Other family!!! what to do

[babe2ooo]

Hey guys

i just dont know what to do!!!! me and my oh live in are own 2 bedroom house with little baby jack and my partners son callum, his mum passed away so he lives with us fulltime, callums nan has always been involved in his life and i'm really glad she is but she keeps making me and my oh look bad, we have bought him a bike as his main present and ben 10 stuff and a stocking, i spoke to her 2day and shes bought him about 10big present and she bought all the same ben10 stuff as me and i'm so upset, she just make us look like crap parents and i dont know what to do??? the house we live in is are new house and we dont have alot of room for toys so were going to have no where 2 put them all and last year callum said to me nan gets me loads of present doesnt she......he doesnt know the meaning of christmas now cause he just get what hes want and know nothing about how much things cost, cause we have got him a really good bike that cost us alot, she spoiles him so much and i dont know what to do,

we also have jack and hes not her grandchild so shes just bought him an outfit but when jacks older i dont want him to feel bad that he doesnt gets bag and bags of present from her, i dont want him to feel bad,

one other thing when we moved out i had to throw half of callum toys out because he has broken most of them which just shows he doesnt care about his toys cause his nan just buys him more, my mum doesnt do this for jack but i dont know how to tell her cause she no family to me and it really annoying... my oh feels like this to but he never say anything

 

[FEDup1981]

I know its prob hard for you, but its her way of keeping hold of her grandson. Shes prob worried that if she doesnt treat him, or show him how much she cares then she may lose him, a part of her daughter. Shes trying to hold on tight.

Does ur mum spoil callum as much as she does Jack? Jack will understand as he gets older about different families.

Have a good clear out of his old toys before christmas to make room for new.

 

[babe2ooo]

yeah my mum spoiles callum loads to, i just feel she is doing to much and he becoming a spoilt brat,

 

[leeanne]

I don't know what to say. If you talk to his nan, she will have hurt feelings.

Why don't you suggest this? That instead of gifts, have her open a bank account for Callum and stick money into the account for when he gets older?

 

[babe2ooo]

yeah thats a good idea but i dont think she would go for it

 

[Linzi]

I understand where you are coming from my little brother is exactly the same. My mum and dad are pretty well off now and my brother just doesnt understand the value of things because he knows if he asks for something and whines for long enough, he'll get it. I reckon they spend about £2k on his at Christmas. My OH was there last year and it was just embarrasing how much he got. He's turning into a really horrible lad because he's so spoilt and he doesnt really care about anything apart from his 'stuff'.

I would have suggested the bank account idea too... I can understand shes just trying to hold onto her grandson though. Does she see him often? Maybe instead of 'things' she could have more time with him if she doesnt already?

xxx

 

[babe2ooo]

she used to see him all time but now shes got a new job she hardly ever see him, she just doesnt have the time anymore, she used to spend loads of time with him when it was just him and his dad but now i'm around she doesnt spend as much time cause shes knows i'm on top of everything unlike my oh used to be lol