Pregnancy after loss - scared

[Hexamtwist]

Hey everyone,

My name is Hannah and I'm currently 6 weeks pregnant. I've spent the last half hour reading the posts on here and my heart how out to each and everyone one of you. I lost my son at 33 weeks and 2 days due to a blood clot in the placenta. Ultimately my boyfriend and I broke up over it. We couldn't deal with the pain of never hearing our son's first laugh.

I lost my son on August 1st, just 12 weeks ago.

I went on a drinking spree and am now pregnant by a one night stand. I guess what I want to know, is it wrong of me to not only want to keep the baby, but also to not want to rush to tell my family? They were so supportive and excited and they were just as heartbroken as we were. I just can't imagine what would happen if something were to happen to this baby. And I feel bad for thinking about something happening but it's all I worry about.

 

[MamaTex]

I don't think you are in the wrong for wanting to wait to tell your family. I would have the same reservations after having a loss myself. I rushed to tell everyone I knew only to lose my child at 5 to 6 weeks. It was embarassing for me so this time around, only a select few will know but that will only be after I am a lot further along. Anyway, enough about me! I don't think you are in the wrong for keeping the baby. It is your choice to do that just as it would be your choice to not keep the baby. Just because the baby would be born from a one night stand doesn't make the child any less capable of being loved and what not. I don't know if the person you got involved with is around and is giving you support, but if he is not, just know that there are resources for you to support you, even though it sounds like your family would ultimately support you

 

[nicksi27]

Hello Hannah - my heart goes out to you. Im so sorry for your loss - you have gone through pure heartbreak and the grief will still be very raw. Im also sorry to hear that your relationship ended. When we lost our baby, there were times when i thought me and my partner would split up. Its so hard and can totally push couples apart.

I think its totally understandable that you want to keep your baby and have reservations about telling family. Im 10 weeks pregnant and my family dont know and im not sure when im going to tell them. its like i dont want to let them down again should anything go wrong. I feel a lot of shame and guilt even though i couldnt help what happened. Take things at your own pace and dont feel pressured into anything. . We also lost our son due placental problems and had to wait 12 weeks for blood results. Have you had tests to see if you have any clotting disorders? If you havent i really think you should contact your doctor asap and request some as you may need treatment in view of your history of placental clot. I am also taking low dose aspirin to help thin my blood and maybe you should also discuss this with your doctor.

Sending you lots of hugs and congrats on your new pregnancy. If you ever need anyone to talk to feel free to inbox me. xx

 

[jessandaj]

Its not wrong to want your baby even though you dont know the person well. Its still your baby, and your family will either be supportive or not but im guessing they will be since im sure they were ready and excited for a baby just like you were. They will probally be happy for you hun, good luck

 

[Hexamtwist]

Thank you for easing my mind. Although I want them to be apart of this, I just need to figure it all out before I let people know.

Nicksi27 - I suffer from low blood pressure. I ended up getting dehydrated which dropped my blood pressure. When I raised my blood pressure it clotted. It happened when I was a youth, so I feel more to blame because i let myself get dehydrated, knowing what happens when I do.