Pregnant.. Any advice to becoming a single mom

[bee1724]

I am 36 weeks pregnant and due any day now. The father Cheated on me more than once and we been seaparated for 2 month now. We are to the point where we dont talk at all. he only texts once in a while to ask about the baby. he says he still wants to be involved in the babys life and help financially but he isnt really involved not going to doctors appt and has not boughten anything for our baby etc... I been soo lonely no one to talk to and starting to become depressed. I live with my parents now I am really nervous about being a single mom and having no income coming in im afraid he may just walk away and ill be left alone with our son and having to rely on my parents to provide for my son..
Any advice for new single mothers to be?

 

[Jade--x]

Sorry hun I'm not a single mum to be, but I am a single mum and I was a single pregnant mum to be. If ever you need to talk to someone feel free to PM me I know how lonely it can feel x

 

[bee1724]

Sorry hun I'm not a single mum to be, but I am a single mum and I was a single pregnant mum to be. If ever you need to talk to someone feel free to PM me I know how lonely it can feel x

Now that ur little one is here does it still bother you as much being a single mommy or once ur LO came its easier to accept? Im just afraid it may bother me more once my little one comes

 

[Mummy1995]

I could have written that myself (minus the cheating part). Big hugs, you aren't alone xx

 

[emeraldbaby]

Same here... Single Mom to be. We will have our hard days, but we will all be ok *hug*

 

[Ersurgeongirl]

I was in the same boat... Now my baby is a week old. Fob hasn't been around or provided monetary support. I will be taking him to court. My parents are so in love with their grandchild that they don't mind helping me for right now. It's going to be okay

 

[Dezireey]

It's easier when your LO arrives. I did have moments in the first few days of birth where I felt a bit heartbroken that FOB wasn't there with me but it really is his loss as he is starting to come around a bit and I know he will regret all this one day. It's easier when LO arrives, 1) because you will be super busy with baby and won't have time to brood on things 2) you will realise what a happy, exciting event it is for YOU and that in some way you don't need to share it with anyone because it's an amazing thing happening to your body etc and how blessed you are, you'll also be so proud of what you made lol and lastly 3) life just changes, priorities change and your outlook should be different as your LO comes first and the more you fall in love, the more you will do things that are best for LO and not yourself e.g getting back with a bad partner is not good for the child

 

[Jade--x]

Sorry hun I'm not a single mum to be, but I am a single mum and I was a single pregnant mum to be. If ever you need to talk to someone feel free to PM me I know how lonely it can feel x

Now that ur little one is here does it still bother you as much being a single mommy or once ur LO came its easier to accept? Im just afraid it may bother me more once my little one comes

No it was much easier once he was here. I liked having the cuddles to myself and not having someone doing everything wrong and stressing me out more, and I was able to have as many pyjama lazy days with my LO as I liked without the stress of trying to make a relationship work at the same time, the last thing I felt like doing was dates or even nights in with a DVD I wanted some quiet me time whenever LO was asleep. Its not easy not having anyone to share the load with and to take turns when LO is waking in the night but its all worth it as soon as they're sleeping through and its much easier to get into a routine when its just the 2 of you x

 

[bee1724]

Sorry hun I'm not a single mum to be, but I am a single mum and I was a single pregnant mum to be. If ever you need to talk to someone feel free to PM me I know how lonely it can feel x

Now that ur little one is here does it still bother you as much being a single mommy or once ur LO came its easier to accept? Im just afraid it may bother me more once my little one comes

No it was much easier once he was here. I liked having the cuddles to myself and not having someone doing everything wrong and stressing me out more, and I was able to have as many pyjama lazy days with my LO as I liked without the stress of trying to make a relationship work at the same time, the last thing I felt like doing was dates or even nights in with a DVD I wanted some quiet me time whenever LO was asleep. Its not easy not having anyone to share the load with and to take turns when LO is waking in the night but its all worth it as soon as they're sleeping through and its much easier to get into a routine when its just the 2 of you x

Thanks this really helps

 

[teal]

I was single mum to be (from when I found out) and I'm now a single mum. It does get easier once your LO is here. Well, it's much harder since you have this little person to look after, but you will feel so much love for your LO you won't care about the father, it will be him who's missing out and his loss.

xx