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Strange to be back here. I've popped in a few times since I had the boy, and more recently for July's testing thread, but now we are once again TTC so here I am.
Our boy was a complete surprise, given we'd - literally - just been told that we'd never conceive without help, and we'd just got the go-ahead for IVF. So I have no idea if we'll be able to have another. Private IVF is out of our budget, and obviously we don't get NHS help now we've been blessed with a baby, so we're on our own.
Which is nice in so many ways - no Clomid and all the joys that brings(!) no monthly scans and constant blood tests and OBGYN visits. No 'infertility' or 'subfertility' screaming at me from the top of every bloodwork form. No worrying that we'll never ever get to be parents, no stabs to the heart whenever a pregnancy is announced, no looking enviously at mums and their babies. We know how blessed we are and we are grateful as hell.
But also, it's scary because it's just us this time, there's no 'at least we've got the IVF to try'. And we're heading back to the monthly OPKS and HPTs, the diligent tracking of cycles, the two week wait every month, the frustration of BFNs, the obsessing over every little symptom: all of that.
In a perfect world, I'd have at least another year of just us and the boy before trying again. Two under two, even two under three, is not how I pictured things going
However, every day makes me a little older, and if we do have trouble, another seven years would put us over the big 4-0 and beyond. If we put off trying, and then it didn't happen for us, I'd always wonder if waiting cost us a chance for a second little miracle. At least if we try and it doesn't work out, I can blame good ol' Mother Nature and not myself. So, ready or not, we're jumping back in. Fingers crossed!
Anyone else going for a second baby when they were told they'd never get the first? Buddy up if you like
Or, been lucky enough to have a second? Reassure me that we're in with a chance!
Our boy was a complete surprise, given we'd - literally - just been told that we'd never conceive without help, and we'd just got the go-ahead for IVF. So I have no idea if we'll be able to have another. Private IVF is out of our budget, and obviously we don't get NHS help now we've been blessed with a baby, so we're on our own.
Which is nice in so many ways - no Clomid and all the joys that brings(!) no monthly scans and constant blood tests and OBGYN visits. No 'infertility' or 'subfertility' screaming at me from the top of every bloodwork form. No worrying that we'll never ever get to be parents, no stabs to the heart whenever a pregnancy is announced, no looking enviously at mums and their babies. We know how blessed we are and we are grateful as hell.
But also, it's scary because it's just us this time, there's no 'at least we've got the IVF to try'. And we're heading back to the monthly OPKS and HPTs, the diligent tracking of cycles, the two week wait every month, the frustration of BFNs, the obsessing over every little symptom: all of that.
In a perfect world, I'd have at least another year of just us and the boy before trying again. Two under two, even two under three, is not how I pictured things going
However, every day makes me a little older, and if we do have trouble, another seven years would put us over the big 4-0 and beyond. If we put off trying, and then it didn't happen for us, I'd always wonder if waiting cost us a chance for a second little miracle. At least if we try and it doesn't work out, I can blame good ol' Mother Nature and not myself. So, ready or not, we're jumping back in. Fingers crossed!
Anyone else going for a second baby when they were told they'd never get the first? Buddy up if you like
Or, been lucky enough to have a second? Reassure me that we're in with a chance!
