Please Help Me!

[ScaredSilly]

I am so scared right now. As a young teenage boy I made the horrible mistake of having unprotected sex.

My partner and I think that we love each other. So about a month ago, we did it. Now, she is getting sick everyday alot. But one of my friends said there is a bug going around . I'm confused about that part.

I want to be completely sure if she is or But she won't take a test! At first she was trying to make up excuses why she wouldn't. But then finally came out with the truth!

She wants to test herself to see if she would be a good mother. To test this she wants to see ON HER OWN if she is pregnant. If she can tell on her own if she is, then apperently that will make her a good mother. Motherly intincts she calls them.

To top off that, she wants to keep the baby if she is pregnant. Not even put up for adoption. I have tried to convince her on both of these but she won't listen. And I am not planning on leaving her.

I don't want an abortion but I am not sure if I want to have the baby either. Please help me! I am in of desperate need.

Please forgive me if this is in the wrong section.

 

[Alexas Mommy]

I think it is important that she takes a test because she will need to see a doctor. If she still insists that she doesn't want to take a test, please make sure she takes prenatal vitamins-just in case she is. I dont know why she thinks she can tell if she is pregnant by letting her maternal instincts set in, because sometimes that does not happen until later on-in most cases not until after the first scan. The best thing you can do is be there for her, don't pressure her into making any decisions about the baby right now, she likely is already stressed enough as it is.

 

[aidensxmomma]

Hello.

Okay, to start off, she really needs to take a test so that she can get to a doctor and get the baby (if she is pregnant) taken care of properly. It's hard to rely on your insticts because they can be manipulated by certain moods and stuff. I'm pregnant with my second baby and I was sure I wasn't pregnant. I took a test to finally settle it, and it turned out to be positive. Also, she may know she's pregnant due to instincts but be in denial about it, which will make taking a test, getting a doctor's appointment, etc. be put off for a while. Having insticts telling you if you're pregnant or not has nothing to do with how good of a mother you will be.

Second, don't take this as me being mean or anything, but you need to remember if she is pregnant that this is her baby too. She gets to help make the decisions. And everyone knows that having sex, protected or not, can lead to pregnancy. So just relax and try to help her through this. I know how scary it is.

Keep us updated, okay. And please don't think I was a b*tch. I wasn't trying to be.

 

[LilMama2be]

Hello.

Okay, to start off, she really needs to take a test so that she can get to a doctor and get the baby (if she is pregnant) taken care of properly. It's hard to rely on your insticts because they can be manipulated by certain moods and stuff. I'm pregnant with my second baby and I was sure I wasn't pregnant. I took a test to finally settle it, and it turned out to be positive. Also, she may know she's pregnant due to instincts but be in denial about it, which will make taking a test, getting a doctor's appointment, etc. be put off for a while. Having insticts telling you if you're pregnant or not has nothing to do with how good of a mother you will be.

Second, don't take this as me being mean or anything, but you need to remember if she is pregnant that this is her baby too. She gets to help make the decisions. And everyone knows that having sex, protected or not, can lead to pregnancy. So just relax and try to help her through this. I know how scary it is.

Keep us updated, okay. And please don't think I was a b*tch. I wasn't trying to be.

agreed

 

[alice&bump]

has your gf missed a period? if not its highly unlikely she's pregnant. but i would try and get her to get a test. i was trying for 9 months to get pregnant and there were so many months i was convinced i was pregnant and i wasnt, but then when i actually was, i was convinced i wasnt, so you cant rely soley on mothering instinct.

if she is pregnant its important she gets folic acid and gets to the doctors to make sure she's getting everything she needs. good luck xx

 

[nikky0907]

She can't figure it out on her own.I mean she will once she gts a huge stomach and starts feeling kicks but it's important that she finds out as soon as possible so she can have proper prenatal care.
Her beliefs are a bit ridiculous if I may say.

I hope you two talk about this rationaly and calmly and figure things out. If she wants to keep the baby than the only thing you can do is be there and be the best dad you can be.
Good luck!

 

[rajan]

Best is to take a test. Always remember to have a protected sex.

 

[ScaredSilly]

Thanks girls. I guess I will have to convince her.

Thanks again.

 

[adzuki]

Good luck, SS! Keep us posted, and if you have any questions, please don't hesitate to ask!!!


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[dan-o]

Good luck, hope you can convince her to be mature & do a test xxx