Pregnant and dating???

[Amsan]

A quick back story... I'm currently pregnant now, 5 1/2 months.. FOB and I were together for about 3 years roughly. We had a miscarriage and an ectopic, so this pregnancy has been super exciting for me as everything has been perfect with our little guy.

Perfect with FOB? Not so much. He has a history of lying, cheating, manipulating, the list goes on and on and on. I should have left a long time ago, but I know it brought me here with my little guy on the way and I would never ever ever take that back in a million years. But, I finally decided I'd had enough of FOB and that I not only deserved more, and did not deserve the stress while pregnant, but our son doesn't deserve a flake-out of a father either when our son is born. If FOB decides he wants to fight for joint custody, I have no oppositions, as long as he's SERIOUS. But he's going to have to work for it as I'm not allowing him to walk in and out based on convenience like he has with our relationship, as being a parent is NOT about whats convenient and what's not..

Anyway... My first and most important priority of course is my unborn son, and my health. I will always put what's best for him before what I need or want.
BUT. I'm so lonely. It would be nice to go on a date or have some male company, not to DTD but just to talk. Chat. Not be alone, as 98% of my friends went M.I.A. when I got pregnant, so for the last 4 and a half months, the only person I've really had to talk to or spend any time with (when I got that much) was FOB. Now he's not around, and I'd rather him not be.. I'm just lonely! It seems so weird trying to make that advance or trying to meet guys, while pregnant. Like I'm doing something wrong. And of course no go in their right mind is going to want to take on another man's responsibility before the baby is even here, at least not that I've found. There's not much around here to do for a pregnant woman so it's been hard to meet someone.

Gah. I feel GUILTY for wanting some male attention and company!

 

[Dream.dream]

To be honest I don't think now is a good time to start looking for guy. If one comes along that accepts your situation then that's great but you may be setting yourself up for some disappointment or attracting the wrong kind of guy , and neither of those are good for your son.

I know it's Lonely I've been there but your probably better off trying to look for some new friends . Try an find a single moms group, or a prenatal classes for single moms that you an meet can meet some women in similar situations .

 

[Becky61]

Hi
Where abouts in the world are you?
FOB & i split when i was 6 weeks pregnant, & like you i seeked male attention, i found someone who accepted me as i was, but after a month it became apparent he was just using me.
Its easy for me to say (but so true) that once your baby boy arrives, you will never be lonely again. I often think about putting myself back on the dating scene, but then i just look at my little boy & realise, i have everything i need & want. He depends on me, & altho i feel lonely when he goes to bed, he needs me here with him.
My love for my son is so undescribable, no man could come close.
You can do this, with the support of friends/family/babyandbump/health professionals. Men come & go as your ex proves.
x

 

[Dezireey]

I agree with Dream, it's just not a good time to be looking for male companions right now. Towards the end of the pregnancy and when baby is born, you won't feel like socialising much and making new male friends or even dating will be in fits and starts ( e.g you can't go out much towards end of pregnancy because you could have the baby and then you won't have time for anything once baby is born)

Best to make some mum friends going through the same thing and then get back onto the dating scene a couple of months to one year after baby is born. Trust me, you won't be lonely when baby arrives, you won't have time nor feel like much male company in the first few months. It's only now, that I have got my old body back and my baby is 1 year old that I have considered dating again. It takes time. Enjoy your baby, forget the men for a bit!