Pregnant After A Loss

[beckybrom]

Ok, so i was talking to my mum who was chatting with her friend whos an anesthetist and she said...

After losing a baby (miscarrige, stillbirth etc...) if you get pregnant again with the same man the chances of losing the baby dramatically drop because the new dna he introduces into your body (what makes baby) your body neglects because it is forgein and not used to it. So second time around your sort of immune (i dont really know how to say this like im thinking it haha) sort of like having an immunisation for the flu.

i didnt understand it at first and she used the example that when a patient gets an organ transplant they have to have medicine to stop the immune system rejecting the new organ.

if anybody else has heard of this or has anymore information about it feel free to add your bit as i find this really interesting and also it makes me feel abit better about my pregnancy now

 

[mommyof5]

I would completely disagree, the pregnancy is a form of 2 dna's and our body is made special to know not to attack it (hence the hcg) not trying to sound rude, but that just sounds a bit off, and there is no scientific evidence to support it. I think it would be an easy thing for scientist to figure out. Babies arent a virus strand, out body creates the hcg where as the flu is entered through an outside source. Same with an organ transplant, it is an outside item that our body did not create. A baby is something our own body created.

 

[Mrskg]

I'm not sure I agree either x me an hubby have a daughter an we've just had 3 losses we are now pregnant again so hoping this is our rainbow baby xxx

 

[beckybrom]

I would completely disagree, the pregnancy is a form of 2 dna's and our body is made special to know not to attack it (hence the hcg) not trying to sound rude, but that just sounds a bit off, and there is no scientific evidence to support it. I think it would be an easy thing for scientist to figure out. Babies arent a virus strand, out body creates the hcg where as the flu is entered through an outside source. Same with an organ transplant, it is an outside item that our body did not create. A baby is something our own body created.

its ok i wasn't quite sure myself i just wanted to hear other peoples opinions on this but at the same time for somebody in the medical profession to say it if nothing about it is true seems strange to me. At the same time she could of just said to sort of make me not worry as much which will cause my blood pressure to rise which will cause problems again. Thanks for your comments girls xx

 

[Mrskg]

Whether it's true or not I really pray this is your rainbow baby xxxxx

 

[SabrinaKat]

I don't think so, honey -- but what IS important is that each pregnancy is different from the ones before (for instance, I had a mc and two possible chemicals and am now, 7wks from delivery--yikes!). There are so many reasons for miscarriages that unless there is an obvious problem (e.g. in my case, perhaps my undiagnosed underactive thyroid caused problems?), it usually is only 'bad luck' (sorry).

I do think it is important for you to relax as much as possible and take it one day at a time (honestly, very hard!) -- and wishing you a strong, sticky bean!

best wishes

 

[Mrskg]

Sabrina congrats I had a mmc and 2chemical last yr I'm now pregnant again your story gives me hope x i know mt thyroid is fine not had anything else tested but also been told since I have 3 dd that they were all just bad luck I really hope my luck has change this time x wishing you a speedy delivery xxx

 

[beckybrom]

thank you for your kind words girls me too, ive never heard of that before i just wondered if any other women had i actually posted this on another forum after this and never got some very nice comments some women even calling me dumb which isnt the case at all when i was actually just asking a question sorry for ranting here i just feel a tad upset haha dont mean to burden it on you xx

 

[Mrskg]

That's shocking some people on here are just to quick to jump x no question on here is silly especially if its to get some reassurance x ignore them they are not worth it x I see you are quite new here please don't let that put you off you will find most of us are really nice lol xxxx

 

[beckybrom]

thank you i know it was just a bit of a shock really but it wasnt on here it was a different forum which tbh i dont really like anyway. They where saying thinks like tell that to the women who has had 3 misscarriges like im just some random person asking stupid questions in the wrong places, what do they know about me how do they know i havent had 3 misscarrige (even though i havent and i dont mean that in a horrible way i just hope you know what im getting at) but i have just given birth to my first child 5 months ago who was a stillborn at 33 weeks pregnant and nearly died in the process people are just too quick to judge and once again im sorry for rambling on haha its not any of your problems x

 

[Mrskg]

We are all here to share each others problems x so sorry for the loss of you baby boy how heartbreaking x I know only too well how hard it to relax when PAL but just remember your angel has sent this baby to you xxx

 

[tu123]

thank you i know it was just a bit of a shock really but it wasnt on here it was a different forum which tbh i dont really like anyway. They where saying thinks like tell that to the women who has had 3 misscarriges like im just some random person asking stupid questions in the wrong places, what do they know about me how do they know i havent had 3 misscarrige (even though i havent and i dont mean that in a horrible way i just hope you know what im getting at) but i have just given birth to my first child 5 months ago who was a stillborn at 33 weeks pregnant and nearly died in the process people are just too quick to judge and once again im sorry for rambling on haha its not any of your problems x

I think we all hold on to any bit of hopeful information

But no the aneasthetist's was maybe trying to be "nice"?

How you are still here after a still birth i will never know.

You must be so brave.

 

[beckybrom]

i actually found out girls i wrote it wrong, it lowers the chance of getting pre-eclampsia not miscarrige/stillbirth xx

 

[SatansSprite]

Im not sure that's true either. A woman I follow on Youtube about 6 months ago just had her second child, with the same man as her first. She was sent to be induced in both pregnancies with pre-eclampsia. From everything I've read, if you get it once, you're at a higher risk of getting it again. I'm pretty sure it's all about the mother on that one.

As far as I can tell, and from what I've read I think that about the only way the father's DNA can have any impact on the mother's body attacking the baby as an invader or whatnot, is if he contributes a +'ve blood type to the baby, and the mother is -'ve, has blood crossover in a previous pregnancy and then has her body attack future ones.

 

[beckybrom]

I know it goes by the worst case of pre eclampsia you have in your first pregnancy the higher the chances are of getting it again but i think the percentage of getting it is still quite low. I had a severe case of pre eclampsia and i think my chance of getting it again is only around 20% but im not sure i would have to ask my consultant again x