Pregnant after a MMC and scared....

[K123]

I had a missed miscarriage in September, ending in an ERPC at the start of October.

I'm now 7 weeks pregnant again. Was coping ok until a few days ago but am now at the stage my last baby died and am terrified of losing this one too. Know that stressing isn't helping but just can't stop worrying.

 

[Krissy485]

Hi! Just wanted to say I total understand! I have had 3 loses and each one was hard but the first and third were the worst because I was almost 12weeks before we found out. the first was a blighted ovum that went undected till I started spotting. and the third one I had a scan at 7weeks that showed baby with hb and went back at almost 12w and baby had died at about 8 weeks.

I am now happily almost 30w pregnant and this pregnancy I had to keep telling myself all was going to be ok. I had my scan at 7weeks what show happy baby and hb but I was terrified going into my 12w scan. I cried like a baby when we saw our happy little guy in there. bc of some complications I have now, nothing too bad, I have been getting pretty regular scans so have gotten to watch baby blake grow. got them at 7, 12, 18, 22, 24, and 28 and I have another scheduled for 32. it really helps...

I hope it all turns out ok for you!!! are you going to have a scan soon?

 

[K123]

Because I've just had one miscarriage nobody medical is too concerned and I haven't been offered an early scan. Am considering a private one though.

 

[dairymomma]

I've had 8 losses so I have 8 different dates to pass now. It sucks and it's hard. My current pregnancy was probably the hardest and I had severe anxiety issues until I was past 14 weeks (the latest I've had a miscarriage). Know that you aren't alone and it's possible to go to term despite a loss or more. I've had 8 losses but I've also had a beautiful little boy and an adorable little girl and Baby #3 is due this summer. Hang in there and hopefully this is your sticky rainbow bean!

 

[dan-o]

I would say get a private scan if EPU won't help you, the wait until 12w is tortuous otherwise. Take each day one at a time, it's bound to be hard until you feel kicks to reassure and even then the worry never leaves you! Xx

 

[K123]

I think I will get an early scan - just trying to work out what point will be best so that I don't immediately start stressing again afterwards. Can't wait to feel movements to reassure me!

 

[Tess.ie]

The worrying is awful. I've had 2 MMC, and it makes me so reluctant to enjoy or connect with the pregnancy. I really want an early scan but the epu won't see me until 9 weeks (their reasoning, because before that you could see a heartbeat but it could still go wrong, whereas after 9 weeks seeing a growing baby the chances of something going wrong are much much smaller).
So it's a waiting game, and oh so slow!!

 

[K123]

Had an early scan today after a small bleed.

Baby is measuring 8w2d (a day more than I expected) and is doing just fine. Really clear heartbeat. Feel so relieved.