Opinions please

[Irishbabe]

Hi everyone,

I would love your honest opinions.

Me and OH have now been ttc for 16 months now with no luck at all

Is anyone else in similar position and do you think there's something wrong.

 

[aimze]

Hi Irishbabe - I've been trying for 7months with no joy for baby #1...,Have you been to your GP? x

 

[mummy.wannabe]

im on my 11th month now and have been to doctors last week and im getting an appointment to see the gyno, i think if you havent already you need to get checked out and check everthing is ok x

 

[Celtic_Cutie]

My OH and I have been TTC for 3 yrs now... I finally gave up and went to an OB/GYN that has a special interest in infertility issues. My advice is to see a doctor ASAP and develop a game-plan. I would also suggest picking up a copy of "What to Expect Before You're Expecting" as it's easy to read and can shed some light on possible bumps in the road to a baby.

 

[ao30]

How old are you? In the States its recommended you see a doctor after 6 months of actively TTC if you are in your mid-30s, and after a year if you are in your 20's, early 30's. If you chart your BBT and have charts you can bring to your appointment or have some underlining condition such as PCOS that you are aware of, you can usually see a doctor even earlier.

Do you chart your BBT? If you don't, you should. It will show if you are ovulating or not. It's possible that there is nothing wrong and that you are simply missing your peak fertile days. Do you use OPK's? Do you have periods? Are your cycles long or extremely short?

I would begin charting if I were you, and would schedule an appointment ASAP. Not trying to scare you dear, but the sooner you go, the sooner you will hopefully know if there is something wrong or not.

 

[mjemma]

I have been TTC for a year and the doctor sent me for tests as he thought I might have PCOS. Turns out I have a 10cm dermoid cyst on my ovary that needs to be removed. I would never have known this if I hadn't been to see my doctor and I would say it is always best to get checked out so you can get any help you may need.

 

[Irishbabe]

Thank you everyone for your replies

I'm 32 and am regular every month and lasts 5/6 days - i read online this is good sign I don't have pcos. Does anyone know if this is right?

Judging by cm I ovulate around day 14/15 so I know to dtd 4 days before that right up to shortly after.

I haven't been to the doctor yet.

Ive kinda just accepted I'm never gonna get preggers but OH would love kids and it's tearing me apart.

I was going to go to docs on my own to see if there's something wrong, without telling hubby - what do you's reckon? I don't want OH being worked up about it.

My friend took 2 years til she got preggers and she was in her mid 20's so I know sometimes these things take time.

 

[ao30]

Sometimes it's something very minimal that can be easily addressed. I really would see a doctor... also, one of the best "first" thing you can do is get your OH to do a semen analysis.

 

[kchandler]

I know it's scary, and I have to say going to the doctor, even if they discover something can help set your mind at ease. I was not wanting to go, not wanting to hear anything bad. I was told I was not ovulating, and to my suprise it was an easy fix. When I though I had been trying for 2 years, I realized I had only been spinning my wheels. I say that we have only been actively trying now for 4-5 months, because we were not firing on all cylinders before. There is nothing worse than really wanting something and then realizing the time I wasted out of fear.

 

[missangie]

hello! we have been TTC #1 for 14 months but i have very irregular cycles (no PCOS though) I would definitely recommend seeing a dr to get the ball rolling with tests and what not. I stopped BC in April of '10 and saw a Dr in August and started some testing then and am still doing the the last of the testing before they will give me clomid to help with ovulation. There is lots of bloodwork, exams, ultrasounds, tests, OH's SA that will probably need to be done to rule out any problems. Good luck to you, I hope you get some answers soon!!!

 

[CherokiJ]

Hi! DH and I have been ttc for over 3 years now and I'm 22, so I think it can def. take a while. Almost everyday I feel like giving up but I know that it will happen when the time is right...I just hate waiting lol. Have you tried preseed? This is my second month using it along with clearblue digital opks, so hopefully it works within the next few months. ( Not really banking on this month). And even if the preseed doesn't work, it makes for fun babydancing!!

***BABY DUST

 

[taylorxx]

I doubt it's anything. Sometimes it just takes longer to conceive for some women, especially since you're 32. Do you have spotting before your period? If so, it could be low progesterone. That could be keeping you from conceiving. It's very easy to fix. Are you taking Ibuprofen after you ovulate? It can interfere with implanting. There are little/easily treatable things that can keep you from conceiving.

Also I recommend using OPKs and charting BBT. Fertilityfriend.com is a great website to do so. Going by CM isn't always the best way to figure out when you ovulate. You can have random patches of fertile cm throughout your cycle. You may be ovulating later and have a short LP? It's best to chart so you can figure out how your cycles work even if your regular.


Wish you the best of luck hun, sending loads of baby dust xx







ETA: Also forgot to ask, has your OH had his sperm tested?

 

[Irishbabe]

No neither of us has got tested yet.

Would caffeine prevent you from getting pregnant?

 

[taylorxx]

Yes but that's only if you drink loads. Like 5+ cups of coffee. Even then it's still possible you can still conceive. It makes it harder though. Do you chart BBT hun?

 

[Cara89]

DF & I have been TTC for just about 15 mos now, after a year I went to my GP - who told me that usually they don't refer people to OBGYN's for fertility issues until 2 years of TTC without any luck, but since I was only in my early 20s she was concerned. The OBGYN, who I saw today, is sending me for blood work to check hormone levels and things like that & she is making, well... heavily suggesting, DF do a semen analysis. Personally I get DF to come with me to the dr and do what he can as well. Us women are sooooo quick to assume that if we aren't getting a it's our fault... I find comfort in having DF there and knowing he will do what it takes as well. Having a baby means creating a family, not just for the women, but for the men as well. IMHO they should be willing to go just as far as women are -- which usually means doing whatever it takes to find out wtf is up with the ever elusive . I agree with the other ladies, book an appointment ASAP!!