles out of whack! Hopefully it won't come to that and I'll have concieved a honeymoon baby this week!

Beca :wave:

 

[Hannah]

Hi Beca, I came off BCP last time, thinking it would take ages to get caught but it was first month, my midwife said that apparently you can be really fertile after coming off the pill. so fingers crossed for your honeymoon baby and congrats on your wedding!

 

[readynwilling]

Hey

I'm TTC and my DH is NTNP. Next cycle i will be temping- which he will know cause he hears the themometer beep, but i also have OPK's to use next cycle (which i will probably hide). He is just going with the flow. I feel i sorta gotta do it this way cause DH has sorta low sex drive (or he's scared...) so i gotta try to catch the egg or it might never happen. this might be TMI but so you have an idea - we fool around and we 'o' every day but we only have sex once every couple of weeks... (which is almost like he's preventing but he claims he isn't)

We have been married for almost 3 years and together for 10.

 

[Kitten]

Ooh Beca sounds like Hannah might have some positive news there

That sounds like quite a bleurgh time for you readynwilling if you're broody but only Bding once in a while. Hope you manage to catch!

 

[readynwilling]

Ooh Beca sounds like Hannah might have some positive news there

That sounds like quite a bleurgh time for you readynwilling if you're broody but only Bding once in a while. Hope you manage to catch!

Thats exactly it - 3 years of broody and no babies. He says it will happen this year but i don't wanna wait any more!!!

 

[Kitten]

I hope he comes round a bit or you manage to get your timings sorted.

I'm feeling a bit deflated today, have had a good read into things and it looks like I might not start realistically ovulating until Theakston is weaned. I'm so sure something different happened this month though? I guess I'll see if AF shows up. Oh well, all that BD'ing won't do any harm, good practice and all that And the whole reason I believe in NTNP is I'm a bit of a fate believer so if I don't get pg until he's weaned then it'll be for a good reason, like I won't be able to cope with 2 so young kind of thing. Looking like I might be here for a while though!

 

[Hannah]

Fingers crossed for you Kitten, not just for this month either, just try and keep positive, lots of ladies on here seem to have managed to get pregnant whilst breastfeeding so it must be possible.

Do you have any plans to wean Theakston or just planning on self weaning?

 

[Kitten]

Self weaning sort of but I'd like to be making positive steps by a year but hopefully when we can start on cows milk things might improve. At the moment he's doing really well though with being at the childminders, he has a little feed when he wakes at 6.30am, gets dressed and stuff and then finishes it at about 8am, and then goes without until I get him home at about 2pm, maybe another little drink at 3pm if I'm trying to get him to nap, then the bed feed at 6.30pm. On a good night that's it until the morning but he's been ill and had the growth spurt recently so has been factoring in one at about 9pm and then 2am or 5am but hopefully now his cold is clearing up we'll get rid of those. I'm thinking that's maybe why I *think* I ovulated the other week? Because he's dropped so many feeds and then maybe picking them up again has really confused things. If he keeps upping his solids I see no reason why we couldn't get rid of the mid-afternoon feed and then we'd just be on the morning and evening

 

[readynwilling]

I posted this in my journal but I was hoping if I posted it here you girls could help me figure out how to bring up the topic with DH....

After a long day of lurking on B&B I have decided that I need to have a convo with DH.

If he agrees to more sex i will agree to NTNP. I won't chart, i won't temp etc etc.

I just don't want to upset him, turn him off more, etc etc

 

[Hannah]

Maybe try choosing a quiet relaxed time over the weekend and start by saying how much you want a baby and how much it means to you. Then try and be really calm when you explain that you understand he has a lower sex drive but due to that the best way to maximise you chances is by temping and opk's but that you understand that he does not want to follow this path so in order to stand a chance of getting pregnant you will need to have sex more often. Maybe try and make it seem as though you are only wanting to temp/opk because you don't want to pressure him for more sex? Above all stay really calm and relaxed cos I know if I get even slightly stressed when talking to my hubby about anything I want him to change he just closes down totally. Good luck!

Update on me and any advice you may have, I was due AF yesterday and still no sign of it, I had cramps all day yesterday as if I should be having AF, I took a test this morning but I really don't feel pregnant, no symptoms like with Addy but I have never been late either??? I am just so impatient, I want the answer either way! lol

 

[Kitten]

readynwilling I think Hannah nailed it really, just approach it calmly and be honest Good luck!

Hannah, have your cycles been consistent since Addy? I know they can change after pregnancy. There's so may things that alter them like stress etc. Do you chart your cycles? I used to think mine were late but it turned out I had a 32 day cycle. It might just be a flukey thing.

I tested this morning too and got a BFN. I assume if I don't get a period in the next week or so that means I didn't ovulate this month after all. I got twinges and things last night, so not sure if it happened then? Things were definitely different this month than the last 8 anyway. Oh well. Feeling quite glum as the reality that it could be another 6months or whatever until my cycles come back is sinking in but hey, whatever.

 

[Hannah]

Yeah, I went straight back into a 33 day cycle starting about 8 weeks after I gave birth. I have all the cramps of AF but nothing happening and no other symptoms. Am gonna test again on Monday if nothing happening.

and don't get down, like you have said, fate is a funny thing!

 

[readynwilling]

Yeah, I went straight back into a 33 day cycle starting about 8 weeks after I gave birth. I have all the cramps of AF but nothing happening and no other symptoms. Am gonna test again on Monday if nothing happening.

and don't get down, like you have said, fate is a funny thing!

Thanks for you advice Hannah. Im gonna give it a go tonight. I have my fx crossed for you!

 

[Kitten]

Good luck to both of you!!

Yeah I'm feeling more content this morning I think it was just odd realising I couldn't have babies for the time being. It's something I've always taken for granted, you know? It's weird to think my body has been paused

 

[readynwilling]

Well my chat with DH went so so. It started out fine.. i asked him how he was feeling about and he said he didn't know and wasn't say too much so i started pressing him which turned into a heated argument where i am pressuring him and he doesn't want to TTC just NTNP and I said that was ok but i felt like we were definately preventing. which made him mad... anyway when we woke up i was so mad that he made me feel like my feelings were invalid and i was wrong to feel them that we started to argue about that. However by noon we were and all was well. However im still not 100% clear where we stand. So i took my temp this morning and i will just keep on keepin' on in the direction i was going prior to all that. I did take a hpt and it was neg however i am only *approx* 6 dpo so it was neg as expected and really the chances that we caught the egg are very very slim... but im nutso like that

 

[Kirstin]

Just noticed this link in the thread. We have a 4 month old little boy but I think I'll be looking for a ttc team already OH asked me when I was going to use the ov sticks this morning

 

[Kitten]

Sounds very confusing readynwilling! Hope you get some answers soon x

Ooh Kirstin exciting!

 

[readynwilling]

Just noticed this link in the thread. We have a 4 month old little boy but I think I'll be looking for a ttc team already OH asked me when I was going to use the ov sticks this morning

Thats great! wishing you all the best!