Opinion on this please

[neadyda]

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[Incubus]

To be honest that sounds a little rude to me on her behalf. If you invite someone to your wedding who is in a long term relationship then you invite there partner as well.

 

[Lauraxamy]

I'd definitely find that a bit off.. if you're inviting a couple you invite them together. Even if you invite a 'plus one' you'd still invite them together

 

[mummylove]

Think i would be pissed. Seems a little rude to invite ur other but not his partner

 

[Kate&Lucas]

Genuinely shocked at how rude that is!
I'd refuse to go in that situation and tbh, oldest friend or not, I'd be pissed off if OH went. That is not how you treat your oldest friend and his partner.

 

[lindseymw]

That is really odd.

I would be rather pissed off. You either invite both people to the whole day, or the the night do only or not at all.

 

[neadyda]

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[felix555]

That's beyond rude! Especially as you've been a couple so long

I'd to one of two things ..

1 ) don't go at all (most likely)
2 ) both you and your OH show up for the reception only. I'd RSVP saying you'll only attend the reception.

What does your OH say?

 

[neadyda]

That's beyond rude! Especially as you've been a couple so long

I'd to one of two things ..

1 ) don't go at all (most likely)
2 ) both you and your OH show up for the reception only. I'd RSVP saying you'll only attend the reception.

What does your OH say?

I text him saying about the invite and all he said was 'Ahhhh. We need to figure that out'
He hasn't replied to anything else I've said about it x

 

[felix555]

I hope he can see how rude it is. I think my OH would be quite pissed off with his friend if he received an invite like that.

 

[neadyda]

He just replied saying 'it does seem off' x

 

[jd83]

I think they had good intentions with inviting him, as he is a long time friend, but didn't realize how badly it would come across to only invite him to the wedding. I am sure the reasoning is due to limited number of people who can fit in the actual wedding venue. That doesn't excuse the fact that its rude to split the invite, but just kind of an explanation as to why they probably did what they did with the invite. They should have just invited you both to the reception if they couldn't fit both of you in the wedding venue.

 

[neadyda]

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[smileyfaces]

Omg That is so so so rude. How can they do that?!

 

[doctordeesmrs]

Oh that really is rude. I know weddings can be expensive but if she knows you both have to travel to get there it seems a bit mean. Hope you and DH can work something out.

 

[prettybirdy27]

Yes, that is extremely rude. This is a HUGE pet peeve of mine. Here in the USA it's called a tiered wedding and it's one of the rudest things you can do in terms of inviting guests. The exception is if you have a truly private ceremony (example, just you and your OH and both of your parents and closest family, less than a dozen or so people) and then have a large reception afterwards.

I was once invited to a tiered wedding, it was a little different but I was invited to the reception only. I figured the ceremony was private, so it was fine...until I got to the reception and there were 150 people there, and I found out from chatting to people that almost everyone in the room had been invited to the ceremony as well. There were only a handful of people out of 150, myself included, that didn't make the cut to be invited to the ceremony. I got really embarrassed and hurt, and split right after dinner. I wasn't going to hang around knowing that I wasn't important enough to come to the ceremony, but that I could certainly fill a seat at their reception because they needed a certain number of guests.

End rant.

 

[HoneyBee144]

I think that's really rude and would feel really put out if that was me.

I hope your OH agrees with you and sorts it out

 

[emyandpotato]

Have you checked with her where the reception is? It's unusual but many venues only have room for about 10 ceremony guests, and if it's a case of simply no room then I get why she invited her oldest friend but not you.

 

[neadyda]

Have you checked with her where the reception is? It's unusual but many venues only have room for about 10 ceremony guests, and if it's a case of simply no room then I get why she invited her oldest friend but not you.

It's the same venue as the ceremony. X

 

[lau86]

I can only think it's about money? And them having to feed you?
Very rude though, I would not be impressed at someone inviting hubby and not me, you come as a couple or not at all.